Anyone with custody battle experience ?

You’re a guy in the State of Louisiana, good luck man

In arky, I think you could get 50/50 custody. Don't know la though

First thing I do is make sure your kid has your last name.

She sounds like garbage, so you'll have full custody in a few years

It’s gonna be up to the mood of the judge.

1. Get a good attorney.
2. Collect all the damning evidence against her that you can.
3. Don’t promise her anything verbally or in writing.
4. Get a vasectomy so this does not happen again.

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Yes she’s salty and claims she will fight me tooth and nail , drag me to court constantly , etc ... based on what grounds ? No clue but she likes to throw out threats ....

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You’ve got an uphill battle on a mountain of butter.


Kid doesn’t have your last name and she never officially lived with you.

All i can say is good luck

Well congrats on the sex at least!

Being unmarried ?

A friend of mine, who lives in the state of Texas had a child with his second wife. The marriage lasted less than a year.

She moved out of state. He has to pay her $1K per month for child support and is still on the hook for the house payment that neither of them live in until the divorce finalizes.

She is seeking half of the equity in the house they bought together (once he is able to list it for sale), along with any interest he made in his retirement accounts while they were married. She also wants half of the equity from his first house. Yes, his first house prior to their marriage.

And here's the kicker. He has to fly and/or drive from Texas to Mississippi in order to see his child. It is 100 % his obligation (she doesn't have to leave the state to even meet him half way) and his only option is to stay in a hotel when visiting his daughter, because he literally spends 2 days total out of an extended weekend traveling. Lastly, he must give 21 days notice to his soon-to-be ex-wife before he can request a visit with her.

I asked him, "what did your attorney do for you?" Because he's paid over $20K thus far for the right to "have all of this."

Good luck.

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Depends on how far the distance is between you two. Unless you’re on drugs or you’re just an bum you’ll get 50/50 custody easily. I just went through it and didn’t even have to go to trial. Judge gave me 50/50 no questions asked

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This was my SO’s experience, as well. His ex wife tried to block 50/50, but she had no reason. He had to pay a great lawyer a lot of money and go to court several times, but the judge sided with him & transitioned to 50/50 over the course of a few months.

His child was a lot older at the time (8). I’m not sure how much of a difference it makes with a toddler. Good luck, and don’t stop fighting.

Man, if that kid had your last name, you were married, had conclusive DNA evidence, and had proof that the mother's only source of income was giving blowjobs for crack, you'd have an uphill battle in this state because you have a dick.

Let make sure not to sugar coat this at all. It's going to be expensive and if she wants to fight, your chances can be pretty slim if you have a dick in family court in the State of Louisiana. Why would the attorney tell you as much if he thought there was a decent chance? They're not in the business of convincing people not to use their services.

If the kid were older maybe you'd have a better shot and if you were married and in the child's life and going through a divorce you'd have slightly more of a chance, but you're talking about trying to get 50/50 custody of a toddler whose mother you're not even married to.

I'm just an a-hole on the internet, though. By all means get a second and third opinion from family law attorneys. Find some that specialize or have some real experience in custody cases, NOT just attorneys that handle divorce cases. After you speak to a couple more of them instead of us assholes, you'll know way better what your realistic chances are.

I hope for the best man, that's a shite sandwich you're eating right now.

And this is why I saved myself for marriage