re: Anyone with custody battle experience ?

Because all things being equal between both parents, most judges will grant primary custody to the mother....at least in LA. The only divorced dads I know that have a 50-50 arrangement is because it was mutually agreed upon by both parents, not court ordered.

Karen Downs Atty Baton Rouge

I fought for, and won custody of our 2 daughters when we divorced. It's a bitter, expensive, and emotionally draining experience. Everybody suffers, but it is doable. You start with the best lawyer that has a lot of experience, and a winning record. And it may not end there. If you end up with custody, expect the hateful ex- to constantly torment you and the child in the future.

You have my sympathy.

You can probably get some type of "joint custody" but that does not mean 50/50. Technically the playing field is supposed to be level but in reality the father goes in to court with two strikes against him.

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Karen Downs Atty Baton Rouge

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I’ll add another testimonial for Karen Downs. Assuming normal circumstances she will get you 50/50. The ones saying you’re fricked either don’t know what they’re talking about or haven’t been to court in the last 10 years

Find the biggest a-hole of an attorney you can find and afford. ...a kinda heartless and inconsiderate mf! Tell them all of the facts of your story and let them go to work. If you don’t, Louisiana is gonna bend you over!

I m so glad I decided to neither marry and have kids, and in your case, freak and have kids.

Happily single and it isn't worth the risk while I view every young man who marries as completely risking everything for pussy.

Learn to use a rubber next time. All it takes is a few seconds.

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How hard of a battle is it gonna be to get 50/50 custody of my little girl ?

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For you to get more ha every other weekend, u gonna need something juicy on her. Drugs, abusive, unfit in some way, not stable. Any of those would work in your favor but more than likely u dont have that on her. So the only chance you have is to suck up to her big time. Earn her trust and get her to agree on split custody. It's your only hope. Good luck man. I'm going through it also and the cards are always stacked against us men in this situation.

You are about to learn the value of a vagina. She will get full custody but somehow 65-70% of your income is going to her to do with as she pleases for the next 18-26 years. She can even use your money to pay her bbc’s bills

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I fought for, and won custody of our 2 daughters when we divorced. It's a bitter, expensive, and emotionally draining experience. Everybody suffers, but it is doable. You start with the best lawyer that has a lot of experience, and a winning record. And it may not end there. If you end up with custody, expect the hateful ex- to constantly torment you and the child in the future. You have my sympathy.

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Everything this guy said!

I won custody on my own after being ripped off by an attorney. Almost ended up in contempt of court because of him. Took that SOB to the FL BAR and won there too.

Anyone can do it because I did, you just have to gut it out. I'm dumb white trash that graduated almost last in my class in Vernon Parish of all places. While not the brightest guy I somehow found some "chest" growing up there. This situation will tell you what you are made of plain and simple. You will have to make a lot of sacrifice to make it work your intestinal fortitude will be tested.

The law is the law and you have to educate yourself on how they apply to you.

1st thing to do is quite asking people what they think. Find someone that will tell you what they "know"
This happened for me in the mediation department. I found "favor" in the eyes of an older woman there she saw I was a sincere young Father attempting to do the right thing. She helped me through the process. I hope you find someone like her to help you as well. Things were pretty bleak for me at this time and I certainly didn't find her or get all the help I needed on my first visit. You have to put the time in.

2nd thing I would encourage you to do is STOP giving money to the mother. Find out where to set up child support and send it to that dept. All states have guidelines to how much a "Baw" has to pay based on the incomes of the parents. Money given directly to the mother "can be" considered a gift and "Baw" will be charged in the "rears" for child support. They can and will go back to the birth of the child and any said support won't me a thing to them. Providing it is not sent through their proper disbursement units, get this fixed like yesterday!

3rd Providing you can get child support and visitation done at the same time. Make sure you are very specific about dates, drop off/ pick up times. Get this etched in stone. Every other holiday every Fathers day each year on your birthday ect.

This is a lifetime experience that sometimes takes years. There is no possible way to sum it all up in a post. You can do this bruh! Pump that chest out. This is part of your legacy like it or not. When it's all over I hope you can stand back and say you gave it your all. I rooting for you!