re: Anybody else deal with anger management and found coping mechanisms?

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I don't know where to start

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You can start by acting like a man!

Exercise, bating, and alcohol. In that order

I was dealing with a bunch of stress a while back, my Dr put me on Wellbutrin and it’s been a miracle cure.

Work, family, elderly parent dying 4 hours away, financial stuff my fuse was short with everyone.

My family had started referring to me as The a-hole.

The folks that said exercise, know what’s up. Get a heavy bag and work it over until you can’t throw a punch. Run fast until you throw up.

Once you get a little older, you’ll realize it’s not personal. Everyone is going through something that you can’t see and so on.

You’ll figure out that treating people with grace and understanding is a better way to get along in life. It will make your life easier.

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You have complete control over your internal state.

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Healthy people are capable of control. The unhealthy are not always capable. This is why we recognize such things as, "Crimes of passion." Generally speaking; we are somewhat sympathetic to people, "not themselves."

Granted, this isn't an excuse to be a rage-fueled maniac. It's an understanding. The OP wants to be in control. He is asking for help. Saying, "Just control yourself" is not very helpful. If it was that easy, he'd have done it by now.

Personality disorders are a real thing, and treating them is complicated. I'd use a multi-varied approach. Diet, sleep, meditation/prayer, etc. Therapy should be on the table for people in fear of losing control of their senses. I am not one to jump to medication. (I think we as a society are far too eager to medicate.) I believe a lot of problematic behavior can be resolved with the aforementioned approach, with medication being part of a last-ditch effort.

I don’t have anger problems so go f yourself.

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My dad was a 100% disciplinarian who would beat my arse if I talked back. Mom was mom, softer, but never overrode dad.


Why were you talking back?

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I didn't, what I was insinuating is in our household something like that was dealt with swiftly and harshly and then not repeated. Far from today's generation of the parents just dealing with it as if they were equals.

Not sure what religion you may be but go to confession.

Catholic churches have several services daily and most places a priest will have confession times 30 minutes before mass.

Make a good one. Think about it. Write it down. Go in an get whatever it is off your chest.

You are likely not sleeping well due to it and it will compound the issue.

Exercise. Pickle ball is blowing up and there are leagues all over the place. Lift weights until exhaustion.

You can try counseling but be reluctant to medication if you can. They will likely recommend something.

Latin Adoration Hymns I relax to while in prayer or saying the Rosary. Some of these are hundreds of years old. I find solice in that link to the past. Some as far back as 500 AD. To think they were listening and praying the same way i am 1500 years ago really grounds me.

You mean being able to visualize choking the shite out-of someone while talking to them kind of anger? The difference in control is whether you act on impulse. Watch who you vent to or with, make sure they don't feed your anger. Take a deep breath. Seek counsel if needed in church or through the private sector. You're half way there because you recognize it. I was lucky to have good people around me.

Give it to God. If you think your going to fix things and find your world, your gonna lose. He does things on his timing.
God will continue to bend you until you submit to his will.