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re: Any Tips for a 4 year old who won't sleep in his own bed?
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:25 am to shel311
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:25 am to shel311
Probably already do this but how about mom or dad kind of chill with the kid until he falls asleep? Maybe that will decrease his anxiety prior to sleeping and "normalize" him for the rest of the night~
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Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:26 am to shel311
1. Make his favorite toy his bedtime toy. He only gets to play with it in his bed at night.
2. Shame him. Treat the other one like the favorite he has probably become. "Why can't you be more like Timmy, Tommy?"
3. Or just keep doing what you are doing. Repetition will work, eventually. I think...
2. Shame him. Treat the other one like the favorite he has probably become. "Why can't you be more like Timmy, Tommy?"
3. Or just keep doing what you are doing. Repetition will work, eventually. I think...
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:26 am to shel311
Stick him in a dog kennel and lock it up.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:26 am to shel311
quote:
one of them is not having it,
Wtf? He's 4
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:27 am to shel311
quote:
problem is it's keeping his brother awake every time he does it.
let brother sleep in your bed so he can get good night's sleep while the brother is having his exorcism.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:27 am to TheAlmightySmash
quote:no TV in their room. No real reason, just never have had one.
Watch tv with them in their room until they fall asleep then just go to your bed
Lately, the wife has been staying in his bed for 10 minutes or so at bedtime til he falls asleep. I also think that's a bad habit to start, but it's her habit, not mine lol.
That being said, that doesn't really help as he'll wake up eventually and come to our room a few times per night.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:27 am to shel311
So without reading I can tell you that it's your wife's fault and you need to lay the hammer down. We have a rule in our house and that is you don't get out of bed until we say you can. You don't sleep in our bed. Ever. Maybe set some rules.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:27 am to tke857
quote:I'm legit stealing this. That they don't know what it means makes it that much funnier.
When my kids did this sort of tempertantrum I would yell at them "We do not negotiate with terrorists!"
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:27 am to shel311
Assuming the twins share a room, seems like you're handling it pretty well.
5 years old is plenty old enough to understand, so I would have some conversations with him well before bed about what's going on and what he needs to do. Turn it into a project that he's in charge of.
5 years old is plenty old enough to understand, so I would have some conversations with him well before bed about what's going on and what he needs to do. Turn it into a project that he's in charge of.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:29 am to CoachChappy
quote:Haven't done enough of this, probably the best thing to try at this time.
Pump up the twin and reward him for every night he stays in his bed. Jealousy will prevail and the other one will get in line. Also, have the "good" twin talk to the "bad" one.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:30 am to lsu480
quote:He hasn't played in about 10 days. And his brother has inherited his play time to double his own.
No video games for a whole weekend
His brother always terrorizes him anway, he's probably sabotaging him at night telling him scary stories to double up on his video game time.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:31 am to shel311
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Haven't done enough of this
positive re-enforcement was a book written by a liberal who's kids became a bunch of shitheads.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:31 am to GeorgeTheGreek
Beat his arse every time he gets out of bed. I mean it. Beat. His. arse.
Lock the door to your room at night. If he comes beating on it, then beat his arse. I mean it. Beat. His. arse.
It's a funny thing about arse beatings. Kids don't like them. They tend to adjust much faster after negative reinforcement. When-or if-your wife complains, tell her she's lucky she's not getting the same dose your kid is for creating this problem.
Again, cliffs: Beat your child's arse when he gets out of bed, comes to your room, or whines about either. Every single time.
He will stop. I assure you. If he doesn't, you're not doing it right.
Does this sound harsh? You bet your @ss it does. Wil it work? You bet your @ss it does.
Lock the door to your room at night. If he comes beating on it, then beat his arse. I mean it. Beat. His. arse.
It's a funny thing about arse beatings. Kids don't like them. They tend to adjust much faster after negative reinforcement. When-or if-your wife complains, tell her she's lucky she's not getting the same dose your kid is for creating this problem.
Again, cliffs: Beat your child's arse when he gets out of bed, comes to your room, or whines about either. Every single time.
He will stop. I assure you. If he doesn't, you're not doing it right.
Does this sound harsh? You bet your @ss it does. Wil it work? You bet your @ss it does.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:34 am to shel311
set up an elaborate closet monster in your room. have it make noise and scare him at night. When asked just say that is your closet monster and he never leaves your room.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:34 am to GRTiger
quote:Yea, good suggestion. He's lost cars and legos and regular old hot wheel cars are his favorite toy ever.
1. Make his favorite toy his bedtime toy. He only gets to play with it in his bed at night
Don't get me wrong, I won't give in but I do feel really bad as we're taking away everything he likes but I tend to think he's legit having anxiety over it. But at the same time, I gotta fix it somehow. Since he can't play with cars now, letting him take a few to bed at night may help.
quote:Definitely do this. Picked them up from daycare yesterday, got a milkshake only for the good one.
2. Shame him. Treat the other one like the favorite he has probably become. "Why can't you be more like Timmy, Tommy?"
quote:Probably right, just gotta deal with this frustration in the meantime.
3. Or just keep doing what you are doing. Repetition will work, eventually. I think...
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:34 am to shel311
I understand but you don't just expect them to break the habit instantly
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:35 am to shel311
He just moved into a new house. He's 4. Chill out and be the parent. He will grow out of it and be whipping your arse before you know it. Kids that age sometimes can't verbalize their emotions. He probably thinks you are going to leave him again like you left them in Florida for 4 months. They don't understand what's going on.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:36 am to Chad504boy
quote:You laugh, but I told my wife at around 4am last night that that is the next step. I probably won't actually do it but for a night, man that would piss him off.
let brother sleep in your bed so he can get good night's sleep while the brother is having his exorcism.
It's strange, he's such a good kid, rarely cries. But your exorcism line is on point, that's exactly what it sounds like at its worse. Not good!!!
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:36 am to Clark W Griswold
quote:That's always been the rule in my house...at least when I'm there.
We have a rule in our house and that is you don't get out of bed until we say you can. You don't sleep in our bed. Ever. Maybe set some rules.
Posted on 5/17/16 at 11:37 am to GFunk
quote:
Beat. His. arse
I mean, billions of kids learn to sleep in their own bed, and other behaviors, through other means. But if that's the only method that works for you, or at least the only one you know how to implement, on your 4 year old, I guess do what comes naturally.
I'm sure he'll be fine...
This post was edited on 5/17/16 at 11:38 am
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