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re: Any of you ever think you were with "the one" then broke it off?
Posted on 3/30/24 at 10:47 pm to Thundercles
Posted on 3/30/24 at 10:47 pm to Thundercles
Dated a girl for three years in college thinking she was the one. I went off to the army and when I came home I felt different about things. I wanted to start grad school and she disagreed… wanted to get married. I decided to call it off and broke up with her.
A few months later I started grad school and met a beautiful small town girl that was a freshman. We dated for three years and have been happily married for 48 years. We have two grown sons and four grandkids. She is definitely “the one” for me. We’re best friends and have always enjoyed each others company. I’m a blessed man.
A few months later I started grad school and met a beautiful small town girl that was a freshman. We dated for three years and have been happily married for 48 years. We have two grown sons and four grandkids. She is definitely “the one” for me. We’re best friends and have always enjoyed each others company. I’m a blessed man.
Posted on 3/30/24 at 10:57 pm to lsufanva
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22 years later we are very close and i work for her and her husband. She even has joint custody of my third child that isnt hers.
All this sounds kind of cucky. Where is the 3rd child’s bio mom? Did she agree to the custody thing. All that sounds insane.
Posted on 3/30/24 at 10:58 pm to AUstar
I want to know her race and background. That sounds like shite, but you didn't marry her, so winning. I don't dwell on this kind of shite, because who we, and the women are, at 20, 25, 30, 35, are different people. Nobody is the one until it's the time for both of you, at the same time.
Posted on 3/30/24 at 11:02 pm to Thundercles
This is the source of nearly all of my favorite country music songs.
Posted on 3/30/24 at 11:07 pm to bad93ex
But nobody mentioned a dog or a truck.
Posted on 3/30/24 at 11:08 pm to Jeb Busch Lite
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She’s fat now
She’s fat now. She also used to be fat, but she’s fat now, too.
Posted on 3/30/24 at 11:09 pm to TN Tygah
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but she’s fat now, too.
I'm more concerned with current enthusiasm, and the lack of bitching at me.
Posted on 3/31/24 at 1:17 am to Jor Jor The Dinosaur
Your boy has mommy issues.
Posted on 3/31/24 at 1:47 am to Thundercles
Was in a relationship with a quality girl in college. Wound up leaving my school to move away to another school. Had second thoughts about leaving her behind after moving. It dawned on me that there was nothing stopping me from just marrying this girl--first time I had considered that with a girl. She started to talk about moving to school with me. My feelings wound up fading. Not sure what it was because it didn't make logical sense. Attractive, intelligent, ambitious, and a good person. I just stopped feeling it. I wound up breaking it off in a way that she deserved better than.
I wound up finding "the one" a couple of years later, and we've been together 23 years now. From my limited knowledge, the other girl retained all her positive qualities. I think she may have married and divorced. Not certain. She'll make some guy out there a great wife.
I wound up finding "the one" a couple of years later, and we've been together 23 years now. From my limited knowledge, the other girl retained all her positive qualities. I think she may have married and divorced. Not certain. She'll make some guy out there a great wife.
This post was edited on 3/31/24 at 1:49 am
Posted on 3/31/24 at 2:42 am to Thundercles
She had mental health issues and serious anxieties that I did not initially understand.
When I broke it off with her, I felt like part of me was missing. It was like I'd cut off my own arm.
When I broke it off with her, I felt like part of me was missing. It was like I'd cut off my own arm.
This post was edited on 3/31/24 at 11:30 am
Posted on 3/31/24 at 8:01 am to Havoc
yeah - in hindsight, it was stupid to feel that way. it was my 1st real relationship that was serious - we were engaged at the time.
i guess in her view I didn't do enough for her, it is what it is.
BUT, after it ended like it did, I took it pretty hard. it is silly to look back at those feelings now, but at the time it was difficult.
i guess in her view I didn't do enough for her, it is what it is.
BUT, after it ended like it did, I took it pretty hard. it is silly to look back at those feelings now, but at the time it was difficult.
Posted on 3/31/24 at 8:18 am to cypresstiger
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Yes, she did the break up. I was crushed and miserable and bitter for a long time.
Turns out, she did me a favor, and I found the real “one”.
Ditto
Posted on 3/31/24 at 9:41 am to Thundercles
Yep. I despise her. And sometimes I miss her.
Posted on 3/31/24 at 9:48 am to Thundercles
There is no "the one". Under the right circumstances anyone can be "the one".
Posted on 3/31/24 at 10:18 am to tiggerthetooth
Usually “the one” is just another person with a mutual need. Those are the people we feel a connection with. Most often it is our desire to not be alone. And also our need to procreate.
Posted on 3/31/24 at 11:06 am to Thundercles
Yep thought my ex wife was “the one.”
It was a wild roller coaster ride but I never once asked her to change as my happiness has never been dependent on anyone else.
Long story short, I finally had all I could take and left the house for good last April while she was gone.
Turns out it was all projection on her end as every single time she got in one of her moods, it was actually HER that was doing all the things she accused ME of.
She would say “I need this, this and this from you in order to feel safe.” Turns out, “feeling SAFE” to her meant being able to control and manipulate me. I just wouldn’t fall in line.
It was a wild roller coaster ride but I never once asked her to change as my happiness has never been dependent on anyone else.
Long story short, I finally had all I could take and left the house for good last April while she was gone.
Turns out it was all projection on her end as every single time she got in one of her moods, it was actually HER that was doing all the things she accused ME of.
She would say “I need this, this and this from you in order to feel safe.” Turns out, “feeling SAFE” to her meant being able to control and manipulate me. I just wouldn’t fall in line.
Posted on 3/31/24 at 1:55 pm to Thundercles
Last year. Narcissism is a killer. Could type a Tolstoy novel about how much I love her…still talk with her girls every day.
I’m not perfect. But damn do I not feel like-despite all of our issues-that she will always be the one that got away.
I’m not perfect. But damn do I not feel like-despite all of our issues-that she will always be the one that got away.
Posted on 3/31/24 at 4:37 pm to Loup
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We'd been together 1.5 years and she told me we were done if we weren't engaged in 6 months.
If any of the younger guys are reading this, this behaviour is a huge red flag. Engagement ultimatums are bad news. Cut and run the minute this happens. You have someone that is in love with being in love, not in love with you.
Posted on 3/31/24 at 7:33 pm to Tigahs24Seven
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Broke up with "the [same] one" twice.
Married 35 years (third time was the charm).
You married the same "third" "one"?
Broke up with current wife twice while dating.
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