re: Any advice for married man who wants sex?

So there is no joy in Mudville?

Work out
Make more money
Fix shite
Listen better (or pretend to)
Teach the kids some shite

If she’s still a shitty wife, then it’s time for hookers.

I’d suggest heeding the wise words of Eddie Rabbit in his hit song Step By Step.

1st Step - ask her out and treat her like a lady
2nd step - tell her she’s the one you’re dreaming of
3rd step - take her in your arms and never let her go

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Months??? Was she in a terrible accident or recently have a child? That's would be the only legitimate excuse.

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Sadly, not really. There is a thing called sexual anorexia. Unless physical dysfunction is present (or unknown and untreated), for women 9 times out of 10, it is because an emotional need is not being met or satisfied by the husband. In other words, if no dysfunction, there is some other shite that is going on and preventing a connection.

The best thing anyone can do is work on themselves. Get yourself physically better. That doesn’t mean you have to be chiseled out. It just means becoming the best you can be physically. It will differ for everyone. Get yourself intellectually better. Read a book. Listen to a podcast. Learn more about whatever interests you. Get yourself emotionally better. This means focusing on you and what you can control. And lastly, get yourself spiritually better. Like the first one (physically), this will differ for everyone. Maybe it’s going to church, going to confession, reading a daily devotional, etc.

These alone will help you become the best you can be in order to help your marriage the best fighting chance.

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You need to explain how you FEEL and not attack your spouse. Start off your sentences with, “I feel ...” and not “You ...”

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Lay in bed and start jacking off.

Guilt her into participation.

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My wife encourages it as she sleeps facing away from me. Too weird for me, I have to go to another room.

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I was in your situation with my last girlfriend, whom I was with for over 8 years. We just kinda stopped trying. New GF and I have been together about 6 months, and she is all about it. Average 2-3 times per weekend, and it's fun, kinky sex. Shower, countertop, sofa, outside, lingerie, toys, you. name it. Exactly what I was looking for.

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Comparing 8 years to 6 months is not fair or the same. You’re in the beginning stages of a relationship. Lust, infatuation, etc. are all prevalent right now. In other words, it’s a very shallow time (as it should be).

8 years should look and feel different. Deeper, stronger connection, etc. Unfortunately, other shite can pop up during that time (mostly selfishness) as well and cause major communication issues, thus each one putting up a “wall” without even knowing it. And that alone can kill the sexy time.

Start working out more and maintain a stone face through her crying fits. She’ll shape up real quick.

Go get a side piece

If it makes you feel better, one of y’all is having sex