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re: A stepdad with your child
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:20 am to Globetrotter747
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:20 am to Globetrotter747
I would not be happy with it but I would be happy with a man who is not my child’s father treating him well
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Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:20 am to Globetrotter747
Let’s be real, you’re bothered by the fact that ole dude is railing your ex.
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:20 am to Globetrotter747
Only an insecure man would have an issue with their ex's significant other treating their child as his own. Stop being a petty little bitch and be happy your ex wife has brought a good person into your child's life.
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:21 am to jcaz
My daughter's step-dad works with her softball pitching and batting practice a few times a week. That's a thing I wish I could do more of.
But I think it's cool and would much rather this than the alternative of an a-hole indifferent step parent. And she gets better at softball because of it.
OP is being gay about this unless its a reflection of his own failures as a father.
But I think it's cool and would much rather this than the alternative of an a-hole indifferent step parent. And she gets better at softball because of it.
OP is being gay about this unless its a reflection of his own failures as a father.
This post was edited on 5/19/19 at 10:36 am
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:22 am to mikelbr
quote:do y'all hook up and get your ex to watch?
daughter's step-dad
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:25 am to shutterspeed
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This would be my biggest reason to avoid divorce as a married man with a child
There were probably times my wife and I were on the brink, but I couldn't stomach the fact of (a) not seeing my young children every day and (b) having another man play any sort of fatherly role in their lives. I realized that arguments my wife and I would have were immaterial to the bigger picture, caring for and raising our kids.
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:25 am to Cosmo
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This situation sounds trashy
There's actually a lot more to it.
Man #1 (who I referred to in my original post) has three kids and is divorced from Woman #1.
Woman #1 is with Man #2 (who I don't think has a kid) and it's getting serious.
Man #1 is now dating Woman #2, who has three young kids of her own.
Woman #2 is divorced from Man #3, who is now engaged to Woman #3 (who has a son of her own).
All of these people live in the same small town.
This post was edited on 5/19/19 at 10:26 am
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:26 am to Globetrotter747
At first it bothered me a lot...A LOT. I'm very active in my daughter's life and there is no need for a replacement dad.
After enough time passed, I came to feel lucky that he loved my daughter. The alternative is actually much worse.
I do, however, get some shameless satisfaction when she draws pictures of her family and he isn't included. The pics are all of me, her mom, her, and her two half-siblings. That guy never makes the cut.
Blended family situations can be hard as hell
After enough time passed, I came to feel lucky that he loved my daughter. The alternative is actually much worse.
I do, however, get some shameless satisfaction when she draws pictures of her family and he isn't included. The pics are all of me, her mom, her, and her two half-siblings. That guy never makes the cut.
Blended family situations can be hard as hell
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:30 am to dbuchanon
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physically discipline
I put up with a lot more shite than I normally would in our marriage because of this.. you always see step dads or bf killing children on the news. I'd be in jail in a heart beat.. glad my youngest is 11 now.
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:32 am to Globetrotter747
Wanna know how you don’t end up with your kids having a stepdad? Make better decisions on who to marry. Most men say women change but in all reality they know who they are before marrying them.
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:34 am to Globetrotter747
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If you saw pictures on social media of your young son hoisted on the shoulders of another man or on a fishing trip, etc., how would you feel about it?
This is one of the things a dad has to think about during the divorce process. I think a lot of them though are thinking “I’m about to get so much arse...” but there’s some pretty dirty sides of the divorce coin.
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:34 am to ipodking
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Only an insecure man would have an issue with their ex's significant other treating their child as his own. Stop being a petty little bitch and be happy your ex wife has brought a good person into your child's life.
it's all fun and games until the daughter gets married and her step father does the father-daughter dance while her bio dad is confused as he watches
i have actually seen this happen
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:34 am to Globetrotter747
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I don't have children, but I tend to think it would bother me. I know a guy whose ex has a new BF and she posts lots of pics on Facebook with the three of them together.
Depends on if you're a real man who cares about his kids or not. My wife's ex couldn't care less because he never cared about my stepdaughter in the first place.
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:35 am to SlowFlowPro
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it's all fun and games until the daughter gets married and her step father does the father-daughter dance while her bio dad is confused as he watches
Did the stepdad pay for the wedding?
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:35 am to Kentucker
They do. If they don’t then it’s their fault.
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:36 am to Globetrotter747
Why would I be threatened by a cuckold lol
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:40 am to SouthEndzoneTiger
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I’m a step dad. Met my current wife when her son was 8. His dad is very much in his life so I kept my role in check and just tried to be an “extra” influence when needed. The only really uncomfortable part was that I was athletic and into sports and his dad wasn’t. So we went to the ballpark and played catch more than he and his dad. Then I started coaching his little league baseball team. His dad came to the games and practices and I always felt like I was taking away something from him. It all worked out though. Kid is 18 now and in the military. Me and the dad get along
Because you acted like 2 mature adults and realized that you both cared about your son and the best thing for him was for the two of you to both be involved and support him. Too bad more people can’t be like this.
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:41 am to el Gaucho
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Why would I be threatened by a cuckold lol
That definition swings both ways.
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:43 am to efrad
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You'd be selfish if you let jealousy get in the way of a man being a man and actually putting in effort to help raise a child right
Posted on 5/19/19 at 10:57 am to Globetrotter747
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If you saw pictures on social media of your young son hoisted on the shoulders of another man or on a fishing trip, etc.
I’m not a fan of the idea of random boyfriends in and out of the picture.... but if a long term stable situation I think it’s probably about the best you could hope for here, no? I’d hope that when with mom they are well cared for and in a good and supportive environment.
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