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What to do for neighbor who has gone above and beyond
Posted on 8/16/24 at 3:16 pm
Posted on 8/16/24 at 3:16 pm
My dad died last year and my mom moved into an assisted living facility. Their neighbor found a buyer for the house (a friend of hers... she's not a real estate agent) and has sold a lot of items out of it. She has saved me so much time, money, and energy. I don't even know how to begin to repay her. I've given her items that she wanted, but that just doesn't seem like enough.
What would be an appropriate gesture?
What would be an appropriate gesture?
Posted on 8/16/24 at 3:21 pm to TigerGrl73
Cut them a check for a few grand? You can gift someone up to $18,000 a year.
Set up a local scholarship in their name?
Set up a local scholarship in their name?
This post was edited on 8/16/24 at 3:23 pm
Posted on 8/16/24 at 3:24 pm to BigApple
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Cut them a check for a few grand?
That is the direction I was going. Just don't want the real estate commission knocking down our doors

Posted on 8/16/24 at 6:06 pm to TigerGrl73
Maybe a donation in their name as an honor
Posted on 8/16/24 at 6:23 pm to TigerGrl73
She already got to choose her new neighbor.
A gift card to a nice restaurant maybe.
A gift card to a nice restaurant maybe.
Posted on 8/16/24 at 6:26 pm to TigerGrl73
quote:
That is the direction I was going. Just don't want the real estate commission knocking down our doors
Gift her some cash and call it a day.
Posted on 8/16/24 at 7:02 pm to BigApple
quote:And there are creative, diplomatic "non actual cash" ways to do this - like a big value Amazon card or even travel credit with an agency/airline/cruise line, etc.
Cut them a check for a few grand? You can gift someone up to $18,000 a year.
Posted on 8/17/24 at 7:29 am to TigerGrl73
Wow that is a tricky question. Is she well off or struggling? IS she retired or still working? If she is retired she maybe just bored and was looking for something to do. You did let her have stuff. Maybe you could see if she needs something done to her house.
Posted on 8/17/24 at 7:52 am to TigerGrl73
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That is the direction I was going. Just don't want the real estate commission knocking down our doors.
Trust me, they’re not the IRS or FBI. How would they know anything about it?
There were a number of good people who helped me when I was dealing with my uncle’s property after his death. I gave some money and others gift certificates to plays and nice restaurants. One lady, I’m making a donation to an organization in her name.
Just do what you feel is appropriate, whether it’s direct payment, a donation to their favorite charity, a scholarship in their name, etc. The amount or type isn’t as important as them knowing just how much you appreciate them.

Posted on 8/17/24 at 8:00 am to leeman101
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Maybe you could see if she needs something done to her house.
This is a great idea, especially if you take care of everything from start to finish on the project
Posted on 8/17/24 at 9:06 am to TigerGrl73
Let her borrow your TD login, and ban OweO. It would make her day.
Posted on 8/17/24 at 10:22 am to TigerGrl73
That happened to me and my brother after our mom died in 2021. A neighbor sent a buyer our way and the process was seamless. Mom had a nice crystal vase collection that the lady had complimented her on over the years so, we gave that to her and took her and her husband to lunch at a nice restaurant.
Posted on 8/17/24 at 11:03 am to TigerGrl73
Send her some nice flowers and a thank you card in addition to the gift cards, cash, etc. folks have suggested.
Posted on 8/17/24 at 8:30 pm to TigerGrl73
Does she like to travel? Maybe a vacation package or cruise?
Posted on 8/17/24 at 8:41 pm to TigerGrl73
If you were planning on giving money then a weekend getaway might mean something to them.
Something that will keep on giving like a one year subscription to Audible if they like books or a Wal-Mart grocery delivery subscription for a year.
Something that will keep on giving like a one year subscription to Audible if they like books or a Wal-Mart grocery delivery subscription for a year.
Posted on 8/19/24 at 9:35 am to TigerGrl73
A nice thank you card, and bring them out or have them over for a nice dinner. Good people like to do nice things for others just because it makes them feel good. I think monetary compensation is unnecessary and awkward in this situation.
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