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Asking for Money in lieu of wedding registry
Posted on 4/6/14 at 12:26 pm
Posted on 4/6/14 at 12:26 pm
I understand that to some this is taboo, but my fiancé and I already live together and have more than enough junk. Is it alright to ask for money to go towards things like honeymoon, first home, and stuff of that nature?
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Posted on 4/6/14 at 12:40 pm to bryken89
I'd ask for gift cards before I ask for just cash.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 12:47 pm to bryken89
My buddy did this. I didn't give him shite.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 12:54 pm to bryken89
See the problems that arise when living in sin!!
Just kidding. I have had people do that and it makes you think, WTF. Just did gift cards though. One exception was I had a cousin that was marrying a Brit. After the wedding they were moving to England. They wanted $$ and gift cards. Made sense.
Just kidding. I have had people do that and it makes you think, WTF. Just did gift cards though. One exception was I had a cousin that was marrying a Brit. After the wedding they were moving to England. They wanted $$ and gift cards. Made sense.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 1:18 pm to bryken89
I don't have an issue with it, but expect some grumbles from a solid number of people in your life, whether they tell them to you or not.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 1:43 pm to Joshjrn
Some places gift return only for credit. Other places for cash. Only register at places that you can return stuff for cash. My wife and I brought in 2 carts full of crap back to bed bath and beyond and walked out with $1800.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 2:18 pm to RocktownHog52
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Some places gift return only for credit. Other places for cash. Only register at places that you can return stuff for cash. My wife and I brought in 2 carts full of crap back to bed bath and beyond and walked out with $1800.
This I the correct answer. More legwork on your part but it doesn't put any of your invitees off.
I personally love cash a a gift. The majority of gifts people buy for each other is absolute space-wasting garbage. But people are hard wired to frown upon cash so it is what it is.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 2:28 pm to ZereauxSum
I got married last month and we got about 5 serving trays.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 2:39 pm to ZereauxSum
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I personally love cash a a gift. The majority of gifts people buy for each other is absolute space-wasting garbage. But people are hard wired to frown upon cash so it is what it is.
Then register for the right items rather than 'space-wasting garbage'. This is an easy solution.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 2:54 pm to bryken89
Posted on 4/6/14 at 3:10 pm to bryken89
Instead of putting a "registered at" card in the invitation just give directions on how to make a paypal deposit
Trashy.....
Trashy.....
Posted on 4/6/14 at 3:11 pm to lynxcat
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Then register for the right items rather than 'space-wasting garbage'. This is an easy solution.
I'm speaking about gift giving in general.
And as for a wedding, what if I don't yet have a good idea what I want to do with the new space? What if I only plan to rent an apartment for 6 months?
Cash is a whole lot simpler than coming up with a list of things that I may or may not want in a few months.
Posted on 4/6/14 at 4:43 pm to bryken89
I personally don't like it, but from Emily Post, generally considered an etiquette expert.
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“Registering” for Cash
It has always been acceptable to give cash (or a check) to the bride and groom; it is also now okay for the couple to signal that gifts of money would be welcome. As with registries, give this information out by word of mouth: “Of course we would love anything you get us, but we could really use help with a down-payment on our first home.” It’s okay to say “cash,” but if that makes you uncomfortable, “donation,” “help,” or “contribution” are all good substitutes. While there are websites that help to facilitate cash gifts, it’s best to have at least one other online registry as well, as many guests may not feel comfortable having no traditional gift options to chose from. Just remember: in the end, the choice of gift is always up to the giver"
LINK
“Registering” for Cash
It has always been acceptable to give cash (or a check) to the bride and groom; it is also now okay for the couple to signal that gifts of money would be welcome. As with registries, give this information out by word of mouth: “Of course we would love anything you get us, but we could really use help with a down-payment on our first home.” It’s okay to say “cash,” but if that makes you uncomfortable, “donation,” “help,” or “contribution” are all good substitutes. While there are websites that help to facilitate cash gifts, it’s best to have at least one other online registry as well, as many guests may not feel comfortable having no traditional gift options to chose from. Just remember: in the end, the choice of gift is always up to the giver"
Posted on 4/6/14 at 4:52 pm to TigerAlum1982
Just register for a bunch of stuff from BBY. They'll give you cash for anything you return on the registry
Posted on 4/6/14 at 9:04 pm to bryken89
It's trashy to ask for money. Just say no gifts. What is this world coming to?
Posted on 4/6/14 at 9:41 pm to bryken89
No reason for a big wedding if you're already living together.
And asking for cash is definitely frowned upon
And asking for cash is definitely frowned upon
Posted on 4/6/14 at 9:52 pm to ZereauxSum
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And as for a wedding, what if I don't yet have a good idea what I want to do with the new space? What if I only plan to rent an apartment for 6 months?
Because things like bedding and kitchen ware are constants regardless.
Posted on 4/7/14 at 9:49 am to bryken89
i have no problem with this, my wife hates the idea. she has a good friend getting married and they have a very small registry and want everyone to give them cash to pay for the over the top honeymoon they cant afford otherwise. i told her the other night just give them the cash they want she said hell no! women and there damn wedding principles
Posted on 4/7/14 at 10:03 am to yellowfin
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No reason for a big wedding if you're already living together.
And asking for cash is definitely frowned upon
Wedding registries were designed people getting married at 22, who literally didn't own pots or pans. It was kind of a cultural wealth transfer to young people to get them on their feet.
Now that it's more common for people to stay single until they're 30+, registries don't make sense. "Send me money so I can go to Tahiti/fully fund my Roth IRA" just isn't quite the same.
Posted on 4/7/14 at 10:58 am to bryken89
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Asking for money in lieu of wedding registry
If this is your goal, you need to just go to the courthouse and get married and bypass the big wedding.
Rude.
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