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Relationship Advice / PI Recs?
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:48 pm
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:48 pm
Happy gameday eve my friends!
I am having some relationship and trust issues and I need to vent and maybe get some advice. About 6 months ago my gf (no pics but she's about an 8 lol) moved into my house, where we have been living together full time.
We dated for about 3 months before the move but she got kicked out of her parents house (long story) and we decided it was time to take the plunge to cohabit. Things were great for a 2 months or so, but since then things haven't been quite the same.
She's been staying away at "friends" houses for "girls nights" at least one night a week, and goes for "walks" for like 2 hours at a time, sometimes a few times a week. All of this paired with a decreased drive has my head really spinning.. The secks has become less and less frequent. The last time we did it August 18 (I remember because it was day of friends birthday). Always an excuse. I'm tired. My tummy hurts. Have a headache. Etc.
It's hard for me to feel like I'm not being used. I pay for the entire house, utilities, groceries, meals out. Everything. I just feel like there has to be more to the story.
She's ensured me there's nothing wrong, but again, things still feel off to the point where I think there could be another guy. Obviously she has denied this when confronted.
I've been thinking about hiring a private investigator to follow around to put my concerns to rest. Does anyone have any advice? I do love her more than anything, but it's hard to take our relationship to the next level with all of the trust issues. I just don't want to be played like a fool.
Is this a good idea? Does anyone have a recommendation for good PI? I live on Northshore, if that helps.
Thanks all!

I am having some relationship and trust issues and I need to vent and maybe get some advice. About 6 months ago my gf (no pics but she's about an 8 lol) moved into my house, where we have been living together full time.
We dated for about 3 months before the move but she got kicked out of her parents house (long story) and we decided it was time to take the plunge to cohabit. Things were great for a 2 months or so, but since then things haven't been quite the same.
She's been staying away at "friends" houses for "girls nights" at least one night a week, and goes for "walks" for like 2 hours at a time, sometimes a few times a week. All of this paired with a decreased drive has my head really spinning.. The secks has become less and less frequent. The last time we did it August 18 (I remember because it was day of friends birthday). Always an excuse. I'm tired. My tummy hurts. Have a headache. Etc.
It's hard for me to feel like I'm not being used. I pay for the entire house, utilities, groceries, meals out. Everything. I just feel like there has to be more to the story.
She's ensured me there's nothing wrong, but again, things still feel off to the point where I think there could be another guy. Obviously she has denied this when confronted.
I've been thinking about hiring a private investigator to follow around to put my concerns to rest. Does anyone have any advice? I do love her more than anything, but it's hard to take our relationship to the next level with all of the trust issues. I just don't want to be played like a fool.
Is this a good idea? Does anyone have a recommendation for good PI? I live on Northshore, if that helps.
Thanks all!
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:48 pm to AlexBillings

This post was edited on 9/24/21 at 12:54 pm
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:48 pm to AlexBillings
Let’s fricking goooooooo
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:49 pm to AlexBillings
quote:
We dated for about 3 months before the move but she got kicked out of her parents house (long story) and we decided it was time to take the plunge to cohabit. Things were great for a 2 months or so, but since then things haven't been quite the same.
She's been staying away at "friends" houses for "girls nights" at least one night a week, and goes for "walks" for like 2 hours at a time, sometimes a few times a week. All of this paired with a decreased drive has my head really spinning.. The secks has become less and less frequent. The last time we did it August 18 (I remember because it was day of friends birthday). Always an excuse. I'm tired. My tummy hurts. Have a headache. Etc.
It's hard for me to feel like I'm not being used. I pay for the entire house, utilities, groceries, meals out. Everything. I just feel like there has to be more to the story.
She's ensured me there's nothing wrong, but again, things still feel off to the point where I think there could be another guy. Obviously she has denied this when confronted.
I've been thinking about hiring a private investigator to follow around to put my concerns to rest. Does anyone have any advice? I do love her more than anything, but it's hard to take our relationship to the next level with all of the trust issues. I just don't want to be played like a fool.
Is this a good idea? Does anyone have a recommendation for good PI? I live on Northshore, if that helps.
Thanks all!

Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:50 pm to AlexBillings
Sounds like you have a roommate who’s not contributing and being a leech
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:50 pm to AlexBillings
Well, you definitely came to the right place.
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:50 pm to AlexBillings
You've come to the right place.
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:51 pm to AlexBillings
quote:
I've been thinking about hiring a private investigator
Save your money and break up with her. She's fooling around on you.
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:51 pm to AlexBillings
You moved in together before you were married. This happens when you do that.
You don’t trust her.
Time to split.
Kick her out and do it the right way next time.
You don’t trust her.
Time to split.
Kick her out and do it the right way next time.
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:51 pm to AlexBillings
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we decided it was time to take the plunge to cohabit.
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but since then things haven't been quite the same.
quote:
decreased drive
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The secks has become less and less frequent.
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lways an excuse. I'm tired. My tummy hurts. Have a headache. Etc.
Sounds like you got married and forgot.
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:53 pm to AlexBillings
quote:
I've been thinking about hiring a private investigator to follow around to put my concerns to rest. Does anyone have any advice?
You’re relationship is finished. Break up with her and move on.
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:54 pm to AlexBillings
quote:
no pics but she's about an 8 lol
bullshite unless pics
we are the ones to decide this
This post was edited on 9/24/21 at 12:56 pm
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:54 pm to AlexBillings
Have you tried talking to her about it? The worst she could do is blow up and leave, which might be doing you a favor long term. Why is she not contributing to the financials? I don't think I could be OK with that ever.
This post was edited on 9/24/21 at 12:56 pm
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:54 pm to DemonKA3268
If you are in a relationship here you feel like you need to hire one, you are not in the right relationship. Especially if it’s your house. Cut your ties and move on. Right now is as good as it’s going to get.
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:56 pm to AlexBillings
Yeah....someone else is hitting that. Put her back in the street where you found her.
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:57 pm to andwesway
Jody is balls deep in your girl at these girls night and why she might be exercising for 2 hours on her walks, it damn sure ain’t from walking.
This post was edited on 9/24/21 at 12:58 pm
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:57 pm to AlexBillings
quote:
It's hard for me to feel like I'm not being used. I pay for the entire house, utilities, groceries, meals out.
you're being used.
you've been dating this girl for a few months. you can make a clean break and find a woman who treats you right. unless she has 4 titties she ain't anything special.
This post was edited on 9/24/21 at 12:58 pm
Posted on 9/24/21 at 12:59 pm to AlexBillings
This thread will surely get me through the day. Thanks OP.
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