re: Marriage/sex guidance

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If you wanna spice it up, you have to seduce her. Play like you are still dating and it’s still new and fun. Make it a date night, cook together, open some good wine, put some music on. Set the mood and then make the whole experience foreplay, like a tango of back and forth, giving in and then stepping back. Create tension. Make her want it.

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And then...........................................

Start saving up for a legit divorce attorney, if you get married you will probably need one. Good luck my man.

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God gave you 2 hands and 1 dick for a reason.

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Wut

Do not marry this woman. You are due for many years of misery. Her libido will not increase. Before you know it her wild sexy will be a quickie.

PIIHB

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I'm sure I'll get downvoted here, but this is what worked for me.

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You are dead on accurate, I was 45 years old when I finally realized nice guys finish last.

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I remember a while back Tyga Woods was not gonna have sex again until his wife initiated. I think that lasted a week.

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Ive made that threat too, yeah right.

But if this in some way affects those instagram threads he does, i will find you.

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Shut. The. frick. Up. Stop talking to your fiance about sex or your feelings. Stop talking to her about anything at all unless it's fun, flirty, or sexual. Don't complain to her. Don't tell her you're unhappy. Don't respond to any nagging or disapproval.

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The rest of your post is ok I guess, but this is just horrible advice

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The rest of your post is ok I guess, but this is just horrible advice

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You really can't show any weakness around a woman though. She'll make you regret it, every time. If you must show any kind of negative emotion, at least turn it into rage or righteous indignation or something.

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Yes and 3

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You’ve been dating 4 years and your three year old child was planned?

Doesn’t add up man. How old are y’all?

You’re not married yet. Best advice anyone can give you, especially those of us happily married, is that marriage solves nothing.

In fact, marriage makes relationships more stressful and magnifies small problems. Without a strong foundation to build on, a marriage will crumble.

If you dated well and vetted your partner correctly, then I contend there is not a better thing on this planet than a happy and successful marriage. But it’s not easy. Marriage takes work and it takes love and without both of those in place beforehand, you’re fighting a brutal uphill battle.

If you’re unhappy in the bedroom and unable to talk to your wife and unable to compromise, delay your wedding.

On a more real and OT approved advice note :

If you’re truly making your wife happy in the bedroom she’ll be open to whatever you want and if you’re satisfying her completely, she’ll be open to things you like.

If she never initiates, doesn’t seem to enjoy it, and doesn’t seem to enjoy you, you’re doing something wrong.

And the old bullshite narrative of “‘marriage and kids kills your sex life” is only true for couples who were miserable before any of that.