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How do you handle a "Free Time Imbalance? in a relationship?
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:41 am
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:41 am
And I mean specifically when both parties are working (this isn't about working v. SAHM / housewifing).
Case in point, my gf told me about some friends of her's that are both professionals but one is self employed and one is an employee. The employee partner got upset that the self-employed partner got day drunk one day when the self employed partner closed a big deal and had a clear calendar. I asked what was so wrong (b/c in my mind, it's that person's business/schedule) and I was informed that it wasn't fair that one got to skip work while the other one worked.
That's the "free time imbalance" i referenced in the subject. Basically one party has more flexibility or less work demands and ends up with much more free time as a result.
So this got me to thinking about how this relates to relationships, generally (similar to this thread I made a while back). I actually did a google search and didn't see much about this specifically, but I imagine my search terms are the reason for that failure.
Do you see the couple's time as shared, so the partner who has more free time has an obligation to use that free time towards mutual interests/needs? Or is that time the individual partner's and the mutual time should be split evenly between the partners? Does an economic imbalance change your opinion? If the partner with free time makes more money, can this ever escape utter jealousy long term?
Case in point, my gf told me about some friends of her's that are both professionals but one is self employed and one is an employee. The employee partner got upset that the self-employed partner got day drunk one day when the self employed partner closed a big deal and had a clear calendar. I asked what was so wrong (b/c in my mind, it's that person's business/schedule) and I was informed that it wasn't fair that one got to skip work while the other one worked.
That's the "free time imbalance" i referenced in the subject. Basically one party has more flexibility or less work demands and ends up with much more free time as a result.
So this got me to thinking about how this relates to relationships, generally (similar to this thread I made a while back). I actually did a google search and didn't see much about this specifically, but I imagine my search terms are the reason for that failure.
Do you see the couple's time as shared, so the partner who has more free time has an obligation to use that free time towards mutual interests/needs? Or is that time the individual partner's and the mutual time should be split evenly between the partners? Does an economic imbalance change your opinion? If the partner with free time makes more money, can this ever escape utter jealousy long term?
This post was edited on 4/30/19 at 10:20 am
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Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:42 am to SlowFlowPro
Sounds to me like one partner is jealous and should figure out how to start their own business.
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:42 am to SlowFlowPro
It's not a "time inbalance".
Women are just petty
Women are just petty
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:42 am to SlowFlowPro
I would probably leave my wife if she tried to pull that shite with me. I won't be guilt tripped for having more free time. 
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:43 am to SlowFlowPro
quote:with a Jody
How do you handle a "Free Time Inbalance? in a relationship?
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:43 am to SlowFlowPro
I had a job where I was able to flex off on Friday and the ex was on a set Monday through Friday schedule. She became really jealous and tried to fill my day with more chores for me to do. It didn't last.
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:43 am to SlowFlowPro
We handle it by not letting it be a problem.
We're in our 40's though, and quit playing petty relationship games a long time ago.
We're in our 40's though, and quit playing petty relationship games a long time ago.
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:44 am to Rouge
quote:
with a Jody
i guess i should have clarified better and made it more of an even job comparison b/c you're right, doing hair/mails is a job
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:44 am to SlowFlowPro
How myself and my gf do it is, whenever we have free time and are off of school/work, we schedule things to do together. This is just because we genuinely like to spend time together. The weekends are really our only time to be together.
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:45 am to facher08
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She became really jealous and tried to fill my day with more chores for me to do. It didn't last.
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:45 am to SlowFlowPro
by realizing relationships are a scam and to settle on banging bumble thots
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:46 am to rocket31
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rocket31
THE RETURN OF THE KING
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:47 am to SlowFlowPro
That's plain jealousy.
If you don't like your life, improve it. Don't pull others down because of your own unhappiness.
And if anybody is doing this to you, it's time to move on.
If you don't like your life, improve it. Don't pull others down because of your own unhappiness.
And if anybody is doing this to you, it's time to move on.
This post was edited on 4/30/19 at 12:15 pm
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:48 am to SlowFlowPro
You have 363k posts, you have infinitely more free time than you GF.
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:48 am to SlowFlowPro
These people need to grow tf up.
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:49 am to SlowFlowPro
Can’t get Day drunk and do some laundry at the same time? Just bring the beer to the laundry room
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:49 am to TheHarahanian
quote:
If you don't like your life, improve it. Don't pull others down because of your own unhappiness.
that's my philosophy which is why i didn't get the issues
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:49 am to facher08
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She became really jealous and tried to fill my day with more chores for me to do.
My wife gets that way every summer when I am off. I tell her to make a list. I get a fresh list on Mondays. If she thinks of it during the week, it goes on next weeks list. I can usually knock it all out in a couple hours on Monday morning, but it makes her feel good, gets her off my back, and I can schedule my golf rounds easier.
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:49 am to kywildcatfanone
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You have 363k posts, you have infinitely more free time than you GF.
sick 2010 burn
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:50 am to SlowFlowPro
That's a horrible example.
A dual career family has their work lives, and their home lives.
Home life has it's own set of duties and responsibilities that is shared as well.
As long as the chores are done at home, she can't complain. If she has to go home and do everything cause he has been drinking all afternoon, that is another story.
A dual career family has their work lives, and their home lives.
Home life has it's own set of duties and responsibilities that is shared as well.
As long as the chores are done at home, she can't complain. If she has to go home and do everything cause he has been drinking all afternoon, that is another story.
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