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re: Is it possible for any relationship to stay intact after cheating?
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:18 pm to Festus
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:18 pm to Festus
i could get over cheating as long as we're not married with children.
there would be some leveling of the playing field and time apart to officially reset.
there would be some leveling of the playing field and time apart to officially reset.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:19 pm to LSUgirl4
quote:what would even be the point of that? Why bother.
could get over cheating as long as we're not married with children.
quote:women
would be some leveling of the playing field and time apart to officially reset.
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This post was edited on 1/3/18 at 12:20 pm
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:20 pm to CSB
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quote: my woman getting railed by another guy.
What about the 50 guys that railed her before you did
If you’re too stupid to figure out the difference between what she did before we were a thing and what she did afterwards then I can’t help you.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:21 pm to Displaced
it's not about being vindictive. it's almost like you break up, date other people, and then get back together to find that you appreciate each other more than you did before. i don't know. i might be idealistic.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:22 pm to LSUgirl4
I think I could as well, but honestly, I don't know for sure. I wonder if I wouldn't ALWAYS have it at the back of my mind, whenever she's late, or not responding to texts. And that would probably make me miserable, and her miserable.
But I know trust can be earned back. However, for something like that, I would probably need some professional officiating it.![](https://images.tigerdroppings.com/Images/Icons/IconLOL.gif)
But I know trust can be earned back. However, for something like that, I would probably need some professional officiating it.
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Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:22 pm to LSUgirl4
Definitely depends on the couple....how long have they been married, was it a one night stand or a 2 year long affair (ie. was it just physical and sexual or did it involve emotional attachment and love), are kids involved in the relationship, is it a repeated issue, how strong and fullfilling is the relationship in general and it other areas, are both spouses putting in the work to continue to grow a relationship, etc.
Love is forgiving but it can't be constantly forgiving for the same mistake over and over. Trust will be hard to earn back no matter what but it needs to happen if they stay together. People aren't perfect, mistakes can happen to anyone under the right (or wrong) circumstances.
Love is forgiving but it can't be constantly forgiving for the same mistake over and over. Trust will be hard to earn back no matter what but it needs to happen if they stay together. People aren't perfect, mistakes can happen to anyone under the right (or wrong) circumstances.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:23 pm to bayouteche
Go to a marriage counselor bro. I realized through the help of a counselor that it was actually my fault and that I wasn't appreciative enough and made her feel inadequate and that I was working too much
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:23 pm to Grit-Eating Shin
I work with a woman who cheated on her husband and he cheated on her. I'm not sure of who did it first but after a few months' separation they got back together and have been fairly happy the last couple of years per our conversations.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:24 pm to CohibaLady76
'a mistake happens once or twice.
if it happens more than twice, it's a habit.'
and i don't want to be with a habitual cheater.
but i could forgive someone who wanted my forgiveness.
if it happens more than twice, it's a habit.'
and i don't want to be with a habitual cheater.
but i could forgive someone who wanted my forgiveness.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:25 pm to CohibaLady76
quote:well spoken
Love is forgiving but it can't be constantly forgiving for the same mistake over and over. Trust will be hard to earn back no matter what but it needs to happen if they stay together. People aren't perfect, mistakes can happen to anyone under the right (or wrong) circumstances.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:25 pm to el Gaucho
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to a marriage counselor bro. I realized through the help of a counselor that it was actually my fault and that I wasn't appreciative enough and made her feel inadequate and that I was working too much
She's fricking the counselor.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:27 pm to fr33manator
quote:It isn't. No matter how detached you claim to be with your fling, you're still thinking about it a lot more than you'd like to admit. You're still taking away thoughts, energy, and yes, even emotion that you should be dedicating to your partner. And that will weaken your relationship; you just may be too preoccupied to notice it.
I think it’s possible to have a relatively stable relationship still.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:27 pm to Festus
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Oh, I think there are different types of affairs. I was just lol'ing at the fact that you seem to differentiate in the abilities of men and women when engaging in affairs. I think you generalize all things man and woman based solely on your experience. And then you project that on the rest of the world as reality. While it was your reality, I don't think you understand that there are other realities despite your experience.
I think all of this is pretty spot on. I’m probably able to overlook “bad behaviour” in men (and women too, when it benefits me) but have this super judgemental outlook as well.
Understanding the nuances of human behaviour also means accepting there are outliers.
And now that I think about it, I take it back.
I guess it’s perfectly possible for a woman to have a physical fling with a man and still go back to having a relatively stable relationship with her husband. But something was missing if that happened in the first place.
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But you're limiting yourself to an empty world of mistrust and shallow relationships, when you could instead deal with your past and learn how to love and trust again.
How?
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I just hate to see you so jaded against the female sex.
Eh, I prefer it to being naive and foolish enough not to see the signs.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:28 pm to LSUgirl4
quote:I've heard it as, "You can only make a mistake once. After that, it is a choice."
'a mistake happens once or twice.
if it happens more than twice, it's a habit.'
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:34 pm to fr33manator
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How?
I think deep down, you want to love and be loved again. But you don't trust, so you settle for purely sex and avoid all feelings.
Look, that's a great gig for some. But I personally think you want to love, but your mistrust will not allow it, so you settle for fun, but empty sex, when what you really want is someone to love you again.
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Eh, I prefer it to being naive and foolish enough not to see the signs.
You can not be naive and foolish, and still have a relationship with love, if you could ever find a way to not believe all women will eventually cheat on you. There are decent women out there. They're not ALL cheating whores. That's all I'm saying.
But like I said, I get why you feel like you feel.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:37 pm to fr33manator
quote:i disagree. things just happen sometimes.
I guess it’s perfectly possible for a woman to have a physical fling with a man and still go back to having a relatively stable relationship with her husband. But something was missing if that happened in the first place.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:41 pm to Festus
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I think deep down, you want to love and be loved again. But you don't trust, so you settle for purely sex and avoid all feelings.
Not true. My last relationship, that I just recently got out of, was one of mutual love and trust. It was lovely. Still is.
But it got too close. I started to feel trapped and we started to have less good times.
So I left. And things got better once I wasn’t feeling so trapped.
I just don’t know if i’M very good at committed relationships anymore
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:42 pm to LSUgirl4
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things just happen sometimes.
Slipping and falling on a dick just happens quite often to you?
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:43 pm to fr33manator
with all due respect, you sound like a selfish, cowardly child.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:44 pm to LSUgirl4
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i disagree. things just happen sometimes.
Maybe you’re right. Maybe sometimes we’re just like boats caught up in a storm and tossed together. Just for a night. And our energies reach out in that storm and just find a kindred soul, and ride out that storm together.
And when the storm passes they part ways and sail on.
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