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re: Is it possible for any relationship to stay intact after cheating?
Posted on 1/3/18 at 10:10 am to bayouteche
Posted on 1/3/18 at 10:10 am to bayouteche
Depends if you played a role. People get married to have a relationship both physical and emotional with another human. That is hard wired in our DNA. If you take a job that puts you away from home 80% of the time, you aren’t filling your end of the marriage deal.
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Posted on 1/3/18 at 10:11 am to bayouteche
I got out of a relationship in the past year where she cheated.
We started talking again around the holidays. I 100% believe she is genuine in her apologies and her plan to not do stupid shite again, but it's not fricking worth it.
So my answer is no.
We started talking again around the holidays. I 100% believe she is genuine in her apologies and her plan to not do stupid shite again, but it's not fricking worth it.
So my answer is no.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 10:20 am to bayouteche
I would say yes, but it wouldn't be easy, and would be painful. I tried it with my ex, but it didn't work out.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 10:25 am to bayouteche
What if it happened like 5 yrs ago while dating? She never confessed. Fast forward to present day where your married, have a kid and find out by the guy she was cheating on you with. She finally admits it but says she would of never told you?
Posted on 1/3/18 at 10:49 am to bayouteche
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Or is it the end-all to any relationship?
I know people who carried on in a relationship. Some I wonder why, but I know one couple who made a concerted effort to correct the failing in their marriage and overcome their initial issue to go on to have a long, rock solid marriage without any more infidelity. They're in their 50s now.
Their story is they got married young because she was pregnant. He cheated early in the marriage after kid #1 prior to the subsequent children. He came clean, asked forgiveness, they went to counselling. Both made commitment to be open and avoid using issues surrounding the infidelity as weapons in any arguments or to manipulate. That plus time got them through. They are pretty open about it now and work with couple who are trying to overcome similar issues.
Trust is always the biggest issue, subsequently. But holding the offense is a close second. I would think both require a lot of tome and effort to overcome. Never personally been in that situation.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 10:52 am to bayouteche
It's the end dude. People try and keep it together and some people do stay together but the relationship is never ever the same. Cannot trust someone, cannot be with them, simple as that IMO
Posted on 1/3/18 at 11:17 am to bayouteche
People with low or no self esteem do this all the time.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 11:29 am to bayouteche
Happened to me once. Caught her in some emails. She still denies that anything physical occurred, but I know better. We split for about 6 months but neither of us filed for divorce. She wanted to get back together...I wanted my kids to have their family intact. 6 years later and we’re still together. I’ve forgiven, but I haven’t forgotten. I love her as the mother of my children, but she no longer sits on the pedestal like she once did. Honestly, after the kids are grown and out of the house, I’ll probably leave her.
This post was edited on 1/3/18 at 11:30 am
Posted on 1/3/18 at 11:37 am to bayouteche
Depends on the people I guess, for me it is a deal breaker...
Posted on 1/3/18 at 11:41 am to bayouteche
I think it’s perfectly possible for a man to have a stable relationship where he steps out to get a bit of strange now and then.
For a woman? No. Once she cheats, and really before she’s even engaged in the physical act of cheating, it’s over.
Can’t go back.
For a woman? No. Once she cheats, and really before she’s even engaged in the physical act of cheating, it’s over.
Can’t go back.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 11:59 am to bayouteche
depends on the couple.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:01 pm to bayouteche
No.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:23 pm to bayouteche
Go to a marriage counselor bro. I realized through the help of a counselor that it was actually my fault and that I wasn't appreciative enough and made her feel inadequate and that I was working too much
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:54 pm to bayouteche
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Is it possible for any relationship to stay intact after cheating?
I guess anything is possible no matter how remote. The issue is moreso how probable? A marriage is never the same after an infidelity. Trust is essentially destroyed in just about all instances and it usually cannot ever be regained.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 12:58 pm to bayouteche
guys cheat for meaningless sex, women cheat because they have already checked out of the relationship and are shopping for your replacement.
if they stay its only to get free rent and access to the checking account or so you raise the kids while they live like they are single giving you occasional sex as rent payment while you are living a delusion things are working out.
if they stay its only to get free rent and access to the checking account or so you raise the kids while they live like they are single giving you occasional sex as rent payment while you are living a delusion things are working out.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 1:01 pm to bayouteche
Reading these types of threads week after week is turning me into a misogynist.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 3:55 pm to bayouteche
no
Posted on 1/3/18 at 4:13 pm to bayouteche
Telling my ex wife to hit the fricking bricks with her whore arse after I caught her cheating was the easiest decision I’ve ever made.
Posted on 1/3/18 at 4:20 pm to bayouteche
Nope
I'd say finances
I'd say finances
Posted on 1/3/18 at 4:31 pm to bayouteche
Y'all have to remember that men and women are not wired the same. Most men would dip out, while women try to make it work, especially for the kids.
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