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Posted on 6/5/17 at 1:13 pm to RLDSC FAN
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But when I'm at home alone (like right now) it gets very overwhelming.
This will sound really dumb, but spend less time alone, then.
If you hate being home alone, then stay out of it as long as you can. Maybe the change of scenery will do you some good.
Hell, moving to a new town might not even be a bad idea. Get a job or transfer to a position with lots of travel. All that "new" stimulus could keep your mind off the old memories dragging you down.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 1:15 pm to RLDSC FAN
Serious answer...become a big brother or do charity work. It will make you feel good about yourself, occupy your time/mind and gives back to the community. Get counseling as well.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 1:16 pm to RLDSC FAN
As someone else suggested, get a pet.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 1:17 pm to RLDSC FAN
It will get better. It'll get worse before it gets better but it'll get better. Chin up.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 1:29 pm to RLDSC FAN
Do you have significant vacation time you can take?
I like the advice of moving out of the house or to another town, or something like that.
Religious? I ask about vacation, this may be a great time for a total reboot. Maybe walk the Camino de Santiago, that's on my list of things I'll likely never get to do.
Best to you.
I like the advice of moving out of the house or to another town, or something like that.
Religious? I ask about vacation, this may be a great time for a total reboot. Maybe walk the Camino de Santiago, that's on my list of things I'll likely never get to do.
Best to you.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 1:34 pm to RLDSC FAN
I know what you're feeling man. I still hate those nights, and sometimes I can't sleep. I just wanted to go to work and go home. But it wasn't until I started getting out that I got better. I suffered severe depression. I wouldn't even answer when my family called me. Dealing with that was and still is hard. And the last thing you want to hear is, "it'll get better." But it will. Little by little, it will.
I've always enjoyed writing or reading, so that's what I got back to. Those nights when I can't sleep, I pick up my laptop or notebook and just write. I also always wanted to learn how to play guitar, so I started watching YouTube videos and taught myself. I'm a shy person, so going and doing things by myself was also very hard. But now I enjoy going to a movie or to the beach by myself. Then you start to realize life can still be pretty awesome.
I've always enjoyed writing or reading, so that's what I got back to. Those nights when I can't sleep, I pick up my laptop or notebook and just write. I also always wanted to learn how to play guitar, so I started watching YouTube videos and taught myself. I'm a shy person, so going and doing things by myself was also very hard. But now I enjoy going to a movie or to the beach by myself. Then you start to realize life can still be pretty awesome.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 1:38 pm to RLDSC FAN
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But when I'm at home alone (like right now) it gets very overwhelming.
Honestly, when you look back on this time you will see those moments when you're home by yourself feeling sad as the time where you actually got through it. It's good to stay busy like you've been doing. But it's also important to have time to process everything and deal with your pain.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 1:39 pm to RLDSC FAN
I went through a divorce 15 years ago due to the ex getting herself addicted to meth and refusing help. Not sure if you have children, but that is what got me through it. I retained full custody for obvious reasons, and the divorce itself only affected me to the extent that it affected my kids. It really didn't matter what was done to me, only what was done to them. I have long ago forgiven her for what she did as it pertained to me, but I am still somewhat bitter about what she did to our children. Maybe that is wrong of me, but it is just hard to let that go. On the upside, both of my boys are grown now, and are fine young men. She still really hasn't gotten her act together and has not tried to contact them since, but they have adjusted really well.
As I say, my focus was my kids, but if you don't have any or don't have custody, my advice would be to find something you are passionate about. Focus on doing things that bring you joy. Read a lot, travel as much as you can, enjoy some time for yourself. Make a list of things you want to do or places you want to go, and work towards that end. Best of luck to you.
As I say, my focus was my kids, but if you don't have any or don't have custody, my advice would be to find something you are passionate about. Focus on doing things that bring you joy. Read a lot, travel as much as you can, enjoy some time for yourself. Make a list of things you want to do or places you want to go, and work towards that end. Best of luck to you.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 1:46 pm to RLDSC FAN
frick you pussy. suck it up and get laid.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 1:58 pm to RLDSC FAN
I find most people usually aren't proactive about getting through something like this.. that's the worst thing you could possibly (not?) do... Eventually, time will just numb you to whatever happened, without healing anything.
Throw away all the tangible parts and pieces of your breakup and emotions, etc. You can do whatever you want to escape the pain and emptiness but until you change your mindset about the whole situation, you will still be defeated. Stay positive, set new goals, and appreciate the things that you do still have in your life and you will be fine... the only real tragedy would be you not learning anything from this experience
Throw away all the tangible parts and pieces of your breakup and emotions, etc. You can do whatever you want to escape the pain and emptiness but until you change your mindset about the whole situation, you will still be defeated. Stay positive, set new goals, and appreciate the things that you do still have in your life and you will be fine... the only real tragedy would be you not learning anything from this experience
Posted on 6/5/17 at 2:04 pm to RLDSC FAN
It will get better and you should find a support group (not the OT) or a therapist.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 3:25 pm to RLDSC FAN
My advice is simple...find out who this person is and lock her up ASAP
Posted on 6/5/17 at 4:02 pm to RLDSC FAN
here is what I did
Gym
drink like cooter brown
buy a dog
buy a drumset
slay a lot of vagina (not newly divorced neighbor though)
Gym
drink like cooter brown
buy a dog
buy a drumset
slay a lot of vagina (not newly divorced neighbor though)
Posted on 6/5/17 at 4:25 pm to RLDSC FAN
Posted on 6/5/17 at 5:49 pm to RLDSC FAN
so sorry for what you are going through, it does suck.
you are doing all of the right things and have gotten some good advice here, also some really interesting "wisdom"
--continue to work out and ramp it up.
--join a rec sports league/team that practices at night, plays on the weekends-basketball, flag football, soccer, tennis, kickball whatever. it's a workout, will get you out of the house and you will meet new people
--get up a couple of hours earlier than your normal so it will be easier to sleep at night.
--find a support group that meets at night.
--reading books is a great, healthy way to distract yourself. social media not so much.
--get out of town on the weekends, if possible plan so you do not get back home until monday morning just in time to get to work. sunday nights are the worst when you are alone and hurting.
--travel to places you have never been, it is a great way to get a fresh perspective.
--getting a pet is a good idea if you have the time to care for it and space.
--some people find journaling/writing to help (just imagining all of the "dear diary" comments on this thread if anyone actually reads all of this
--do not make any major decisions about moving away at this point, but do spend some time researching other "dream" places to live. maybe plan a visit.
--volunteer for a cause that you believe in. one of the perks of helping others is that it will help you.
--learn something new--take a class, find a new hobby.
--always, always friends/family. they will help and one day they will have problems and you can pay back the time they spent with you now and with greater understanding and empathy.
and it WILL get better with time. the crap part is that you are going to feel bad and hurt but you will and can get through that. sometimes you just have to feel all of the pain to start healing.
best of luck, you are going to be OK! keep us updated
you are doing all of the right things and have gotten some good advice here, also some really interesting "wisdom"
--continue to work out and ramp it up.
--join a rec sports league/team that practices at night, plays on the weekends-basketball, flag football, soccer, tennis, kickball whatever. it's a workout, will get you out of the house and you will meet new people
--get up a couple of hours earlier than your normal so it will be easier to sleep at night.
--find a support group that meets at night.
--reading books is a great, healthy way to distract yourself. social media not so much.
--get out of town on the weekends, if possible plan so you do not get back home until monday morning just in time to get to work. sunday nights are the worst when you are alone and hurting.
--travel to places you have never been, it is a great way to get a fresh perspective.
--getting a pet is a good idea if you have the time to care for it and space.
--some people find journaling/writing to help (just imagining all of the "dear diary" comments on this thread if anyone actually reads all of this
--do not make any major decisions about moving away at this point, but do spend some time researching other "dream" places to live. maybe plan a visit.
--volunteer for a cause that you believe in. one of the perks of helping others is that it will help you.
--learn something new--take a class, find a new hobby.
--always, always friends/family. they will help and one day they will have problems and you can pay back the time they spent with you now and with greater understanding and empathy.
and it WILL get better with time. the crap part is that you are going to feel bad and hurt but you will and can get through that. sometimes you just have to feel all of the pain to start healing.
best of luck, you are going to be OK! keep us updated
This post was edited on 6/5/17 at 6:24 pm
Posted on 6/5/17 at 6:22 pm to RLDSC FAN
Did y'all have kids?
Posted on 6/5/17 at 7:26 pm to RLDSC FAN
I'm going through a similar situation. You're not alone brother.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 8:57 pm to RLDSC FAN
If ya need a beer buddy let me know. If your profile is legit we don't live that far apart. Cheers my friend.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 9:07 pm to RLDSC FAN
Hang in there OP Ive been there and I survived
if you need someone to talk to, I'll make myself available
if you need someone to talk to, I'll make myself available
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