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re: Do you visit peoples gravesites?
Posted on 7/26/16 at 4:49 pm to CatsGoneWild
Posted on 7/26/16 at 4:49 pm to CatsGoneWild
It's a PITA for me because one side is in Lake Lawn/Metairie Cemetery, and the other side is buried all over da parish on relatives' property. Other than my grandpa dying at 63, everyone is still alive. I've got life-long genes running in my family, but I'll probably break that mold and die around 60
Posted on 7/26/16 at 4:52 pm to CatsGoneWild
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Do you visit peoples gravesites?
No. because its weird. Grieving people do weird things, but that doesnt change the bizarre nature of the thing.
Posted on 7/26/16 at 4:52 pm to IonaTiger
I've got no issue with those that see no reason to visit the grave of a loved one, but wouldn't the logic being used also apply to a funeral?
Posted on 7/26/16 at 4:55 pm to slackster
I'm sure some people see it that way and I have no problem with that. Personally, I see the wake and funeral differently in that I would go to a wake to say a final good-bye and go to a funeral service to show my respect for the family. To each his own.
Posted on 7/26/16 at 4:55 pm to Skillet
I used to until I changed my mind about the whole thing and realized I was talking to a headstone. I havent been back since.
Posted on 7/26/16 at 4:57 pm to Hammertime
A grave I found in a cemetery in Natchez, MS
It had an epitaph on the back, which I had never seen.
This is what it said
"Isabella is dead a child as,
Sweet and fair,
As opening rosebud in the,
Morning air,
Round her pure urn let,
Darkest cypress wave,
Youth could not save her,
From an early grave."
Posted on 7/26/16 at 4:59 pm to slackster
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I've got no issue with those that see no reason to visit the grave of a loved one, but wouldn't the logic being used also apply to a funeral?
I don't get anything out of funerals either. I go because it's what you do when a loved one dies.
Posted on 7/26/16 at 5:00 pm to CatsGoneWild
Respect the bones of your passed as you would Elijah's. You may be blessed for it.
Posted on 7/26/16 at 5:00 pm to fr33manator
quote:The graveyard I visit has several markers for victims of the November 1918 influenza epidemic
A grave I found in a cemetery in Natchez, MS
Posted on 7/26/16 at 5:00 pm to fr33manator
So you get your poems from headstones? That's creepy as frick man
Posted on 7/26/16 at 5:01 pm to slackster
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They can't hear anything you say, they're dead and there's no afterlife so there's just no point to me.
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Well that sucks.
Ha...the only way he could know for sure that there is no afterlife is if he died before, which would mean that there is indeed an afterlife.
It's a strange thing visiting graves. You can think about someone or remember them anytime & anywhere. But it is a sign of respect (though they may not know you're visiting...but you know). Visiting a grave gives you a different feeling though than if you'd just think about them at any other time. It's very quiet and it's just you there along with usually some person you loved in their final resting place (and the other thousands of strangers buried nearby wondering where the F their families are). Although strange and sometimes awkward, it is a good place to reflect. There aren't many distractions at a grave yard.
Posted on 7/26/16 at 5:02 pm to IonaTiger
Yeah it wasn't really a gotcha attempt or anything, and I've always looked at a funeral and wake as for the living, not the dead.
As for the OP, I used to work next to the site where a good friend and a cousin were buried. For a few years I'd pick up lunch and go eat there every few weeks in the spring and fall. It was very pleasant and relaxing, but too each their own. I don't think there is really a normal way to grieve, so whatever works.
As for the OP, I used to work next to the site where a good friend and a cousin were buried. For a few years I'd pick up lunch and go eat there every few weeks in the spring and fall. It was very pleasant and relaxing, but too each their own. I don't think there is really a normal way to grieve, so whatever works.
Posted on 7/26/16 at 5:04 pm to Hammertime
quote:This marker is in the same church yard where John Lennon met Paul McCartney in 1957
So you get your poems from headstones? That's creepy as frick man
Posted on 7/26/16 at 5:10 pm to Kafka
Hopefully nobody in that family has ADD, because I only made it to the guy's name
Posted on 7/26/16 at 5:20 pm to CatsGoneWild
Only to catch Pokémon.
Posted on 7/26/16 at 5:24 pm to CatsGoneWild
Only the grave of my best friend. Because I want to and I can.
Posted on 7/26/16 at 5:47 pm to REB BEER
What really pisses me off is that I will never be able to do the same for them. They both donated their bodies to science. I can't believe it. It kills me to think that either could be some cadaver one day. I have too much pride to think about some a-hole med student making snickers about them in class.
Posted on 7/26/16 at 5:55 pm to Cdawg
I have our first dog buried in the backyard and we just lost another. She'll go back there, too.
I don't go to graveyards b/c to me, the person isn't there.
That said, I told my wife to put my ashes by the dogs.
Hate to miss all the family get-togethers.
I don't go to graveyards b/c to me, the person isn't there.
That said, I told my wife to put my ashes by the dogs.
Hate to miss all the family get-togethers.
Posted on 7/26/16 at 5:55 pm to CatsGoneWild
I always visit my brothers grave on his birthday and on the day he died. I go other times as well, but always on those days.
I can't tell you why really, other than it has become a place where I can reflect in solitude. I can speak out loud to him, knowing he can't answer, but sometimes you just need to speak thing out loud, you know?
When people leave life too early, it's easy to let the memories start to fade. At first, you may think about them every day. As time wears on, life still happens for you. You get caught up in the now, as the past fades away. Well I don't want to forget my brother, so those days I go there are always keeping him in the forefront of my thoughts for at least those moments.
I can't tell you why really, other than it has become a place where I can reflect in solitude. I can speak out loud to him, knowing he can't answer, but sometimes you just need to speak thing out loud, you know?
When people leave life too early, it's easy to let the memories start to fade. At first, you may think about them every day. As time wears on, life still happens for you. You get caught up in the now, as the past fades away. Well I don't want to forget my brother, so those days I go there are always keeping him in the forefront of my thoughts for at least those moments.
This post was edited on 7/26/16 at 6:01 pm
Posted on 7/26/16 at 6:01 pm to tigersownall
I happened to visit the family tomb today. I was passing by and stopped for a few minutes of reflection. My dad, grandparents, two uncles, and one cousin are interred there.
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