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re: Cant stand this guy in my new GF's social circle
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:21 am to SirWinston
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:21 am to SirWinston
I've dealt with this type before. You have to engage in some real psychological warfare.
Insult the dude in front of everyone, but in a manner that everyone else thinks you are complementing him.
Engage in a little self denigration for humor, and contrast that against the perfection of this other dude. Again the goal is make him seem like the prick.
Eventually the dude will take a swing, and you can beat the hell out of him and still be the good guy.
Fifty percent of the time it works every time.
Insult the dude in front of everyone, but in a manner that everyone else thinks you are complementing him.
Engage in a little self denigration for humor, and contrast that against the perfection of this other dude. Again the goal is make him seem like the prick.
Eventually the dude will take a swing, and you can beat the hell out of him and still be the good guy.
Fifty percent of the time it works every time.
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Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:22 am to SirWinston
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She'd have never acted this way before we went exclusive b/c she was still trying to win me over
That's your answer right there. You have to convince her that she hasn't got all your attention now. She's convinced you.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:22 am to Breesus
NM
This post was edited on 11/24/14 at 9:37 am
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:23 am to Tiger Ryno
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The fact that she has guy friends is a real non-starter. no woman who has guy friends is worth a second of your time.
Why?
I have a couple of really good guy friends. I mean, I know that they would hit it if given the chance, but I won't let that happen.
But I've never slept with them and if I am seeing someone I am honest with my friends and my SO. I don't talk to my guy friends as much when I'm in a relationship, but they will always be my friends.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:23 am to SirWinston
You should have a mad men themed party at your apartment, and not invite him. Make sure to post all the pics on social media so he can see it
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:23 am to Tiger Ryno
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Are you suggesting that when you find a woman to spend your life with you stop socializing?
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in bars? YES.
Dude i don't know how to respond to this. What do you do for fun?
We go to bars to watch sports games. Go out with other couples to wine bars for fun. Head to the local watering hole after a tough day to unwind. Don't get all weird and judgmental about people who go to bars.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:24 am to Jreily85
...whore
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:25 am to Breesus
i'm not judging anyone..i'm talking about how it impacts the success of a relationship, not what it says about any person's quality as a person.
sorry I hit a nerve. at my age now I have seen it all and I'm just passing on the wisdom I have obtained…
sorry I hit a nerve. at my age now I have seen it all and I'm just passing on the wisdom I have obtained…
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:25 am to Jreily85
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I have a couple of really good guy friends. I mean, I know that they would hit it if given the chance, but I won't let that happen.
A girl who isnt naive? impressive.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:26 am to Tiger Ryno
98.6% of girls guy friends would frick your girl if they had the opportunity.
As a guy that was once a girls guy friend, and I can attest to that. I had many blown opportunities
But as I've gotten older the amount of girl friends I have has dwindled by the year. At this point I really only have 1, and 3 others that I infrequently talk to (life after college separated us).
As a guy that was once a girls guy friend, and I can attest to that. I had many blown opportunities
But as I've gotten older the amount of girl friends I have has dwindled by the year. At this point I really only have 1, and 3 others that I infrequently talk to (life after college separated us).
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:27 am to Tiger Ryno
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i'm talking about how it impacts the success of a relationship
going to bars doesn't impact a relationship one way or the other. I don't even know how you made that leap.
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sorry I hit a nerve.
You didn't hit a nerve. I have no idea how you came to that conclusion.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:27 am to Jreily85
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I have a couple of really good guy friends. I mean, I know that they would hit it if given the chance, but I won't let that happen.
You're probably only friends with them because they want to bang you. That's the only reason they are friends with you.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:27 am to SabiDojo
That's not very nice.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:28 am to Jreily85
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don't talk to my guy friends as much when I'm in a relationship, but they will always be my friends.
Like i said, every girl has someone on the backburner just in case.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:28 am to SirWinston
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I try but she's miserable that her BF is obviously flirting and having a great time schmoozing other women.
GTFO then.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:29 am to DosManos
We grew up together. We are basically cousins. And it's only 2 guys.
But like I said, they're men. If given the chance I know they would hit it.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:30 am to Breesus
Look I just want to say that I appreciate all the advice. I understand that the OP usually gets killed and mocked in threads like this but I wanted to see various opinions and I got them.
I agree that my lack of guy friends is embarrassing and a real weakness in my life. I'm working to address that. I also agree that maybe I have started "caring way too much" about this girl (to the extent that she's less turned on) and that some aloofness and my old confidence/laissez faire attitude needs to make a return and pronto if I want to save this.
I was happier a month ago before I decided to go exclusive. With that said, I want to try and see this through, see if I can regain some hand and get back to where i want to be in this relationship.
Again - appreciate all the responses. Wish me luck.
I agree that my lack of guy friends is embarrassing and a real weakness in my life. I'm working to address that. I also agree that maybe I have started "caring way too much" about this girl (to the extent that she's less turned on) and that some aloofness and my old confidence/laissez faire attitude needs to make a return and pronto if I want to save this.
I was happier a month ago before I decided to go exclusive. With that said, I want to try and see this through, see if I can regain some hand and get back to where i want to be in this relationship.
Again - appreciate all the responses. Wish me luck.
This post was edited on 11/25/14 at 1:44 pm
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:30 am to Jreily85
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But like I said, they're men. If given the chance I know they would hit it.
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:32 am to SirWinston
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see if I can regain some hand
i still think you are looking at this wrong.
if your relationship with a girl is a constant power strugle, then you are not in a healthy relationship.
This post was edited on 11/24/14 at 9:33 am
Posted on 11/24/14 at 9:32 am to SirWinston
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I agree that my lack of guy friends is embarrassing and a real weakness in my life. I'm working to address that.
Ugh, fine. I can admit one more friend. I usually don't do this, but you seem desperate.
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