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Married folks — do you and your spouse keep separate checking accounts?
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:32 am
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:32 am
If you do, why so?
my sister-in-law and her husband keep separate checking accounts and he doesn’t even like her opening his mail or talking about finances … she asked them recently about how much money they have in 401(k) and he didn’t even wanna talk about it, pretty fricking bizarre and sneaky if you ask me ….he’s been a pretty weird and shady character from the onset, but makes a ton of money and she has a pretty nice life as a stay at home wife so she doesn’t pry too much
This post was edited on 11/22/25 at 11:32 am
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:32 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
This is the first sign of divorce LOL
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:33 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
No. 45th anniversary today
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:34 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
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she asked them recently about how much money they have in 401(k) and he didn’t even wanna talk about it,
I can guarantee you that he is a controlling type of person. He doesn't see his wife as his equal. He most likely sees her as "less-than" because he makes a lot of money.
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Married folks — do you and your spouse keep separate checking accounts?
When I was married, we had a joint checking and savings account. Marriage means unite, and come together as one. Sure, it can be a little harder to undo if a couple divorces, but we didn't step into an engagement and marriage with the thought of divorcing. Sadly, that is what happened, but I trusted her, and she trusted me, to know that we weren't out to screw either one over financially. In this regard, we acted like responsible adults.
This post was edited on 11/22/25 at 11:36 am
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:34 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
Nope - we combined our accounts not too long after we got married.
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:34 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
We started to about a year before the divorce. I was the sole breadwinner and noticed money was “leaking”. I set up a sole checking account and basically put the house operating funds into the joint account.
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:35 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
MrsWafer (no pics) and I do not. My inlaws did and I thought it was odd.
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:36 am to Will Cover
He is very controlling, he treats her like a nanny, he’s a fat pile of shite, and she works out every day, she has a side business, like selling cookies and other desserts to pay for her gym membership, he doesn’t even pay for it
Yes, he is a POS
Yes, he is a POS
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:36 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
We each take an “allowance” from our main account each month. This goes to a separate account for both. We each can see the others online. This allowance is for shite like gas, lunch at work, grooming, or whatever you might want to do and not argue with spouse if they think it’s wasteful. It’s a not inconsequential amount. I save about half of mine every month. Use it to feel like a baller on vacations.
This post was edited on 11/22/25 at 11:38 am
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:36 am to jizzle6609
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This is the first sign of divorce LOL
well it's been decades, what's taking so long???
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:36 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
No we got married at 21, he was still in college & didn’t even have a bank account. We got back from our honeymoon with $750 to our name. Twenty-three years later I guess it’s working ok. But I handle 100% of our finances.
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:36 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
Yes we do. But not because we do not trust each other with money. Second marriage for both and we were both financially secure. We already had our own accounts and just never changed anything.
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:39 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
Wife and I keep separate. It works for us. Each of us pays a certain set of bills based on what we make. She then has her money for clothes, shoes, etc and I have my money to spend on whatever without being questioned on what and where we spend our money. We talk about any big purchases we have to make together and split that.
In my opinion it eliminates meaningless bullshite arguments of... You went out and spent how much on whatever.
We don't have that problem
In my opinion it eliminates meaningless bullshite arguments of... You went out and spent how much on whatever.
We don't have that problem
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:39 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
Well if hes a POS then shes giving it up and getting on her knees for him.
What does that tell you?
What does that tell you?
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:42 am to jojothetireguy
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In my opinion it eliminates meaningless bullshite arguments of... You went out and spent how much on whatever. We don't have that problem
Maybe so maybe not. I didn’t marry a woman who would come at me like that after buying something, but she also didn’t marry someone who goes and spends a boatload of money on dumb shite either.
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:44 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
We have separate. We have a joint for house bills that we both deposit a set amount in but other than that, her money is her money and my money is my money. We make about the same amount and we help each other if needed. I dont see anything wrong. Neither of us hide any finances from the other.
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:44 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
Nope, only accounts that are "separate" are our 401's and ROTH accounts.
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:48 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
Hell to the No! You might as well take her last name while you at it.
Posted on 11/22/25 at 11:48 am to HoustonGumbeauxGuy
We have two joint checking accounts, she has a separate checking account that I have no access to and I have a separate checking account that she has no access to. It’s all good that way.
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