How did you handle paternity leave?

Back when my first was born, my work was nice enough to let me "work from home" for almost 3 months (mid Oct through the holidays). My work requires field visits and things like that, so I still went in as needed a good bit. I also took the first 2 weeks off entirely. It was awesome being able to be there for so much of my daughter's first few months. Highly recommend if you can

ETA: Congrats on becoming a dad. There's nothing like it.

My work gave me two months for both my kids. I took a month off once my wife went back to work and actually never got back around to using the other month for each.

Didnt have it. I was back to work in a day, wife was home for a couple of weeks without pay.

We took turns with night duty.

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Had a young associate take the full three months off for family bonding, like his work didn't exist or something (which I had to reassign). I always thought less of him because he put his shite off on us, I mean, he didn't have a baby, his wife did.

So, as a manager, my rec would be to discreetly come and go as you need, but generally work needs to come first and you need to handle your entire workload.

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Hook is way too shiny.

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Had a young associate take the full three months off for family bonding, like his work didn't exist or something (which I had to reassign). I always thought less of him because he put his shite off on us, I mean, he didn't have a baby, his wife did.

So, as a manager, my rec would be to discreetly come and go as you need, but generally work needs to come first and you need to handle your entire workload.

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I am going to assume this is a troll

I got two days off for each of my kids. That was a long time ago.
Company I work for now gives dads 8 weeks off and moms 16 weeks.

Not trolling, just explaining reality to you from a manager's perspective.

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Not trolling, just explaining reality to you from a manager's perspective.

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So you as a manager knowingly approved 3 months of leave for a worker with no plan on how to deal with it (don't tell me you didn't have warning, the baby didn't just appear), and you think he's the problem?

Hell of a manager you are

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Not trolling, just explaining reality to you from a manager's perspective

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Yep, many careers where taking three months off is not an option. Since you used the term associate, I assume it’s law. If you’re a lawyer and can disappear for three months with no issue, then you aren’t needed.

That’s just how it is.

Only time I took off was while my wife was in the hospital. Our first was born in 2001, our second in 2008. Back then fathers taking maternity leave really wasn’t a thing yet.