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re: 12 Year Old Girl with BPD
Posted on 4/29/24 at 4:31 pm to Tantal
Posted on 4/29/24 at 4:31 pm to Tantal
Update
I got her committed today to a long term facility in South Texas
I hope that the counselors will hold her to account and not be manipulated. Thank you for the advice and kindness. I hope none of you have to deal with this or even interact with this type of behavior. The Lord will provide.
I got her committed today to a long term facility in South Texas
I hope that the counselors will hold her to account and not be manipulated. Thank you for the advice and kindness. I hope none of you have to deal with this or even interact with this type of behavior. The Lord will provide.
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Posted on 4/29/24 at 4:37 pm to Leotiger725
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Update I got her committed today to a long term facility in South Texas
I hope that the counselors will hold her to account and not be manipulated. Thank you for the advice and kindness. I hope none of you have to deal with this or even interact with this type of behavior. The Lord will provide.
That’s great news. It’s just the first step but I hope it helps you all to get a better understanding of what she’s suffering with and to get her on the medication regimen that suits her best. Finding the right medication is key and not as simple as most think.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 4:45 pm to Leotiger725
God bless you
Posted on 4/29/24 at 5:02 pm to Leotiger725
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I got her committed today to a long term facility in South Texas
That is great news, don't expect miracles but she will be getting tools for herself to use to live with BPD.
As far as the allowed phone calls, make sure to set rules and stick to them. She will be lashing out in anger at you on the telephone and it will be extremely hard to listen to but your best choice is to just hang up the phone.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 5:05 pm to Leotiger725
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Leotiger725
Glad to hear buddy. I know that is a load off. Best of luck for the situation to heal itself over time.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 5:29 pm to Leotiger725
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Update
I got her committed today to a long term facility in South Texas
I hope that the counselors will hold her to account and not be manipulated. Thank you for the advice and kindness.
I hope none of you have to deal with this or even interact with this type of behavior. The Lord will provide.
Glad to hear you found a facility for her. I just saw this thread and was going to recommend that given the circumstance. We typically don’t want to diagnose with BPD at her age because of potential hormonal/puberty influence but she sounds textbook by symptoms. And to be diagnosed at 12 means it’s a pretty significant presentation.
And as someone who used to work in long term PRTF, the folks working those facilities typically see more extreme presentations of personality disorders like BPD and are very familiar with the manipulation tactics. There will likely be a honeymoon phase as she feels out the boundaries she thinks she can push. Highly encourage engaging in family therapy through the facility as they can help everyone involved (and as I’m sure you know at this point the BPD affects far more than her). I also recommend the book Walking on Eggshells. It’s an excellent text for family/friends of those with BPD.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 5:46 pm to Leotiger725
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I got her committed today to a long term facility in South Texas
If it's Meridell, don't get your hopes up too high.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 5:56 pm to Leotiger725
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Update
I got her committed today to a long term facility in South Texas
I hope that the counselors will hold her to account and not be manipulated. Thank you for the advice and kindness. I hope none of you have to deal with this or even interact with this type of behavior. The Lord will provide.
I don't divulge alot on this forum. I keep my personal and professional life to myself. Suffice to say there are few around these parts that professionally, can speak as well to this as I can.
They won't be manipulated from an LTC standpoint, this is right in their wheelhouse. In fact, they'll likely caution you not to be manipulated by her.
Additionally, there may be aspects of her care that as a parent, seem harsh to you or even borderline cruel. If so, bring it back here and we'll chew on it.
I'll give you an example. I was once a member of a treatment team who took care of a 9 year old girl who showed many of the same traits as your daughter. She would often get angry and act out. One of the ways she would act out is she would stare you straight in the eye and defecate on herself. When she did this, she was held accountable by making her wash her own underwear in the toilet bowl with her bare hands. She power struggled for awhile and then relented.
Just remember, sometimes when people take care of us, it feels bad.
This is where it all begins. Over the next few years it will feel OK and it will feel bad but I promise you this. Although nothing is guaranteed, the prognosis is so much better than you've been led to believe in this thread.
This post was edited on 4/29/24 at 6:01 pm
Posted on 4/29/24 at 6:21 pm to Leotiger725
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Update I got her committed today to a long term facility in South Texas I hope that the counselors will hold her to account and not be manipulated. Thank you for the advice and kindness. I hope none of you have to deal with this or even interact with this type of behavior. The Lord will provide.
I promise your daughter and your family will be in my prayers immediately. I do not believe the facility staff will be manipulated by her. The people that work in these places have seen everything and then some. Also, you might want to either get some therapy for yourself or join a support group. You have been through a lot. I can’t even imagine the mental scars you have. God Bless brother.
Posted on 4/29/24 at 11:09 pm to Leotiger725
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I got her committed today to a long term facility in South Texas
Who pays for this? Your insurance covers it?
Posted on 4/30/24 at 9:37 am to Leotiger725
We simply couldn't afford that option. Our insurance wasn't going to cover it and we were quoted over $50K/yr. We ended up in a local out patient therapy thing that was helpful, but honestly it wasn't until my son-in-law came into the picture that everything truly changed.
I pray that it works for yall.
I pray that it works for yall.
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