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Therapy: Make things better or worse?
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:21 pm
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:21 pm
Wife recently started seeing a female therapist once a week to talk about things in her life that are challenging for her. Not getting into specifics of those things, but after several weeks of therapy it seems new issues (unrelated to the original reason for going) have been put in her mind.
Does anyone have the experience that therapists create issues out of non-issues therefore creating problems that didn’t exist?
Very frustrating.
Does anyone have the experience that therapists create issues out of non-issues therefore creating problems that didn’t exist?
Very frustrating.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:27 pm to ctb504
That therapist will ruin y’all’s life and marriage but good luck
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:28 pm to ctb504
Complicated question, depends on what she’s getting treated for (if anything), how long she’s been going through it, what kind of therapy is being practiced, and the competence of the therapist. For example, if it’s CBT for clinical depression or something, it will take months before it gets better if she’s been struggling with it for a really long time. Severe trauma, depression, anxiety, etc… treating it with exposure therapy, CBT, etc… it just depends. One of my best friends is gay, family disowned him (Scientologists) and he was in therapy for 6 years. He’s great now.
I’m not a therapist but I’ve had several different ones. I’ll speak from experience, if you’re putting in the work as a patient, you will make “realizations” or epiphanies and see things differently. Sometimes things arise and you’re like “wow, I didn’t know I had this issue” or “damn, that’s why this happened. I wonder how many times I’ve screwed up a situation like that?” And stuff.
I’m not a therapist but I’ve had several different ones. I’ll speak from experience, if you’re putting in the work as a patient, you will make “realizations” or epiphanies and see things differently. Sometimes things arise and you’re like “wow, I didn’t know I had this issue” or “damn, that’s why this happened. I wonder how many times I’ve screwed up a situation like that?” And stuff.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:29 pm to ctb504
I guess it’s all relative. After my divorce I was pretty depressed and went to see a psychologist. Dude was awesome and helped me a lot.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:30 pm to ctb504
She scissoring the therapist
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:30 pm to ctb504
I hate to be the one to say this but it sounds like she’s cheating on you. Sorry baw.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:33 pm to ctb504
I can only speak to my experience but therapy was good for me. I think it would do my wife and I some good to go but she’s just not into it.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:33 pm to Tigafangs72
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That therapist will ruin y’all’s life and marriage but good luck
I think people should do therapy regularly even without issues. Don't wait until people are digging in with resentment before you decide to go. You would be suprised to figure out what your SO is butthurt about and you will never get it out of them alone. TIFWIW.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:34 pm to ctb504
quote:That’s because the therapist was the mother!
Very frustrating.
This post was edited on 12/6/23 at 9:35 pm
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:34 pm to ctb504
If she needed therapy to get help releasing something or digging into her psyche to determine root causes, it’s normal to dip down for a while. It’ll get better.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:35 pm to Tyga Woods
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I hate to be the one to say this but it sounds like she’s cheating on you. Sorry baw.
Probably not yet, but the therapist will soon manipulate her to have several affairs.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:35 pm to ctb504
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Therapy: Make things better or worse?
It's getting kind of hard to believe
things are going to get better
I've been drowning too long to believe
that the tide's going to turn
And I've been living too hard to believe
that things are going to get easier now
I'm still trying to shake off the pain
from the lessons I've learned
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:36 pm to ctb504
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to talk about things in her life that are challenging for her.
It’s gonna be you baw.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:39 pm to Ghost of Colby
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the therapist will soon manipulate her to have several affairs.
I can hear the therapist now:
Here’s my advice Queen: you either gave up part of yourself to be with him or you’re not sure if you ever loved him at all. You owe it to yourself. You owe it to you both to go out and be sure. Go out and prove your love. Go out and pretend you’re not married for a night. Pamper yourself. You deserve it. Go out and meet new people and have a new experience. And the next morning you’ll wake up happy and shining because you’ll know for sure if it was meant to be or not and you’ll be happy knowing for sure either way. And he’ll thank you. If he doesn’t, he doesn’t deserve you anyway.
This post was edited on 12/6/23 at 9:40 pm
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:40 pm to ctb504
Let me go ahead and save y’all some money and time. Whatever the problem is….it is your fault.
You’re welcome.
You’re welcome.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:41 pm to ctb504
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ctb504
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Therapy: Make things better or worse?
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Wife recently started seeing a female therapist once a week to talk about things in her life that are challenging for her. Not getting into specifics of those things, but after several weeks of therapy it seems new issues (unrelated to the original reason for going) have been put in her mind.
Does anyone have the experience that therapists create issues out of non-issues therefore creating problems that didn’t exist?
Very frustrating.
Respectfully, this is not your issue to control, because that is what you are trying to do, and maybe you don't even realize it.
If you trust your wife to make good decisions, allow her time to develop a relationship with this person and make her own decision whether she wants to continue with this person, or find a new therapist.
Do not interrogate your wife after her sessions. If she brings it up, listen. That's all you have to do. You are not her therapist. Be her husband.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:44 pm to Will Cover
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If you trust your wife to make good decisions
What a ridiculous statement.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:47 pm to ctb504
I go to a woman therapist, and she has helped me tremendously. Your misogynistic implication that a female therapist isn’t good enough is absurd.
Posted on 12/6/23 at 9:48 pm to OysterPoBoy
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If you trust your wife to make good decisions
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OysterPoBoy
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What a ridiculous statement.
I know you are joking, but sadly, many men in a relationship see their wives as subservient. There is a reason why Jody exists, and it's because "I don't liked, I don't feel loved, or I don't feel respected" rears its ugly head and if someone other than the spouse pays attention and gives that person the reason to believe they are heard, valued, respected, and appreciated, the creation of an extra-marital affair starts.
This post was edited on 12/6/23 at 9:54 pm
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