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Child Marriage is a Real Thing in the U.S.?
Posted on 10/10/22 at 7:33 am
Posted on 10/10/22 at 7:33 am
I guess I lived a sheltered life? Or maybe I just never considered this was a thing.
Watched a tv hospital show and the episode centered around a fire/explosion at a wedding. The little girl whom everyone assumed was the flower girl was actually the bride. And the groom was a man who looked to be in his thirties. The girl looked to be pre-teen.
I thought "this can't be real". I felt dirty just searching the topic.
But, apparently it is legal in 44 states.
(only Delaware, Minnesota, New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, and Rhode Island have set the minimum age at 18 and eliminated all exceptions), and 20 U.S. states do not require any minimum age for marriage, with a parental or judicial waiver.
Apparently since 2000 300,000 underaged children were married in the U.S.
Wiki
What kind of sick frick do you have to be to sign off on your minor child marrying an adult?
Watched a tv hospital show and the episode centered around a fire/explosion at a wedding. The little girl whom everyone assumed was the flower girl was actually the bride. And the groom was a man who looked to be in his thirties. The girl looked to be pre-teen.
I thought "this can't be real". I felt dirty just searching the topic.
But, apparently it is legal in 44 states.
(only Delaware, Minnesota, New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, and Rhode Island have set the minimum age at 18 and eliminated all exceptions), and 20 U.S. states do not require any minimum age for marriage, with a parental or judicial waiver.
Apparently since 2000 300,000 underaged children were married in the U.S.
Wiki
What kind of sick frick do you have to be to sign off on your minor child marrying an adult?
Posted on 10/10/22 at 7:36 am to MorbidTheClown
Agree
I recently watched a documentary on Loretta Lynn, she had 4 kids by 17 …
I recently watched a documentary on Loretta Lynn, she had 4 kids by 17 …
Posted on 10/10/22 at 7:45 am to MorbidTheClown
It is not just child marriage. A lot of marriages involving minors are forced. The UK has an organization called Karma Nirvana that tries to help young girls who are being forced into marriage.
Posted on 10/10/22 at 7:46 am to MorbidTheClown
Centuries ago it was very common for girls marry in their teens and usually to a guy older than they were. The reason they married older men was because men more often than not already had their own property and were able to provide for a family. And the older men accepted younger brides because they had a better chance of providing him more children. As modern society emerged two things happened
(1) girls began marrying later, usually late teens to early 20s and eventually having fewer children.
(2) the concept of the “teenager” was born. Prior to the Industrial Age, the concept of the teen years being the a transition period between childhood and adulthood really didn’t exist as we know it today. Pretty much when you were through puberty, childhood was over.
As for today, there is no valid reason for a gown man to have any interest in a teenage girl. And even in the pre-industrial era, there’s never been a valid reason for interest in a pre-teen girl.
(1) girls began marrying later, usually late teens to early 20s and eventually having fewer children.
(2) the concept of the “teenager” was born. Prior to the Industrial Age, the concept of the teen years being the a transition period between childhood and adulthood really didn’t exist as we know it today. Pretty much when you were through puberty, childhood was over.
As for today, there is no valid reason for a gown man to have any interest in a teenage girl. And even in the pre-industrial era, there’s never been a valid reason for interest in a pre-teen girl.
Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:07 am to MorbidTheClown
My long time gf at LaTech in the mid 80’s, her brother was a year older than me and married a 13 year old gal from Tyler, TX.
Then in Tulsa after college I worked with 2 gals getting separate divorces both in their late teens. Both married at 13.
It happens just rarely.
Then in Tulsa after college I worked with 2 gals getting separate divorces both in their late teens. Both married at 13.
It happens just rarely.
Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:07 am to LRB1967
My grandfather was 33 when he married my grandmother who was 17. This was after he returned from WW1 in Europe.
They had 14 kids, otherwise known as farm hands.
They had 14 kids, otherwise known as farm hands.
Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:13 am to Darth_Vader
quote:maybe that’s where the age old saying “she bleeds she breeds” originated
And even in the pre-industrial era, there’s never been a valid reason for interest in a pre-teen girl.
Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:14 am to BHTiger
quote:
My grandfather was 33 when he married my grandmother who was 17.
If it comes off as critical of your grandparents, then I'm sorry and it isn't intended. But, that has to be incredibly unpleasant for the 17 year old.
Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:15 am to MorbidTheClown
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Child Marriage is a Real Thing in the U.S.?

Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:18 am to Usual Suspect
i just found the whole thing pretty disturbing. maybe i just haven't been paying attention. i hear this being talked about regarding some middle eastern countries. But, i never imagined it was happening in this country.
why would a parent agree to let their 13 yr old daughter marry a 30 something yr old man?
why would a parent agree to let their 13 yr old daughter marry a 30 something yr old man?
Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:19 am to MorbidTheClown
Everyone knows white people don't go into the ghetto.
Why would you assume they'd go into any of the non-crime ridden ghettos?
Why would you assume they'd go into any of the non-crime ridden ghettos?
Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:20 am to BHTiger
quote:
My grandfather was 33 when he married my grandmother who was 17. This was after he returned from WW1 in Europe.
This isn't child marriage though. By today's standards, based on how people are socialized, it seems wildly off, but before the extended adolescence era of adult life became the norm a 17/18 year was a legitimate adult in terms of expectations and responsibilities.
Now, because people typically graduate high school before doing anything else, and then college, etc. It's very strange from a maturity standpoint.
A 17 year old in 1920 had the maturity of a 35 year old today because they had to in order to survive.
A 17 year old today is like a little kid.
This post was edited on 10/10/22 at 8:21 am
Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:21 am to GoldenGuy
the frick does that have to do with the topic?
Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:23 am to tiggerthetooth
quote:
A 17 year old in 1920 had the maturity of a 35 year old today because they had to in order to survive.
It was 1920, not 1820. If you made it past birth, you were pretty much good.
Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:25 am to Darth_Vader
(3) They had to have more children due to higher infant and child mortality rates (only in the last century has modern medicine lowered those).
Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:34 am to GetCocky11
quote:
It was 1920, not 1820. If you made it past birth, you
You still had to make your own way and if you were in a rural area that was even more true.
Some rural areas in the US didn't get electricity until the 1960s.
Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:39 am to BHTiger
quote:Funny but true.
They had 14 kids, otherwise known as farm hands.

Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:42 am to MorbidTheClown
What else, but $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:42 am to GoldenGuy
quote:
Everyone knows white people don't go into the ghetto.
Why would you assume they'd go into any of the non-crime ridden ghettos?

Posted on 10/10/22 at 8:46 am to MorbidTheClown
Sounds like a Mormon thing.
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