re: Child Marriage is a Real Thing in the U.S.?

Can thank the religious zealots for this

Almost all of my grandmothers sisters married at 14 and married guys no older than 16. They were all married until death. Things were just different.

I worked with a guy, he’s probably 60 now. He married at 22 and his wife was 16 and still in high school. They are still married.

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History is so very different than what we accept today. Nobody should get married in their teens though, live your life for a bit.

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It was even different 50-60 years ago. In the 50s and 60s lots of young girls got married while still in high school (at least in the country) and were having babies by their senior year.

When I graduated in the 70s, most of my friends and I dated men that were at least 20-21 when we were 16-17. I had several friends my sr. year with 25 year old boyfriends. This is why you had songs then like "My Sharona."

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And 17 year olds in 1920 weren't using their prefrontal cortex to memorize K-Pop songs or how to get the most attention on tiktok by shaking your arse. They knew from a young age what their roles would be and they learned them well.

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That’s not what your prefrontal cortex is used for. If you’re going to be snarky, at least be correct and snarky

I married my wife 48 years ago. She was 16 and I was 21. My parents married at the same exact ages as did her parents. Both of our parents got married after coming home from military service. What people call child abuse now waw more common when we were kids. I had many friends who had to leave home when they graduated. We didn't have Game Boys and I-pads and laptops to spend our lives laying on the couch with. Now days 30 and 40 year olds still live with mommy and daddy. Most with college degrees and no job. And they are referred to as kids. We became men when we were 18. My older friends were fighting in the jungles of Viet Nam when they were 18. And some of the enemy they were fighting was 12. When they returned, they saw 13 and 14 year olds as adults. We were not considered pedophiles. You would have had to lock up a very large percentage of the population.

My mother was 15 when she married my father. They are still married now.

My mom got married at 17. (no she was not pregnant). My dad was 23. They were married for 61 happy years when pops died. Were they sick freaks? Just asking since your generalization of anyone under 18 getting married as being sick.

*Jerry Lee Lewis checks into the thread*



I have an aunt who married my uncle at age 15. They've been married 56 years now.

I sure as shite wouldn't let either of my daughters (no pics you pervs) marry that young today. Hell, they better be finished with college before even contemplating marriage. Things were different back then. It is not good to always judge people from the past on modern social standards. If you do, then everyone was wrong about everything.

I think manhood or adulthood has been delayed a good 10 years.

Most 20 something's I know now don't really have any handle on life and get their shite together until about 28. Roll out of college, try to keep that going while working something entry level, etc.

I'm mid thirties and even from my age group, I was the only one to go to college, pay for it myself, and the only one to move out right after.

ETA: I started dating my wife when I was 20 and she was 18.