What’s a good book for a 16 year old kid who needs to learn to talk to people.

I've never read it, but I've always heard good things about this book:

How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Don’t just read the book. Get them practicing. Maybe a job as a waiter.

So many young hires we make out of good colleges struggle with in person communication.

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Don’t just read the book. Get them practicing. Maybe a job as a waiter.

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This right here. I was very shy and reserved as a teen. It wasn't till waiting tables that I learned how to better interact with people I would not normally want/need to conversate with. Working in a restaurant is great experience for anyone to learn how to deal with the public or many different types of people.

As much as I love to read the written word and encourage everyone to read as much as they can, I don't think the answer to this lies in a book unless it's joining a book club to talk and discuss books in person with other people. This is something he needs to join a team or group activity in order to learn

Marcus Aurelius Meditations

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I sucked at this and am still not great. I understand where he’s coming from. It took me years and years and like 5 careers to get reasonably comfortable at this and I’m still awkward as crap at times. Please tell me there’s a how to manual

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He needs a job where he interacts with a lot of people and needs to be in social settings frequently. Experience will help. A book is only going to seclude him.

If he’s on video games a lot, that’s probably the root of the problem. Studies have shown it severely hampers communication skills.

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I sucked at this and am still not great. I understand where he’s coming from. It took me years and years and like 5 careers to get reasonably comfortable at this and I’m still awkward as crap at times. Please tell me there’s a how to manual

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If you want a good book for how to deal with conflict and troubled relationships try Feeling Good Together by Dr David Burns.

It focuses a lot on husband/wife issues, but works great for work and other relationships, has examples for those as well. A lot of practicing tips and exercises.