re: Funny story about my liberal daughter.

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Your daughter is not your enemy!

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No, but she is an adult and needs to learn that her decisions have consequences.

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Try loving her unconditionally and watch the change.

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Worst. Advice. Ever. Never love someone unconditionally.

I had an uncle that took this approach. Gave his son everything, expect nothing, by 22 he was a heroin addict because his dad always fixed his frick ups. Wrecked his brand new 350z four times in the same year? Time to buy him expensive rims, audio system and exhaust system. What? Expect him to hold a job or make good grades? Nah, we're on the unconditional love train baby, he'll come around!

No. Reality exists. Relationships have expectations. His daughter isn't 5, she's an adult. Sounds like she needs to learn that her behaviors have consequences.

Reserve love for an honest change, like the prodigal son, but don't keep enabling bad behavior out of "unconditional love".

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I have one daughter that went to grad school at UT in Austin. Same thing happened to her. She told me about 2 years ago that she was “white privileged”.
I told her NO, you have some economic privilege but there is no such thing as white privileged.
My other two kids are very conservative. I blame that shithole communist school in Austin.

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Hope she realizes the truth over time.

These threads and stories like this [and advice given above your post advising this as an opportunity to repair the relationship] are why I love this little forum.

You need to keep her on health insurance.

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Man, tricky upcoming situation.

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Not tricky...she's an adult. In age term anyways.

Sometimes we can be so similar to our kids it keeps us from seeing why we don't get along like we think we should. Maybe both emails could have been done better I'm not sure but both my parents are gone along with my brother's and to this day I would give up all the gold in the world to speak with them again.

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Uh what?

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Loving unconditionally is retarded.

There are lots of conditions you place on every relationship you have with loved ones. This isn't a difficult concept to grasp.

People need to experience what independence really means for them to understand it.

Hopefully, she is smart enough to realize the hypocrisy of her stance. If she is, she will see past the delusion and apologize. If she isn't, she will double down and spiral further down the leftist hole of pity and ingratitude.

As they say, sometimes people need to hit rock bottom before they can climb back up.

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so we have been giving her financial assistance since she graduated. We continued to carry insurance, both automotive and health, and we were sliding her about $500.00/ month to help her pay her bills.

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This is your fault.

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She moved to Boston right after graduation and it's expensive to live there.

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Then she shouldn't be living there if she can't afford to do so on her own.

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I don't think I could ever let her completely crash and burn

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Again, this is your fault.

I don't know why parents our age will not let our children experience the consequences of their choices, but it's ruining the country.

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Completely cutting them out of your life and shunning them because they have different political views is vindictive.

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If you read the OP. then you know that that is what his daughter did, not him.

That's what leftists do. It's part of the culture.

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Tell her she always has a place to stay at your house. DO NOT PAY FOR A PLACE TO STAY FOR HER.

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This is the correct answer.

You can take her in to keep her from sleeping under a bridge, but other than that, she needs to experience the full consequences of her choices. It's the only way she will learn or be motivated to make different choices.