re: Your personal thoughts on adoption

I think it is AWESOME, I have a twin sister and we are well not old but older, and she and I were adopted at birth, few years back found our birth mom, seems she lived very close the where we ended up. Thank god for adoptions, and for folks willing to do this, if not for them who knows what may have happened to me and my sis. I think your wife is pretty kool to even consider it, I know I would after having been through it myself. And to be honest with you, your reasoning for not wanting to adopt is really asinine, that just shows your ignorance, not made from your parts? WTF man get a grip. Anyway I think adoption is great. Tell you wife she's great for even talking about it.

To me children are children if you have them from newborn on. So yeah I would adopt if I had to.

Think about this. At the hospital when you have your kid at some point the kid leaves your sight with hospital personnel. If the kid got swapped out of your sight and there was no obvious way to tell, would you love the kid any less?

You talk about it being part of you. In reality we're all related at some point waaaay down the line.

My wife (kid's stepmom) has taught me that you can love a child as your own without being related by blood.

She is a damn good mother to our kids.

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Think about this. At the hospital when you have your kid at some point the kid leaves your sight with hospital personnel. If the kid got swapped out of your sight and there was no obvious way to tell, would you love the kid any less?

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This has happened in the past a number of times, in some cases it was years before the parents found out their child was not biologically theirs. Biology is not what determines who is the parent of a child, a child's parents are those people that have choosen to love them and provide for them regardless of where their genes came from.

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Biology is not what determines who is the parent of a child, a child's parents are those people that have choosen to love them and provide for them regardless of where their genes came from.

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This sounds like some hippy shite right here. Let me guess, gender isn't biological either right?

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I feel like the relationship would be really different, and don't think I'd ever go for adopting.

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If you have doubts about adopting, I wouldn't recommend doing it then. I think adopting is great but IMO, you've gotta be 100% sure about it and committed because its a decision that'll affect both you and the kid for the rest of your lives.

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child was still not created from parts of us

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Well then frick that tpos, because you're t0tally like god's gift to earth. Aren't you scared you may get stuck with a brown one? Yuck.

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I am speaking to you with personal experience in adoption. In 2015 my wife and I decided to foster a nine year old boy. The first three months were great however that all changed soon after that! We found out that he had been concealing some major behavior problems and he had been on his best behavior until then. Against our best instincts we decided to go ahead and adopt him with the false belief we could "fix" him. Since we have adopted him our lives have been a living hell.

He now takes medication to help with his violent outbursts and is in therapy twice a week. He has reduced my wife to a nervous wreck which ultimately resulted in my wife and I both having to take medication for depression and anxiety issues. He hates my oldest son and I caution anyone who is considering adoption to proceed with extreme caution!

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dayum sounds like a horror story.


if youre going to adopt id adopt a kid as an infant

My wife and I have 2 biological kids right now. 12 year old son, 10 year old son. We currently are in the process of adopting 2 other boys, 8 and 6. They were both in foster care. Their mom took them to school one day and never came back. She never came to any follow up court dates either. Eventually parental rights were terminated and DHS took custody. There are thousands of kids in foster care that just need somebody. I would always encourage someone to consider foster care adoption. We started the process last January (2016) and met the boys in November of last year. We started visits the 1st weekend of December. Starting the 28th of December they spent every weekend with us until March 10th. On March 10th they were placed with us full time. We have a 6 month foster placement and then we can adopt. Our court date for adoption is set right now for October 18th. The boys are extremely excited, as well as us. It's not the easiest thing in the world but when you know where they've come from and what they've been through, giving them a stable home is the least we could do.