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re: You ever discovered an immediate relative whom you weren't aware of? - Update on Page 6
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:19 pm to Naked Bootleg
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:19 pm to Naked Bootleg
One of my pledge brothers and I found out we were third cousins, but that’s as close as I have.
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Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:20 pm to Naked Bootleg
I've thought about doing one of these DNA things thinking it would be cool to find some distant relatives in the old country, but then again I don't want to open any unknown cans of worms.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:21 pm to Naked Bootleg
Your poor wife.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:25 pm to Naked Bootleg
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That's the guilt I try to accept. I got her pregnant and she had no idea how to get ahold of me. Probably didn't even remember my last name.
Interesting point. Being that you were that drunk, how did you remember her last name?
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:32 pm to SouthEndzoneTiger
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Serial killer, murderer, your parents aren't yours, you have a long lost kid, etc. I
Guess I can't speak for you, but I would think you would know if you were a serial killer or a murderer. Hell, you should have a reasonable assumption as to whether or not you are a rapist.
I say reasonable because any time you have a 1 night stand you are increasing the odds of a regret sex rape claim.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:34 pm to Naked Bootleg
I sprayed so much spuz around in the 90's there is no way in hell I am doing one of those tests.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:35 pm to Naked Bootleg
I caught that experience from the opposing view. My birth family found me through 23andMe. give it some time before you react to the new information, nothing can be gained from having a knee jerk reaction.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:37 pm to Weekend Warrior79
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Guess I can't speak for you, but I would think you would know if you were a serial killer or a murderer. Hell, you should have a reasonable assumption as to whether or not you are a rapist.
Come on man. Do I really need to explain to you that I meant you discovered a relative that was a murderer or serial killer? I thought that was pretty obvious.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:38 pm to Naked Bootleg
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I got a wonderful surprise; she got her life turned upside-down.
Seriously, give her time to process. I knew who my dad was, but did not meet him till I was 22 because my parents divorced when she was pregnant back in the 60's when that sort of thing wasn't done. He's a great person and my kids love he and my step mom and have grown up with them as grandparents. I love them too, but my relationship with him will never be the same as if I grew up with this. These things really aren't like Oprah where everyone is hugging and crying to meet the long lost relative.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:42 pm to Naked Bootleg
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The mom's story was that the daughter was a product of rape. She shared details of the rape she was told by her mom, what the guy looked like, where it allegedly occurred. Before telling me all this (before she ever responded to me at all) the daughter showed her mom my pic from 23andme and she confirmed I was not the dude. Maybe she did get raped around the same time, who knows, but it wasn't me. (I know how much mileage this rape deal will get.. but I am not the rapist!! /Maury Povich )
At least the woman is honest.... Damn. Imagine not having a relationship with your newfound kid because she thinks you raped her mom.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:42 pm to SouthEndzoneTiger
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Interesting point. Being that you were that drunk, how did you remember her last name?
I didn't remember her first or last name! We were wasted and didn't exactly exchange contact cards.. When I matched with the daughter, I did not recognize her last name.
When I figured out who her mom was (again, very long story on how I got to that point - lots & lots of scouring people searches, family trees & birth records on Ancestry, social media for pics, etc.) I still did not remember her name or even recognize her. But then I found some old pics of the mom on classmates yearbook, and that ruled out a candidate or two but still not totally sure who she was. A little later I found pics of the mom's mom, a very unforgettable person who was camping with the mom that weekend, and all the memories of that weekend came flooding back.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:43 pm to Naked Bootleg
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I had no idea who the mother was. At first, I thought I knew, but I was wrong. Besides - on 23andme, I can't see her mom's info. Her mom probably isn't even on there
The service sends an email that says you have a match that is possibly a close relative like mother/father, etc.
My family found out a few years ago that my now decreased grandmother had a baby she gave up for adoption in the 30's 7 years before my mom was born, way before she met my grandfather. We have met the half sister/aunt. She moved away, lived with her sister in another part of the state, and gave up the baby. It's not like they are close family now. They are in their 80's. But she does look exactly like my grandmother. Ancestry said to my uncle that she was a close relative, possibly sister or first cousin.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:45 pm to Naked Bootleg
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I've messaged the daughter
You done goofed. let sleeping dogs lie
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:46 pm to Weekend Warrior79
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you have a 1 night stand you are increasing the odds of a regret sex rape claim.
Now that you mention it, that's the reason for the rape story. Then she didn't have to explain that she barely knew the baby daddy's name, much less how to find him.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:53 pm to LaLadyinTx
quote:glad you got that ironed out
My family found out a few years ago that my now decreased grandmother had a baby she gave up for adoption in the 30's
Posted on 10/14/21 at 2:55 pm to Stealth Matrix
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At least the woman is honest.... Damn. Imagine not having a relationship with your newfound kid because she thinks you raped her mom.
I agree wholeheartedly. And there's other facets to this. If you're going to make up a story, why not instead just say you don't know the father? Why make your daughter believe she is a product of something horrible like rape? And what does all this do to their relationship? It's sad both ways.
The mom "came clean" when my daughter, at 14 years old, asked why she doesn't look like her little sisters. Until that point, she thought her then-stepdad was her dad. Maybe the mom did get raped around the same time, I hope not. I can't judge any of this though, it's not my place.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 3:02 pm to Naked Bootleg
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And there's other facets to this. If you're going to make up a story, why not instead just say you don't know the father?
Because she didn't want her family to know she had a one night stand and didn't even know his whole name? Rape story gives mom sympathy instead of judgment.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 3:05 pm to LaLadyinTx
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LaLadyinTx
Smart thought. Makes sense.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 3:06 pm to terriblegreen
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The daughter lives 4 hours away and he drives 16 total hours every other weekend to spend time with her.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 3:22 pm to Naked Bootleg
Met a guy in a hotel bar who turned out to be my cousin.
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