re: WWTOTD: acknowledging (or not acknowledging) your SO's Birthday.

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I'm not surprised that I haven't gotten one positive reply to what Ive posted. People on this board are usually just false, to young to know better or either huge douchebags.

There are only a few things in this world of real value. There is a lot that goes into being a real and decent man. Sounding cool to random "baws" on a message board isn't very high up on my list.

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And I'm not surprised that you can't see the other obvious side of this. They've been together for six months and we don't even know how the rest of the day will pan out. But that doesn't stop OP from setting the tone by sending a bitchy text to let him know that he has already screwed up.

You wouldn't get it, Ray Romano. It's "your job" to make your wife happy. That is an easy thing to say when your wife is an awesome, reasonable adult. Have you ever thought about how your view might change if your wife was the type of person to project her own insecurities onto you for things like this? The day isn't even over yet, which is why most in this thread have rightly said that they would run for the hills upon receipt of a text from a 30 year old that one would normally expect only from a young girl.

If the dude totally forgets, fine dump him. Most people would try harder to remember something like a birthday in a relatively new relationship. But his failure to say anything this morning is nowhere near as big of a red flag as that text.

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Look, all I can say is everyone's different.

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It doesn't matter if "he" is different. It matters what Pox thinks. If he's been dating her for 6 months, surely to God he would know this is important to her. Sorry, but it's the one day where you bend over backwards for your SO. The fact that he doesn't give that much of a frick to even acknowledge it means he doesn't care.

Hell, all my dear friends get birthday texts thanks to Facebook (may send that out once a month though and not for everyone). As a male, it would be highly offensive to me if my SO forgot my birthday.

But we don't know if he forgot.

A. He claimed that he didn't and he THOUGHT "have a good day today" was fine.

B. The thread was started at only 3:45

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clueless to that fact if they live on this planet. Women love their birthdays and if not, will let you know. You assume they love their birthdays unless told otherwise. Really?

So he's just making her feel like shite all day and then is going to say "surprise, I'm taking you out to dinner?" I really hope you have dated men that don't act like this, because that's not how a real man acts towards his SO, ever.

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Yeah, the women in this thread are living in a fairy tale delusion. If a man doesn't care enough to remember your birthday, then doesn't care enough about you to spend his life with you. You're simply a hole for him to put his dick in and at best someone to bitch to.

That's the way I and I expect most men feel. If I actually care for the person, then I'm going to make a point to call them up and be there for their special days.

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the women in this thread

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Clearly dind't read the thread.

Honestly, I would have rather him tell me he forgot as opposed to just foregoing telling me happy bday bc he thought it was 'cliche'. He knew it was a big deal to me and maybe y'all think that is childish but I don't really care. I'm not on here crying over the fact he got me an undesirable gift or some shite; I'm just talking about not having an important bday acknowledged.

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I broke up with my last GF because she called me on my birthday and told me to pay a parking ticket she got

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This is exactly what I'm talking about. A man cherishes his birthday, and frick anyone who screws it up.

I said both of them didn't sound good. I just wanted to know which one it was. I guess it really didn't matter at that point though.

I will say this. If you are sitting on your couch drinking wine alone after explicitly telling him, clearly this isn't abnormal behavior. I was giving him the benefit of the doubt of just forgetting or being a dumbass when you disappeared for a bit.

I have wine and fajitas if you want some

Thanks for stating the obvious. We've said in the thread I turned 30, I know I'm old as shite, I know I suck at dating, I know some people it wouldn't be a big deal but it matters to me. So thank you for your contribution to my 8 page thread.