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re: WWTOTD: acknowledging (or not acknowledging) your SO's Birthday.
Posted on 5/10/16 at 5:25 pm to LouisianaLady
Posted on 5/10/16 at 5:25 pm to LouisianaLady
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Look, all I can say is everyone's different. Different upbringing, the fact that they've only been together 6 months, and the fact that today is a Tuesday might also factor into it. Maybe he's a jerk who doesn't give a shite.. or maybe he's just a bit clueless. Or maybe he has a surprise planned for later. I have no idea. But if the relationship is solid otherwise, this is hardly the hill to die on IMO. Now.. if there are other issues, that is for Pox to decide.
No man is clueless to that fact if they live on this planet. Women love their birthdays and if not, will let you know. You assume they love their birthdays unless told otherwise. Really?
So he's just making her feel like shite all day and then is going to say "surprise, I'm taking you out to dinner?" I really hope you have dated men that don't act like this, because that's not how a real man acts towards his SO, ever.
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Posted on 5/10/16 at 5:30 pm to Sparkplug#1
"Real Man" And no, there isn't some magical body part that makes women "OMG LOVE" their birthday. I enjoy celebrating my birthday because, frick, who doesn't love celebrating anything? So you know what I do? I celebrate it. I tell my SO where I want to eat and what he can buy me if he wants to get a gift.
FWIW, I don't think Pox is doing anything wrong. But you people need to cool it with this "Women do XYZ" bullshite. Plenty of people (both men and women) just tell their SO what they want to do so there are no guessing games.
They've been together less time than it took for me to say I Love You and, as I said, it is a Tuesday. It isn't unheard of to think maybe he thought she was a weekend-birthday-celebrator.
Could he have said Happy Birthday before she confronted him? Sure. Is it worth breaking up if everything else is fine? Eh..
Some people just aren't good at this kind of thing. It doesn't mean they're not a "real man".. it just means Pox has to decide if she's cool with it. I spend way too much time on another website, and this topic comes up a lot. The general consensus is that you accept that you'll probably have to make some play calls of your own when it comes to your birthday.. or you just decide this isn't worth your time.
This post was edited on 5/10/16 at 5:35 pm
Posted on 5/10/16 at 5:33 pm to LouisianaLady
That isn't at all what I'm saying. Most women enjoy thier birthdays, and should. I have zero problem with that. Actually, that makes me feel good because I can do something for them on their birthday that makes them feel good. That's what you do right, make your SO feel good?
Secondly, I'm on the side of Pox. What would make you think otherwise from my texts?
Secondly, I'm on the side of Pox. What would make you think otherwise from my texts?
This post was edited on 5/10/16 at 5:38 pm
Posted on 5/10/16 at 5:33 pm to LouisianaLady
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Posted on 5/10/16 at 5:44 pm to Sparkplug#1
I think what she is saying is you need to read redit more to become a relationship expert
Posted on 5/10/16 at 5:47 pm to Lester Earl
I wasn't referring to Reddit, but I read that too! I'm sure this topic has been there too. Everything has.
But by all means, color me surprised if you're like this guy. Pleasantly surprised, but surprised nonetheless.
I'm sure this topic has been there too. Everything has. But by all means, color me surprised if you're like this guy. Pleasantly surprised, but surprised nonetheless.
This post was edited on 5/10/16 at 5:49 pm
Posted on 5/10/16 at 5:48 pm to Lester Earl
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I think what she is saying is you need to read redit more to become a relationship exp
Are you loomising? Lol, I give up.
Posted on 5/10/16 at 5:50 pm to Rox
Pox, I would be mad too. Well 80% hurt, 20% mad. The madness percentage would increase throughout the day.
Posted on 5/10/16 at 5:53 pm to ninthward
How hard is it to put a bday reminder in your phone of the chick you're nailing?
Posted on 5/10/16 at 5:56 pm to LouisianaLady
You or me does not decide what's important to other people. If her birthday is important to her as it is to most girls, I'm not gonna make the mistake of not mentioning it. That is the easiest part.
I'm a guy and at the age of where I don't really care about my birthday. That isn't an excuse to dismiss someone else's happiness over their birthday.
I'm a guy and at the age of where I don't really care about my birthday. That isn't an excuse to dismiss someone else's happiness over their birthday.
Posted on 5/10/16 at 5:58 pm to Lester Earl
Happy early bday buddy
Posted on 5/10/16 at 5:59 pm to Lester Earl
As far as having something to do, that isn't the issue here. He flat out didn't acknowledge that it was her birthday.
Yea you have less of a gripe if she wants to have a night out and doesn't mention anything about it. Though most good b/f's would take it upon themselves to either cook or plan a dinner or something fun with friends
Yea you have less of a gripe if she wants to have a night out and doesn't mention anything about it. Though most good b/f's would take it upon themselves to either cook or plan a dinner or something fun with friends
Posted on 5/10/16 at 5:59 pm to Rox
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Thanks, Wink. I know female brain is making me overreact, but it was a big deal to me. Literally, the best thing about today is hearing from my family that I don't see often, I'm not materialistic at all so just the acknowledgement goes a long way.
And there you have it. If he didn't understand after 6 months of dating that your upcoming 30th bday was a big deal to you, then he's not gonna remember your 31st bday either. Cut and run girl. You deserve better on your birthday!
Posted on 5/10/16 at 6:02 pm to terd ferguson
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He's just not that into you...
Yep. Honestly on both sides that's breakup material forgetting your SO's birthday. If you forget about your SO's birthday, then you clearly don't give a frick about them. No person would ever let that day slide.
For frick's sake, we have Facebook to remind us of this now. Just find someone else Pox, because this isn't going to work out.
Posted on 5/10/16 at 6:04 pm to Lester Earl
I never said it was fine for him to dismiss her birthday FWIW. I said to not get too worked up over it yet since the day isn't over and there might be something behind it (his upbringing, the length of their relationship, oblivious personality, etc.). Since the thread was started at 3:45 and she had already expressed her disappointment to him and accused him of a 50/50 shot of not giving a frick when he may have just forgotten (or had after-work plans.. or just been an oblivious dumbshit), it might have been jumping the gun. That's all.
This post was edited on 5/10/16 at 6:05 pm
Posted on 5/10/16 at 6:08 pm to genro
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at least wait until the end of the day before you go into OMG YOU FORGOT mode. Maybe he wanted to make you think he forget and surprise you tonight
Never mind my post then. Thought the day had passed completely without saying it.
Posted on 5/10/16 at 6:10 pm to OMLandshark
Sounds like he thought his "have a good day" was his way of saying it. Makes him a dumbshit, but not so much a malicious a-hole.
Now if dumbshit is a dealbreaker... that's another [totally understandable] issue..
Now if dumbshit is a dealbreaker... that's another [totally understandable] issue..
Posted on 5/10/16 at 6:20 pm to shel311
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I'm a guy, I wouldn't care in the least if they forgot, especially if they've never been my girlfriend for a birthday yet.
That's total bullshite. You may not want it in the way of an instant message, but every man wants the woman to do at least something for him on his special day. Whether it be cooking in the nude, buying you a gift card for Top Golf, or leaving him the frick alone, all men want at least something for their birthday from their woman.
I would break up with a girl who didn't give a frick about my birthday, since that highly implies they don't give a frick about me.
Posted on 5/10/16 at 6:22 pm to OMLandshark
I broke up with my last GF because she called me on my birthday and told me to pay a parking ticket she got
Posted on 5/10/16 at 6:26 pm to Sun God
Does tiger pox's SO not know of her postings on here?
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