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re: Wife had a miscarriage..This sucks
Posted on 1/28/15 at 5:30 pm to Leonard Threenette
Posted on 1/28/15 at 5:30 pm to Leonard Threenette
Also my friend got involved with a support group of women that had all gone through miscarriages and still births. I know that helped her a lot to have that group to lean on. She has made a lot of good friends with many of the women in her group as well.
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Posted on 1/28/15 at 5:34 pm to Leonard Threenette
Sorry brother. Hopefully you all both find peace
Posted on 1/28/15 at 5:37 pm to lsunurse
I don't know why I clicked on this thread in the first place, my wife is 35 weeks and all I can think about now is what if we're put in this situation. We originally conceived twins but around 8 weeks or so we found that the 2nd one wasn't viable and the body ended up absorbing it. Doc thinks that we lost it around 3-4 weeks. Our first sonogram was with 2 sacs and a small little fetus in the 2nd one. Eventually the body pushed it out and we only see the one sac now.
Can't imagine what your're going through OP. I think there's people on here with personal or close experience that have given some amazing advice.
For the dickhead(s) that are asking why to post it here. It's because OP will get 50 responses of people giving personal stories that will make OP feel like he's not alone in this. I would do the same thing.
Can't imagine what your're going through OP. I think there's people on here with personal or close experience that have given some amazing advice.
For the dickhead(s) that are asking why to post it here. It's because OP will get 50 responses of people giving personal stories that will make OP feel like he's not alone in this. I would do the same thing.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 5:41 pm to Leonard Threenette
quote:
We were only like 9 weeks, but she's taking it pretty rough. I kind of feel helpless because I can't fix this, but I guess the only thing I can do is to be there for her.
Any other advice?
Dont stop trying. 70% of first pregnancies are lost...many so early they don't known it. If its your first its usually a dry run to get the body ready. The next six weeks she will be insanely fertile. Many people conceive again witithkn the first six weeks. Keep your head up. We were pregnant both times just weeks after a miscarriage. Its not easy. I'm sorry.
Stay positive. If it was to be your first its extra horrible. We went through it after years of not being able to have any. The body prepared and bam! We pregnant again
Posted on 1/28/15 at 5:44 pm to Leonard Threenette
Been there. I'm so sorry.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 5:44 pm to Leonard Threenette
OP, it takes courage to even post what you did. Hope you're getting some good out if it, cheers bro.!
Posted on 1/28/15 at 5:51 pm to Leonard Threenette
We lost twin girls 45 years ago, still tough to remember, but have two beautiful daughters and 6 beautiful grand children
Keep the faith
Keep the faith
Posted on 1/28/15 at 6:10 pm to Leonard Threenette
Army family services has a group called Glory Babies, it's a support group for folks like your wife.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 6:11 pm to Leonard Threenette
My wife had two, it sucks but just be there for her and deal with it yourself. My wife just needed me to hold her care for her.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 6:14 pm to Leonard Threenette
This happened to me a few months back with my SO.
(Everyone in the OT was kind, I had a few drinks and brought it here, not the smartest move, but sometimes you feel like talking but just not to anyone you really know yet, and the OT showed class)
She took it hard too, laid down a lot and was quiet, just..down about everything in the situation. Including herself. Just be kind patient and there for her if she needs you. Vulnerable is how I saw her, hope things get better.
(Everyone in the OT was kind, I had a few drinks and brought it here, not the smartest move, but sometimes you feel like talking but just not to anyone you really know yet, and the OT showed class)
She took it hard too, laid down a lot and was quiet, just..down about everything in the situation. Including herself. Just be kind patient and there for her if she needs you. Vulnerable is how I saw her, hope things get better.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 6:15 pm to Leonard Threenette
Be there for her is all you can do, comfort her. My wife had one at 15 weeks. It was awful.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 6:17 pm to SEClint
We had one a few months ago and it's tough. My wife was about six weeks and we were surprisingly excited to welcome our fourth baby.
Now, we are ten weeks along with our fourth, it's a blessing
Now, we are ten weeks along with our fourth, it's a blessing
Posted on 1/28/15 at 6:17 pm to Leonard Threenette
We have been there 5 times. We are now adopting. You will both experience the stages of grief differently and at different times. I was angry for a very long time. I made it abundantly clear to her that I was mad at God and not her but it's still hard on both of you. Just make sure that you tell her that you love her. Be strong for her now because she may need to be strong for you in a few months when you are finally able to grieve.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 6:18 pm to thejudge
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70% of first pregnancies are lost...many so early they don't known it.
wow, that's a high number there...never would have thought it was a high percentage, maybe 20-30% if I had to guess. Oh, and to the OP...sorry for y'alls loss, truly sad to hear. I hope y'all find comfort.
This post was edited on 1/28/15 at 6:20 pm
Posted on 1/28/15 at 6:29 pm to Leonard Threenette
Everything belongs to God.
Everything.
Everyone.
its not the easiest time to learn that lesson but there is no end to the suffering until people learn it.
its all on loan from God. If you can feel like your entire life is on loan, from God, then when things like you are going through happen, you have a shot.
A friend of mine likes to use an expression to remind me of the "on loan" nature of things, people. She says, its (person or thing) been "recalled".
as for what you do. love. love. love.
be sure she knows you do not blame her and that your love in UNCONDITIONAL.
invite her to be confessed if you think she may blame herself, need to forgive herself. you can lead her to forgive herself.
(self talk like: I should not have drunk alcohol. I should not have smoked. I should have been in better shape. I ... whatever.
Help her forgive herself.
Everything.
Everyone.
its not the easiest time to learn that lesson but there is no end to the suffering until people learn it.
its all on loan from God. If you can feel like your entire life is on loan, from God, then when things like you are going through happen, you have a shot.
A friend of mine likes to use an expression to remind me of the "on loan" nature of things, people. She says, its (person or thing) been "recalled".
as for what you do. love. love. love.
be sure she knows you do not blame her and that your love in UNCONDITIONAL.
invite her to be confessed if you think she may blame herself, need to forgive herself. you can lead her to forgive herself.
(self talk like: I should not have drunk alcohol. I should not have smoked. I should have been in better shape. I ... whatever.
Help her forgive herself.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 6:33 pm to sassyLSU
yea, it's gods will that a child never sees the light of day. 
that's like the worst thing you could tell someone who just lost their child. "it's okay, god never wanted that child to live, he wanted you to suffer"
that's like the worst thing you could tell someone who just lost their child. "it's okay, god never wanted that child to live, he wanted you to suffer"
Posted on 1/28/15 at 6:40 pm to TH03
I'm sure she is only trying to come from a place of love with her comment...but yes, while someone is grieving is usually not the time to say things like that. Especially if you don't know the person's faith.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 6:43 pm to Leonard Threenette
Just keep fricking her until Allah blesses you with a strong baby boy/girl.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 6:45 pm to lsunurse
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Especially if you don't know the person's faith.
it's insensitive as hell.
absolutely no need to bring religion even if you do know the person is devout. it's just not the place to tell someone that.
Posted on 1/28/15 at 6:49 pm to TH03
Well I would think it's ok and maybe a comfort to someone you know that has a strong faith and is grieving if you tell them you are praying for them(and you actually mean it). I would say that's ok. But yes.....theology debates can wait.
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