re: Why would anyone have kids before their 30’s?

You know how hangovers suck the older you get? So do sleepless nights.

Also, if you wait until you’re 32/32 to have a kid, you’ll be closer to 60 to have grandkids. Again, youth helps when dealing with the energy of young children.

I had kids at 23 and 25. Married at 21 and almost to 15 years.

I wasn’t a wild kid in college. Basically starved and worked 60 hour weeks to get through. Getting married helped me financially but just enough to graduate without debt.

For those that enjoy a good time, maybe it’s better to wait, but I wasn’t a drinker till my 30s so I didn’t really miss out on much. I’ll be an empty nester at 43 and hopefully have grandkids before I’m 50. Just matters what you want from life. One isn’t better than another.

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I had kids at 23 and 25. Married at 21 and almost to 15 years. I wasn’t a wild kid in college. Basically starved and worked 60 hour weeks to get through. Getting married helped me financially but just enough to graduate without debt. For those that enjoy a good time, maybe it’s better to wait, but I wasn’t a drinker till my 30s so I didn’t really miss out on much. I’ll be an empty nester at 43 and hopefully have grandkids before I’m 50. Just matters what you want from life. One isn’t better than another.

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Well said! Everyone's experience is definitely different. Those who haven't had kids won't know until they do, no matter the age.

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but i just know too many people who had children waaay too young and everyone’s fricked up.

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You think older people don’t frick up their kids? Bad parenting happens regardless of age

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You think older people don’t frick up their kids? Bad parenting happens regardless of age

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While this is true, I would say the average 20 year old is less mature and intelligent, than the average 30 year old.

I know I definitely was not ready to have a kid in my younger 20's.

I think late 20s is best, I’m knocking on 44, had a son at 28 who’s 15 and will be gone soon, really enjoying the relationship, now doing grown up things together. It’s all hunting, fishing, baseball, and a little golf. Have a daughter that’s 6 and it’s been tough trying to keep up, kid never runs out of energy, playing like a 6 year old is exhausting, It’s just her making up crazy games that we play non stop for hours and she never tires of them, it’s brutal. Fortunately they moved her age group up in ball so we’re playing Coach pitch this year and she’s really getting in to it, it’s been awesome, I’m hoping this trend continues. It’s getting harder and harder to do the kiddie stuff.

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While this is true, I would say the average 20 year old is less mature and intelligent, than the average 30 year old. I know I definitely was not ready to have a kid in my younger 20's.

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I agree, average 30 year old has more financial stability and relationship stability too. Still, saying all young parents are bad and older parents are good is wrong. I know some late parents that are terrible bc their jobs require too much time and they don’t have the energy to keep up

Again, you are equating your circumstances to everyone else. I was already helping raise a family because my mother battled addiction and I had a brother pass away, so dad was suffering from depression. We also took in a child, a cousin, because of issues she had at home at one point. Kindly go frick yourself.

My wife and I were married in 2012 and we didn’t have our first kid until last year when I was 29. We were married young and could of had kids early on but we decided to wait until we were both settled in careers, owned a house, etc. I don’t regret one thing. My wife and i were able to enjoy our marriage before we started having kids.

Most newlyweds cave into pressure of people bugging them to have kids and I believe that is why the divorce rate is what it is. They change your entire world and your focus become on the child instead on the spouse. There is absolutely no shame into waiting to have kids.