re: Why would anyone have kids before their 30’s?

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I wouldn’t want to be 60 with a kid in high school.

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Why would anyone have kids before their 30’s?

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You know this thing called fertility? The thing that kicks in and allows us to be sexually mature enough to bear children, then goes away (in women) after a period.

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women are perfectly capable of having healthy pregnancies in their 30s.

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Yep and while we are enjoying life after the kids are out on their own, they will be having to do things. I'm definitely glad I didn't wait. I have friends that have kids under 10 in their late 40's and early 50's. They are not enjoying life as much as they thought they would...

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well, yea. That's way too old. I think having a kid at 32-35 is perfectly reasonable. And it's becoming more of the norm with millennials due to student debt, inability to afford buying a home, etc etc

moral of the story- have kids if and when you are financially stable. If that is later on, fine. But if you hit a certain age where it's going to be potentially unhealthy for the woman, maybe just go childless.

51 is not damn near 60. It's damn near 50.

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It been great for my wife and I. While all our buddies were raising hell in their 20's, we were raising kids. Now we are in our 40's with plenty of money and stability, all our buddies are still going to the ballpark and parent teacher conferences.

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that's fine for you all. I've thoroughly enjoyed traveling with my wife through our late 20s. My 20s were hectic, I couldn't imagine having a kid that entire time.

22 is far too young for most people. It wasn't for you, and that's cool. But for most people, it is.

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I liked having parents who were a little younger than most of my friends

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Are you saying that most of your friends were like 20 years older than you?

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women are perfectly capable of having healthy pregnancies in their 30s.

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I don’t make this stuff up. There’s a reason the biological clock starts ticking.

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Get a couple of kids and let us know what you think of hectic...... I can't imagine being 40 years old and trying to manage multiple kids and their activities. No way I could go back to doing that right now.

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I don't think you know what you're talking about, as you don't know me. When I say hectic, I mean dramatic. I have lots of family issues and I had to tote the load for everyone in my early 20s.

And again, the thread title is about having kids in your 30s. Not 40s. Which is the same thing I've posted. I agree having kids at 40 is too old. I think for me, and plenty of others, early 30s is the sweet spot.

Most people at 22 are not equipped to raise kids. You might have been different, and good for you. I was not.

Because I need these mother frickers in their peak earnings years when it’s time for them to pick me out a nursing home

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Are you saying that most of your friends were like 20 years older than you?

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Yeah, that's exactly what I was saying

Pros and cons if each. Me and my wife had ours 2 years ago (i was 33 she was 34). We did enjoy our 20s together, carefree to go and come as we please. But knowing now, what i know with the little guy. We should have done it when we were 25. Would be alot younger when he is in his teens to play ball with him and stuff around the house. I also would have probably had another one (too old now). Honestly life is so much more rewarding with children. Makes christmas, halloween, easter so much more fun. It makes taking trips more fun, for them seeing the beach the first time, to zoos, etc. Its just something you never understand until you actually have one. No wrong or right way of doing it... like i said, we were mid 30s.