re: Why would anyone have kids before their 30’s?

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One case doesn't make you right. Is it hard, of course but most people (at least the one's I know) make it work. I wouldn't have wanted to start having kids in my prime working/earning years. You will see if you go that route. Buddy I workout with is 42 and has a 10 and 7 year old. He is running himself ragged right now with all their activities. My youngest graduates in a week, my life will be simpler. That's all.

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and your one case of your buddy doesn't make you right. I know numerous people who waited til early 30s to have kids. I was renting an apartment in my early 20s. Stability is important and I don't intend on just "making it work". I want to give my kids a better life than what I had. I am much more stable now than I was in my early 20s.

At the end of the day, it just depends on the person. I'm happy for you that it worked out. But people are different and circumstances are different.

I'd have shattered that clock all over that cabin

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Spinoff from the 16 reasons being childfree is an awesome thread. I’m 26 and the SO and I have agreed not to start having kids until 32/33. Going to fully enjoy all my time while I’m young to travel and knock things off the bucket list before all my money goes to raising kids. Plus, still having kids at home in your late 40’s and 50’s will keep you young.

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Because if we waited to have kids later, and our kids did the same thing, waited till they were in their 30's..there is a really small chance that we would ever get to see grandkids in our lifetime.

At least with us having them early (started at 24) then they will have time to graduate college find a mate and hopefully bless us with some grandkids..Then, Lord willing we get the chance to be a part of their lives too and spoil the shite out of them. As I think back to my childhood and witnessing my current children and their interaction with their grandparents there is soo many good things that get passed on and blessings that I hope I get that chance as well.

This combined with other reasons already listed in the thread are why we started early. I really like sleeping through my nights and not changing shitty diapers and being in my 30s. Would NOT wanna do that now.

You gonna need your kids to wipe your butt when you get 0ld

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Beginning of 30s not so much. By the end of their 30s the numbers are drastically different. But that’s the point. It’s not something someone decided. It’s just how we work. We should be accepting of our biological design and work within those parameters, not arbitrary ones we decide on.

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I would argue if yo're not stable enough to have kids within that biological timeline, you should probably just go childless, or adopt. Or be a great uncle/aunt.

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I can give you more if you like.

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I have plenty as well.

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I had stability during my time, that isn't a good excuse.

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this is a simple minded post. Not everyone does have stability in their 20s.

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this is a simple minded post. Not everyone does have stability in their 20s.

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Nothing simple minded at all. That is a moronic statement by you but I digress. I busted my arse and made it happen. It's just that simple. A lot of people are lazy fricks and don't care about anything but themselves in their 20's. I wasn't one of them...

I graduated college at 22, started dating my future wife at 23, married at 26, had our first kid at 28 and second at 31.

I haven't had to deal with diapers in 6 years and baby food/ formula in 7 years.

We both wanted to have kids. And now that we have a little bit of savings in our pocket and a little bit of career success, we can take the kids with us on nice vacations. Or, we can leave the kids at grandmas and go ourselves. We do both.

To me, it's not the age that matters. It's the fact that you are secure in your marriage and your job. That's a different age for everyone.

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What if the time comes to start having kids (assuming you do actually both really want them), and you suddenly discover that either your boys are not swimming or your wife has some condition that could cause her to never be able to get pregnant?

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What if this happens and you started to try to have kids when you were 20? Isn't the end result the same? You can't have kids?