re: Why do so many women feel the urge to say they "know their worth"?

In my analogy, women are the hiring manager and men are the applicants. The apps they use to screen potential dates have become so divorced from the realities of what makes a good candidate for a relationship, that they now hamper their ability to meet decent men. Yet, because they’re overwhelmed with sheer numbers of resumes that they never actually see, they assume all men must suck like the few that manage to make it through their intense filters to an interview. They don’t realize the app and their preferences are actually filtering out everyone who is compatible for the job. They don’t have to go through the process, so they can’t see what applicants or going through or understand what specifically isn’t working.

When you filter for 6’+, you automatically are getting rid of 80% of your applicants, much like an entry level job filtering out people without 5 years of experience and a relevant degree.

However, the bigger fault lay in the app’s design. Women care about looks, but it’s really not that important relative to personality when you meet someone in person. I’m a funny guy. When I meet girls in person, I date WAY out of my league consistently. However, on an app? Nothing. The reason is because when women are evaluating a person in person, the indicators of a good potential match mostly lie with body language and personality, two things which cannot be discerned in a dating profile. When purely selecting based on looks alone, women make VERY different judgments about who to date. On an app, they really only have looks to decide on.

The other filter is all of the texting and chatting before meeting in person. It’s extremely difficult to get a feel for someone’s personality over text, especially when fielding multiple conversations. It’s almost impossible to keep things interesting for very long. Women have been ingrained to use this as a safety process before meeting in person, but texting is boring. So, they end up completely ghosting a lot of matches that they otherwise would probably hit it off with in person.

The end result of the process is they get only people who game the process because they just want to smash n dash. The entire process is actually meant to filter those people out, but that’s exactly what it delivers.

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Had one say basically say that to me on our second "date".

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damn! I'm glad I'm not a free agent at the time

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Dowry appraisals.
how about in the USA?

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Is she making 6 figures is the baseline.

Just like alphas don't have to tell you they are alphas. Just like the smartest people in the room don't have to tell you they are the smartest people in the room. Just like Jordan doesn't have to tell you he is the goat. Real women of value don't have to say their worth because they know it.

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How does a man know a woman’s worth?

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For me it was finding someone that will/can do the things I don't do for myself very well. Ie...I ate like a single guy, so a woman that feeds me better that than I fed myself. Essentially I lived on my own long enough that I could take care of myself, did I do it in as manly a way as possible...yes, but i survived. No reason to get married if I'm gonna have to take care of our home in the same way, so if a woman can't improve a man's life with that "woman's touch" than she has no worth imo.

Oh....and wasn't a straight up high milage hoe. If a woman can't respect herself, then no way I could.

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Same way you know his. You demonstrate it with your behavior.

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one man’s trash is another man’s treasure