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re: Which period in life do you make the best friends?
Posted on 7/21/14 at 12:40 am to Octavian
Posted on 7/21/14 at 12:40 am to Octavian
My only "real" friends were made during childhood and middle school. Then maybe a couple in dental school. Lifelong friends. The only problem is that I am a fricking genius, and most of my friends were very intelligent also. They are all successful, so they are all scattered across the country. Thus, in adult life, I have virtually no friends. There are a couple of other couples we hang out with on too few occasions. My wife says to "make more friends," but there are two things I can't get her to understand: First, real "friends" are people that you have shared experiences with over a long period - you dn't walk up to a neighbor and become friends. They have to earn it, and the job is too difficult for them. Second, I am a huge a-hole. I think most humans are morons and are unworthy.
tldr: When growing up, make blue-collar friends - not smart ones
tldr: When growing up, make blue-collar friends - not smart ones
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Posted on 7/21/14 at 12:44 am to 911Moto
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Posted on 7/21/14 at 12:45 am to Turkey_Creek_Tiger
Oh, shite - forgot to mention that I have Social Anxiety Disorder, so that probably throws a bit of a monkey wrench into the "making new friends as an adult" aspect.
And yes, I am very arrogant.
And yes, I am very arrogant.
This post was edited on 7/21/14 at 12:46 am
Posted on 7/21/14 at 12:49 am to SlowFlowPro
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I feel bad for people who have trouble getting close to new people
Find it extremely easy to get to know people but I keep them at an arms length these days. Wasn't like this until I hit 40 or so. Now, my time is premium and I prefer not to have obligations and that includes "close friendships." I've got friends but I'm not spending all my time with them.
Best time to make friends was in my 30's, at work. Worked with some awesome, creative, adventurous people.
Posted on 7/21/14 at 12:54 am to Hammertime
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High school. I think a lot of this has to do with where you grew up and where you are now
It definitely has a lot to do with where you grew up. Someone from the New Orleans area that went to an all-boys or all-girls high school is definitely more likely to remain close friends with the people they went to high school with. I'm 27 and I still run with the same group of guys that I ran with in high school, I can only think of 1 or 2 guy friends I have now that I didn't go to high school with.
That's kinda the NOLA thing where one of the first questions you ask when meeting someone new is "where'd you go to high school?" I can find out pretty much everything I need to know about someone in my age group by asking which high school they went to and immediately establish mutual friendships, etc. New Orleans is pretty much the only place where you can do that, from my experience.
This post was edited on 7/21/14 at 12:56 am
Posted on 7/21/14 at 12:57 am to Octavian
prison and hobo camps
Posted on 7/21/14 at 12:59 am to 911Moto
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Oh, shite - forgot to mention that I have Social Anxiety Disorder, so that probably throws a bit of a monkey wrench into the "making new friends as an adult" aspect.
And yes, I am very arrogant.
I know, we talked about Social Anxiety for hours on here remember?
Posted on 7/21/14 at 1:03 am to Octavian
I have a lot more friends from college but I wouldn't say I'm as close to them as a select few friends that I grew up with. Almost all of my really good friends from greek life moved back to the general areas they were from which makes it difficult for everyone to get together.
Posted on 7/21/14 at 1:42 am to Turkey_Creek_Tiger
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I know, we talked about Social Anxiety for hours on here remember?
Yes indeed, which is why seeing your name reminded me. I figured you'd remember, I was just referring more to others reading my post and the fact that I should have included it as relevant information for them.
There are many people at my kid's karate school that I would call friends, but not "friend" friends that you can talk about anything and everything with. There is one couple that we hang out with, and the guy is like me in so many ways, it's uncanny. We both drove the same kind of car, both had a stepdaughter with the same name, both had dogs with the same name (and not a real common name), our kids were mirror images at karate, etc. We do things with them and are even vacationing together, but to talk about anything other than casual conversation would just feel odd.
This post was edited on 7/21/14 at 1:48 am
Posted on 7/21/14 at 5:16 am to Octavian
Childhood and military. My military friends are a different bread though
Posted on 7/21/14 at 7:44 am to Octavian
Both high school and college for me. I went to high school and college in Madison. Many of my closest friends from high school ended up at college at UW and I also was able to make some great friends that moved to Madison for college.
Posted on 7/21/14 at 8:57 am to Dodd
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Am I the only weirdo who doesn't keep up with any of them? I'm terrible about keeping up with my good friends even though I hold them all in high regard.
I guess I have hard time getting real close to people. It's a shitty personality trait I guess
Same. I hang out with a good bit of people and I'm pretty social, but it's usually people I'm around a lot at the time. Hell, I was in a fraternity and had a great time, just don't talk to any of them on a regular basis. I rarely keep in touch with many people once I move or something like that. I just don't get that close with too many people. Most of my closer friends have always been cousins (we're a pretty big, close family). I really need to get back in touch with some of my college friends though, I couldn't care less about anyone I went to highschool with.
Posted on 7/21/14 at 9:11 am to Octavian
Elementary, jr high and high school. After that not hardly at all.
Posted on 7/21/14 at 2:35 pm to Isabelle
In college it's a lot of superficial friends . You won't talk after class or after graduation . You need to bond with friends after tough times to make true friends NOW if you grow Up in Baton Rouge , catholic school all your life and you go to lsu you'll have a huge community .
Posted on 7/21/14 at 2:38 pm to Octavian
Elementary, High School and College have all kind of interesected for me. For the most part been friends with the same group of people for years now.
Posted on 7/21/14 at 2:42 pm to Octavian
high school IMO
my core group of guys was solidified during those years, even though most of us had been friends going back to elem. school
my core group of guys was solidified during those years, even though most of us had been friends going back to elem. school
Posted on 7/21/14 at 2:49 pm to SlowFlowPro
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i'm always searching for a new forum to post on
nah man, hang around. I don't think you have enough posts here.
Posted on 7/21/14 at 2:59 pm to Octavian
I disagree with college. I still am close with potnas I went to kindergarten with.
Posted on 7/21/14 at 3:01 pm to Octavian
College
Posted on 7/21/14 at 3:02 pm to Octavian
My best friend I grew up with. However he's about the only person from high school that I really keep in contact with. I mean I see others when I'm home but he's the only person I'm in touch with several times a week.
Most of my other good friends were from college but I'm only a year out. No idea how many I'll keep up with in a few years. Right now we all have a very active group message going and we try to see each other whenever around.
Making some solid friends in dental school. You really bond after going through stressful times together.
Most of my other good friends were from college but I'm only a year out. No idea how many I'll keep up with in a few years. Right now we all have a very active group message going and we try to see each other whenever around.
Making some solid friends in dental school. You really bond after going through stressful times together.
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