re: When did it become ok to drop "f bombs" in mixed company?

My father,grandfather and my father in law would fight if someone said frick in front of their wives or kids.

It's normally good news when a woman in any accent talks personally about a condom.

Maybe that colors our judgement...

I was sitting waiting on a table at Chuck's Fish and some frat boy was trying to impress his date and about every 5th word was frick.

So I asked the moron if that was how be spoke to his mother. He shut up for a bit then started again.

I asked for a big glass of water from the bar, walked back over and told him the next time I had to tell him, he'd be needing a towel after I poured it over his head.

He got up and moved.

So no, it's not ok with me.

If he was talking with his date, unless he was just yelling and making a scene, that kind of falls under a mind your own business sort of thing. Who are you to tell him how to speak to his date? Your whole story doesn't really make any sense to be honest.

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I was sitting waiting on a table at Chuck's Fish and some frat boy was trying to impress his date and about every 5th word was frick.

So I asked the moron if that was how be spoke to his mother. He shut up for a bit then started again.

I asked for a big glass of water from the bar, walked back over and told him the next time I had to tell him, he'd be needing a towel after I poured it over his head.

He got up and moved.

So no, it's not ok with me.

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So what's the part that offends you so much? I'm HONESTLY asking.

This is an interesting topic for me, because I find that most people that get all bent out of shape about "bad" words don't really seem to care about what the replacement words that mean the same thing but are not considered swears.

Like saying, "frick this" is highly offensive but "Screw this" would be acceptable. shite is offensive, but variants like crap, poop, etc are just fine...and even funny.

I tend to agree with someone earlier who said that you need to know your audience, and that's true. I agree with that NOT because I find anything ever said to be so offensive in their mere letters that my ears can't stand them, but because I know there are folks around who DO feel that way, and I'd rather not get into some discussion like this is a restaurant.

But honestly...are you ok with the variants and replacements for bad words being used...and if so, what makes the "bad" words bad?

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Who are you to tell him how to speak to his date?

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The guy who was there with his wife for our anniversary and got very tired, very quickly of some moron with the manners of a goat. That's who.

After he moved I didn't care what he said.

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The guy who was there with his wife for our anniversary and got very tired, very quickly of some moron with the manners of a goat. That's who.

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Again...I'm not a fan of this behavior on his side because it can be seen by some (you for instance) as some huge deal. That being said, what if you simply overheard him saying things you did not agree with? What if his politics disagreed with your own? Or he was espousing religious beliefs counter to yours? Or any number of things which you might have strongly disagreed with or found to be, using your moral filter, immoral to say out loud?

Would you have confronted him then...or are "bad" words to the only trigger for this?

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Because it bothered my wife.

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WHY did it bother her and you, was the question. would it have bothered her if he had replaced frick with screw? Or shite with poop? Or used perfectly acceptable words but string them together in horrific ways belittling people both near him or he was talking about?

Not trying to be clever or set up some trick question. I'm really curious about this, because I don;t see it that way at all. I'm personally not offended by anything, but I'm also not bothered by words based on the word alone. I'd be far more bothered by WHAT someone says than by which words they use to express themselves.

Others, like yourself, feel differently and I'm trying to understand what it is about the word that makes it different than there stand ins.

Most girls curse more than guys do now. And they're out to just hit it and quit it more than guys now. The tables have turned.

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Would you have confronted him then...or are "bad" words to the only trigger for this?

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Nope. When he was not cursing he was railing about global warming.

Which my wife and I both found hilarious.