re: What's your relationship with your dad?

I worshipped the ground my Dad walked-on. He was an amazing man, an incredible human being.

He passed away October a year ago right after we watched Tennessee beat Alabama for the first time in years (he was saying #GoVols all night and then we watched the post game interviews on YouTube until 2AM).

He knew he was dying.

He passed the Wednesday before SC upset of UT ... such was life between us during football season.

He never took a backwards step. He was just about the perfect Father.

I was with him, holding his hand when he passed and it was excruciating. I miss him terribly every single day but ... what a legacy the man left behind.

He fought 'till the very end. He loved life and he led a full one ... wish I could share his obit.

He was good friends with Jerry Stoval, Monty Kiffin, Frank Broyles, Ray Malavasi, et al. Mack Brown and I have the same Godfather.

Only Kiffin and Mack are still alive and they both sent condolences when Dad passed.

I loved him beyond words. We were very close the past few decades.

When he passed I had so many people ask me, "what was it like being that man's Son," and, looking back ... it was incredible. I was blessed.

I'm a grandfather ... he was a great great grandfather. Every single home in our family, all of his children and grandchildren, have pictures of him displayed prominently for all visitors to see.

That is what eternity is all about - being remembered, passing down your DNA, living a good, Godly, upstanding, ethical and moral life.

Dad truly lived his ... he truly did.

3. My stepfather had a decades narrative long narrative about how cheap he was spun by my mother. I turned into an adult, and paid my own gas bill, and went, huh, I get it. Put on a fricking sweatshirt.

He's far more sensitive than my mother is, and it took me decades to see past the narrative to understand why he was doing what he was.

His dad was from a southern state, hunted ducks, etc., which I got none of due to being a military brat. He didn't get it because they were stationed in Japan in the 50s.

I am #4 for my junior high/elementary kids, because I learned it from at least one family that helped my family out without question, when I was the only one in the country, but was out of state. I have ammo and tourniquets, I'm comin.

2. My dad comes from a country where the women raised the children and the men worked. He was pretty absent after my parents got divorced and there was a 10 year stretch we didn’t speak at all.

We talk now sometimes but it’s not like my relationship with my mom.

Mostly 2. He was never big on doing dad things.

It was funny when he retired and all he had left was to piddle around the house. It’s like a lightbulb went off in his head and he’s actually turned into a pretty good grandpa.

3 and 4. My dad is a flawed man, but all humans are flawed. He's my mentor as well as my dad. Unfortunately he's older and I will have less time with him than I would like.

For me #4. My dad has been gone 27 years now, and I think about him every day (same as my mom).

He was stern but loving and always made sure we had whatever we needed. We were pretty poor, but didn't really know it.

When I bought my first new car, he signed over one of his paychecks from his job to help me with my down payment.

I miss him every day.

3.5. It would probably be a 4 if it weren’t for the age difference.

4 for me. And Im 55. I have never had a bad beef with him. He was a fantastic father growing up. Supported me my entire life. I was blessed to have good parents. I just hate that their time is coming to an end

Getting old sucks

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4, and I aspire to be a 4 for my daughter.

That’s the job.

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It is...and especially important for daughters. Sons need a father and most men recognize that...many are fearful to be involved in their daughters lives and many women grow up with daddy issues, which make them great in some ways but not in most...