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re: What’s the toughest decision you’ve ever had to make in your life?
Posted on 10/19/20 at 4:12 pm to TDcline
Posted on 10/19/20 at 4:12 pm to TDcline
The year after my mom's stroke when I was named POA for her health and financial decisions was a year filled with tough decisions, doubt about those decisions, and a lot of second guessing and guilt.
Never want to go through that again.
Never want to go through that again.
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Posted on 10/19/20 at 4:12 pm to kingbob
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kingbob
If y’all didn’t have any kids, then you dodged a bullet. Pick yourself up and life will move on.
Posted on 10/19/20 at 4:14 pm to TDcline
Making my divorce final, ex wanted me out and would never file. So I had to do it after we had been separated for a year. 2 Boys, very hard decision but the best one I have ever made.
Posted on 10/19/20 at 4:36 pm to patnuh
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The decision to go into business for myself and give up a regular paycheck. At first, it was fantastic but a year later, I'm having lots of ups and downs. Some months I'm on top of the world then other months I barely break even.
Working for myself was a longtime goal. Went back to school with the idea of making it happen. I did. It didn't work out. I just couldn't take the ups and downs and not being financially secure. I went back to working for someone else several years ago. Having bosses sucks.
I hope you can stick it out and things take off soon. I had a family to support and I just couldn't keep things going the way they were.
Posted on 10/19/20 at 4:39 pm to TDcline
whether to throw a buzzbait or a frog 
Posted on 10/19/20 at 4:39 pm to kingbob
I feel you, brother. My life sucks right now. At least the O-T makes me laugh a little.
Posted on 10/19/20 at 4:44 pm to kingbob
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So, what I am saying is, I make bad emotional decisions, I am deeply depressed at the results of those decisions, and I hate my life.
Kingbob, IIRC you are pretty young. You'll meet someone else eventually that will make you forget about the ex.
I've never been divorced but I did have an engagement and 4 year relationship fall apart that was mostly my fault. I was depressed about it for a period of time, but looking back on it now, almost 20 years later, I realize that it probably wouldn't have worked long term and was ultimately for the best.
Like another poster mentioned, just be glad y'all didn't have kids together which makes things vastly more complicated.
This post was edited on 10/19/20 at 6:11 pm
Posted on 10/19/20 at 4:56 pm to TDcline
I made the decision to leave Baton Rouge for DC in 2013 with nothing but what I could fit in my car.
I had a job. I had a dream. I had first months rent.
I had no furniture the first 6 months in my apartment. I slept on an air mattress. On the floor if it decided to deflate.
My father wrote me a long letter from Saudi Arabia (working overseas) when I couldn’t make up my mind and essentially told me, do what you need to do. Stick it out. If it gets to where it’s unbearable, call home. We got your back.
I never looked back and never asked for a dime.
That experience has also made me less sympathetic to the “difficulties” some face in day to day. When I first moved, I didn’t eat for three days once other than some crackers I found in the break room. Make it work and stick it out.
I had a job. I had a dream. I had first months rent.
I had no furniture the first 6 months in my apartment. I slept on an air mattress. On the floor if it decided to deflate.
My father wrote me a long letter from Saudi Arabia (working overseas) when I couldn’t make up my mind and essentially told me, do what you need to do. Stick it out. If it gets to where it’s unbearable, call home. We got your back.
I never looked back and never asked for a dime.
That experience has also made me less sympathetic to the “difficulties” some face in day to day. When I first moved, I didn’t eat for three days once other than some crackers I found in the break room. Make it work and stick it out.
This post was edited on 10/19/20 at 4:57 pm
Posted on 10/19/20 at 5:11 pm to Vote4MikeAck504
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I feel you, brother. My life sucks right now. At least the O-T makes me laugh a little.
I'm in the same boat; having bosses might suck, but not having a boss or a job sucks even more. My life is tough right now; I'm not getting out of the hospital anytime soon (since June 10), I have *another* major surgery tomorrow, which means I won't be able to vote in person. They let me out of ICU (yesterday and today)for two days before I have to go back in after this next surgery tomorrow (this will be my third time in ICU during this stay). I'll enjoy this one day of freedom.
Toughest decision? I had to cut ties with a close friend some years ago, and it hurt; it was one of the most painful events of my life. It was the right decision, but it tore me up and it didn't make it suck any less. He died about three months later. Just sucked all around. Although I haven't dated anyone yet, I got a taste of what breaking up feels like when I had to make that decision.
Posted on 10/19/20 at 5:13 pm to DiamondDog
My toughest decision was to either try to save my aunts life with maybe a 1% chance to live, or pull the plug. After making the decision to pull the plug 6 years ago, my decision still haunts me to this day.
Posted on 10/19/20 at 5:13 pm to littleavery1948
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Although I haven't dated anyone yet, I got a taste of what breaking up feels like when I had to make that decision.
Hope your medical issues get worked out.
You've never dated anyone? How old are you?
Posted on 10/19/20 at 5:17 pm to saltwaterdawg
Having to pull the plug on my mom,and having to put my dad in a nursing home.
Posted on 10/19/20 at 5:23 pm to TDcline
Taking son off of life support. In life, even when it’s over....it’s not over. There is always a chance of something. Even when sports seasons end...there is next year. Love affairs...sometimes reignite. Lose a job....find another job. However, In that moment, there were no more chances. There are no words in any language that can articulate what losing...truly losing and the finality of losing feels like. There is no next season. It’s over. A life not lived. There are no do overs.
Posted on 10/19/20 at 5:44 pm to fallguy_1978
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Although I haven't dated anyone yet, I got a taste of what breaking up feels like when I had to make that decision.
Hope your medical issues get worked out.
You've never dated anyone? How old are you?
I will admit, this year has been a major kick in the balls. Can't wait to see the bill from all this (eight surgeries during this stay, and one upcoming).
I am 31 years old, and I never had a desire to date anyone; until about two or three years ago, I never wanted to marry. I don't know if it's because I am selfish and want my freedom, or because I have seen so many people burned by dates/marriages gone awry, or the fear of being betrayed like I had a number of times as a youngster. (being betrayed is the worst feeling ever). I'm open to it now, but I'm not looking, and I will be *very* selective. If I had a wife that cheated on me, there's no telling what I would do. Give me the situation I am in now over that any day.
Posted on 10/19/20 at 5:50 pm to TDcline
I left a great paying job with lots of flexibility and perks to go into practice for myself.
Turns out, the pay has been the same and the time spent at work has been halved. Stress levels went waaaaayyy down. I had no idea if it was going to work or not and lost a lot of sleep and over it.
Reading through this thread makes me truly grateful that I haven't had to face worse.
Turns out, the pay has been the same and the time spent at work has been halved. Stress levels went waaaaayyy down. I had no idea if it was going to work or not and lost a lot of sleep and over it.
Reading through this thread makes me truly grateful that I haven't had to face worse.
Posted on 10/19/20 at 5:54 pm to Bayoutigre
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Having to pull the plug on my mom,and having to put my dad in a nursing home.
Yikes. Not looking forward to this scenario at all, but I understand that it could happen in the near future (parents are much older than I). I am one of the executors in my parents' will. I am hoping and praying that we will never have to put our parents in a nursing home. Or being forced to make a decision to pull the plug on a loved one. That, along with otehr things keeps me fighting, because there have been times that I had wanted to let go of the rope (I still have my mindso thats good). I don't want my parents to go through this.
Posted on 10/19/20 at 6:08 pm to anewguy
Are you going to aa?
Posted on 10/19/20 at 6:58 pm to TDcline
Seems like a couple of lifetimes ago now, but reaching the Professional decision that your boyhood, lifelong goal was not going to happen. Thanks to Dr. John, just in in the the right place in the wrong time.
Traveled down another path. Self-employed for the next forty years, enjoyed great success & endured major failures. Raised four great kids and enjoyed three great relationships. With the finish line in view, I have absolutely no regrets. It has been a great run & find myself at peace with all.
Traveled down another path. Self-employed for the next forty years, enjoyed great success & endured major failures. Raised four great kids and enjoyed three great relationships. With the finish line in view, I have absolutely no regrets. It has been a great run & find myself at peace with all.
Posted on 10/19/20 at 7:27 pm to Sasquatch Smash
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The day I told my dad I was going to quit doing Hamster Style kung fu.
What’re you running from, man?
Posted on 10/19/20 at 7:35 pm to Brotorious
I had to take my mom off life support. She was 53 and perfectly healthy until a drunk fool happened.
I second guess myself every day. It’s been 17 years.
Her chance of survival was less than 1% but that smallest chance will always haunt me.
I second guess myself every day. It’s been 17 years.
Her chance of survival was less than 1% but that smallest chance will always haunt me.
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