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re: What would you do if your 15 year old freshman daughter got impregnated
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:43 pm to wildtigercat93
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:43 pm to wildtigercat93
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im sure your decision making skills have always been perfect as well.
Of course not, but isn't my job, as a parent, to try my best to allow my kids to avoid the mistakes of my youth?
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Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:44 pm to GeauxxxTigers23
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Probably better off not even having him in the child's life
Don't be too quick to judge. All of us made bad decisions at 17. Eventually he could get his shite together; besides a child is better off with 2 parents.
This post was edited on 9/30/14 at 2:45 pm
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:45 pm to Wtodd
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there is NO WAY you're this heartless.
It's heartless for me to want my kid to give her kid up for adoption so she doesn't frick up her life and someone else's by being a young mother?
This post was edited on 9/30/14 at 2:46 pm
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:45 pm to Henry Jones Jr
HJJ, I understand your mentality. I think you're fooling yourself though. I'd be the exact same way if my daughter was pregnant. Get rid of it, do something, don't care. But I know when the little bastard popped out I'd be a new dad all over again and love it like one of my own children.
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:46 pm to ROUSTER
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This situation actually hits close to home.
Had almost the same thing happen.
Don't believe in abortion unless in extreme cases so that wasn't an option even though I left it up to my daughter.
After screaming and cussing, hugged my daughter and told her we would get through it.
Had the boy come over and told him this was a 1 time shot. Either be a part of the kids life or leave and don't come back. Haven't seen him since which was the best for everyone.
Told my daughter if for whatever reason she didn't want the kid, I would take it and raise it. That didn't happen and she's done a wonderful job. Still you have to remember your dealing with an awfully young person so mistakes will happen.
End of the day, my Grandson is 6 yrs old and don't know what I'd do without him. Take him with me every chance I get.
It was tough at times, but I wouldn't change anything.
Good Luck and hope it works out for y'all.
you are what is right with this world, sir
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:46 pm to Salmon
Realize your pissed now, but time heals all wounds. Help her raise the child. you will come to love & cherish. The baby did not ask to be born & you don't want an abortion on your conscious the rest of your life. Good luck & God Bless
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:46 pm to Wtodd
True. But I'm just going off what the OP said. A loser. And a loving grandfather can be a father figure better than a 17 year old loser can.
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:47 pm to UFownstSECsince1950
Threaten suicide if she didn't get an abortion. J/k
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:47 pm to Henry Jones Jr
quote:Kind of, but totally logical. It's funny how all the self proclaimed libertarians on this board are all of the sudden pro life and fine with teen pregnancy.
It's heartless for me to want my kid to give the kid up for adoption so she doesn't frick up her life and someone else's by being a young mother?
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:47 pm to OnTheBrink
It's a shite situation either way. Lose-lose if you ask me.
And furthers my lack of desire to have children. Just when you're a decade away from an empty nest and a new chapter in your life, your kid made a dumbass decision and you're stuck spending basically the remaining years of your life doing it all over again.. as if your life has no importance at all. Like being a parent is all you are and all you were destined to be ever. Awful. You selflessly chose to parent a child/children when you were younger, and now you should reap the rewards of doing it and having them move into the adult world. You shouldn't be stripped of that.
Chances are, I wouldn't be able to not help my kid either... as many have said. It would kill me not to.
But shite like this is exactly why I don't want to ever be at risk for these things.
And furthers my lack of desire to have children. Just when you're a decade away from an empty nest and a new chapter in your life, your kid made a dumbass decision and you're stuck spending basically the remaining years of your life doing it all over again.. as if your life has no importance at all. Like being a parent is all you are and all you were destined to be ever. Awful. You selflessly chose to parent a child/children when you were younger, and now you should reap the rewards of doing it and having them move into the adult world. You shouldn't be stripped of that.
Chances are, I wouldn't be able to not help my kid either... as many have said. It would kill me not to.
But shite like this is exactly why I don't want to ever be at risk for these things.
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:47 pm to bigwheel
Quick question for all the hard asses in here. Would your opinion change if they were having protected sex and she still got pregnant?
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:47 pm to alajones
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HJJ, I understand your mentality. I think you're fooling yourself though. I'd be the exact same way if my daughter was pregnant. Get rid of it, do something, don't care. But I know when the little bastard popped out I'd be a new dad all over again and love it like one of my own children.
Exactly. I have my stance right now but I understand that could change because I do know, according to friends that have had kids, there is this overwhelming sense of love that comes when you have a child. I don't understand that right now.
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:48 pm to LouisianaLady
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What if you legit can't afford it? (Not referring to abortion; I've already said forced abortion is retarded)
I'll let you in on a little secret. No one can afford kids.
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:48 pm to Henry Jones Jr
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It's heartless for me to want my kid to give her kid up for adoption so she doesn't frick up her life and someone else's by being a young mother?
Not at all concerning the adoption; that is the most viable option at this point IMO but if she wants to keep the baby, you have to give her credit for "stepping up" whether you agree or not with her decision.
This post was edited on 9/30/14 at 2:49 pm
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:49 pm to Janky
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Would your opinion change if they were having protected sex and she still got pregnant?
No. Why would it?
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:49 pm to Wtodd
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you have to give her credit for "stepping up".
I don't think agreeing to keep the child would be "stepping up"
I think that only happens when you take care of your kid with hardly anyone else's help.
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:50 pm to Wtodd
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Don't be too quick to judge. All of us made bad decisions at 17
right
and unless everyone in this thread was a virgin at 17, then this could have happened to all of us
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:51 pm to alajones
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Kind of, but totally logical. It's funny how all the self proclaimed libertarians on this board are all of the sudden pro life and fine with teen pregnancy.
I think it's funny that the same people who argue constantly that you should "cut the cord" financially with your 18+ kid also believe you should raise their child they had at 15.
I mean, I totally support people helping their kids financially for as long as possible. So no harm there. Surprised some of the same people who gave Paige hell for her dad still paying her insurance believe that you should take in and raise your kid's baby for ~10 year (a 15 year old won't be finished HS/college and settled for around that long).
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:51 pm to UFownstSECsince1950
Your daughter sounds dumb as frick. Chances that she is knocked up before marriage again is really, really high. IDK what I would do.
Posted on 9/30/14 at 2:51 pm to Wtodd
Pretty sure there are some welfare queens who will be better parents than some of these posters
My only hope is that I know your perspective and your thoughts will all change the moment you lay eyes on your kids or even grand kids. You can't pretend like you know what you would do because it all changes in a second.
My only hope is that I know your perspective and your thoughts will all change the moment you lay eyes on your kids or even grand kids. You can't pretend like you know what you would do because it all changes in a second.
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