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re: What is OTs view on adoption?
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:24 pm to fareplay
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:24 pm to fareplay
I had a roommate whom was adopted (and his sister).
Overall, he was a nice guy and to my knowledge is doing well today. He is around 40 now.
His sister was a complete basket case, took bipolar meds. I dont know how she is today, and i have no idea if her mental condition was bc she was adopted. If i were to guess, no it isnt.
Adopted kids are usually mentally better off than foster kids. Foster kids have more issues, because it is usually a more extreme circumstance and life in general
Overall, he was a nice guy and to my knowledge is doing well today. He is around 40 now.
His sister was a complete basket case, took bipolar meds. I dont know how she is today, and i have no idea if her mental condition was bc she was adopted. If i were to guess, no it isnt.
Adopted kids are usually mentally better off than foster kids. Foster kids have more issues, because it is usually a more extreme circumstance and life in general
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Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:25 pm to Packer
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CPS's main goal is to put the kids back with the parents
Reunification is always the first goal.
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as soon as heroin addict mommy gets out of prison, she can get her child back with no home study.
Seriously doubt it's as cut and dry as that.
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:28 pm to sicboy
Also, the TPR (Termination of Parental Rights) is a grueling, frustrating, yet necessary process. When all is said and done, you want to show the courts that everything was done to allow the parent full rights and opportunity before the TPR was granted. That way once the child is in your custody, there's no way they can come back and make your life hell, legally.
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:30 pm to fareplay
My wife and I are in the process of adopting a brother and sister. We got them when they were 19 months and 7 months old. We have had them for 19 months. WE are their Mommy and Daddy. They still see their birth father occasionally. They don't know him as their dad or father. No contact from the birth mom in over a year.
They are the happiest, most loved, normal kids you could ever hope for. If you are going to adopt, go with a young toddler or baby. Newborn is not necessary and you may be saving a kid from a really bad situation.
They are the happiest, most loved, normal kids you could ever hope for. If you are going to adopt, go with a young toddler or baby. Newborn is not necessary and you may be saving a kid from a really bad situation.
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:31 pm to sicboy
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Seriously doubt it's as cut and dry as that.
It's not, but it's more on what the judge orders for the parent to get the child back. We know a foster mother, who ended up adopting a 5 year old, and she was fostering two siblings (2 & 4) that we would babysit for occasionally. If we wanted to adopt those two we would need to provide two separate rooms because they are opposite sex. Mom was in prison, dad was just released. Dad got custody and had his now total 3 kids and his baby momma #2 living in a two bedroom apartment with no car.
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:38 pm to Packer
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If we wanted to adopt those two we would need to provide two separate rooms because they are opposite sex
I want to say this is only the case if you are only fostering the kids, not after adoption, but I know each state is different.
The thing with the bio parents can be super frustrating because it can be looking like they just won't get it together and you can move forward, then they make a "good decision" or two and it's like the process is starting over. And the judge probably knows that in the end they won't get it together, but their hands are tied.
This post was edited on 9/8/17 at 12:44 pm
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:38 pm to Packer
Wife (no pics) and I went through several infertility treatments and wife (no pics) couldn't have kids. We just adopted a newborn baby that's 7 days old. Wife (no pics) and I were in delivery room for birth. Hoping to prove that nurture is more important that nature. Never seen the wife (no pics) more happy.
O yea, and the process is grueling and highly expensive
O yea, and the process is grueling and highly expensive
This post was edited on 9/8/17 at 12:39 pm
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:42 pm to lsutyger23
My little girl turns 2 in December. We were there for the birth and wife got to cut the cord (I wasn't allowed in the room, and gladly accepted that). I wouldn't change it for the world. As far as she knows I am her daddy and my wife is her momma. I always wondered what it would be like and if I could love a kid who wasn't mine biologically. That little girl is my world and I love her like she is my own.
This post was edited on 9/8/17 at 12:42 pm
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:45 pm to sicboy
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I want to say this is only the case if you are only fostering the kids, not after adoption, but I know each stats is different.
If you are going through the state of Louisiana you can't adopt outright, you need to foster to adopt. Even if the child is 100% able to be adopted, you have to foster for a certain period of time before you can adopt. In order to foster, you need to meet strict CPS requirements.
This is only adopting through the state of LA. I'm sure it's different if you adopt from a birth mother giving up rights, from a foreign country, etc.
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:45 pm to fareplay
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Don't bring your political bs here
Has your small, feeble mind connected the dots in my post yet? Everyone else seems to have figured it out. It's not political. It's a commentary on a "public figure", and a statement that everyone should agree on
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:45 pm to fareplay
Adoptive parent here, 2 of them. 1 we "adopted" when he was 15 and living on the street because his dad got arrested for drugs and sent away for a long time and his mom moved in with a bf and told him he had to find a new place to stay. He was a friend of my son's, and we couldn't just let him live in a city park.
The other is the sweetest little girl, she's almost 4 now, we adopted her when she was 2, poor little thing actually witnessed her dad kill her mother, lots of problem there but we're working through them.
Love both these kids as though they are my own. Wife and I are going to adopt another.
The other is the sweetest little girl, she's almost 4 now, we adopted her when she was 2, poor little thing actually witnessed her dad kill her mother, lots of problem there but we're working through them.
Love both these kids as though they are my own. Wife and I are going to adopt another.
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:47 pm to lsutyger23
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Hoping to prove that nurture is more important that nature.
My best friend from H.S. has a sister that was adopted at birth. Honestly never could tell the difference in personalities as they came from a loving, nurturing home. Both are now mid-30's, college graduates, and have families. Best of luck to you.
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:48 pm to fareplay
I have two cousins that are adopted. They are both a little screwy and have some emotional issues. They are a lot better off than if they had stayed in any kind of foster care for extended period of time. Everybody has issues, not really unique to adoptees.
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:51 pm to East Coast Band
quote:Im against the rigmarole it takes for someone to adopt a kid in the US. Thats why you see so many people going to other countries to adopt. Even in those it is many 10s of thousands of dollars. In the US it is like 75k-100k just to go through the process to adopt a kid. That is fricking crazy for someone to have to pay that because they want to give a kid a better life.
Who would be against adoption?
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:57 pm to CarRamrod
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In the US it is like 75k-100k just to go through the process to adopt a kid.
Um, no.
Posted on 9/8/17 at 12:59 pm to HeyHeyHogsAllTheWay
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Adoptive parent here, 2 of them
Poor kids
Posted on 9/8/17 at 1:00 pm to CarRamrod
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In the US it is like 75k-100k just to go through the process to adopt a kid
wut?Posted on 9/8/17 at 1:01 pm to CarRamrod
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Im against the rigmarole it takes for someone to adopt a kid in the US. Thats why you see so many people going to other countries to adopt. Even in those it is many 10s of thousands of dollars. In the US it is like 75k-100k just to go through the process to adopt a kid. That is fricking crazy for someone to have to pay that because they want to give a kid a better life.
Um what?
I didn't pay anything to adopt the little girl we have. Just went to an adoption agency met with some children and chose her to meet and get to know and such.
Now , in a private adoption (which I would not recommend) yes some people are literally selling children.
Posted on 9/8/17 at 1:04 pm to TigerBait2008
My wife and I haven't been able to have another child for 7 years now since our son was born. I would love to be able to adopt a child but we can't afford the costs, or maybe the perceived costs. I don't understand why it has to be so expensive unless it has been decided that the more it costs the less likely the kid would be brought into another bad situation?
Posted on 9/8/17 at 1:04 pm to HeyHeyHogsAllTheWay
never heard of that. I have always read about how expensive it is to adopt in the US. 
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