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Trashy Brother in law troubles
Posted on 1/8/19 at 1:15 am
Posted on 1/8/19 at 1:15 am
Well I’ve gone and found myself in a textbook OT trashy situation, strap yourself in because this is definitely TLDR.
My wife (no pics) and I welcomed our son into the world this past week. My mother in law volunteered to retire and watch our son when my wife returns to work. We agreed and decided to pay her a little for her time, not a lot, maybe $20 per day or something.
The fly in the ointment is my sister in law and her husband also have a young child who the MIL occasionally watches. SIL works retail and her useless husband does dog sitting or some similar such non-job. Husband frequently passes the child off on MIL while he sits home playing xbox.
Today my wife told her mother that the toddler couldn’t be here while she is watching our son unless she had some one else to assist...basically the toddler is a handful and we are worried about the safety of the children if MIL has to watch both.
SILs husband threw a fit and sent my wife a long rude text basically saying that since we had money we needed to figure something out and they needed MIL so he could find a job...I guess after a year + of unemployment there is suddenly no time like the present for job hunting?
Anyway, upon learning of this I called him to straighten everything out. He answered the phone, said “hello, goodbye” and immediately hung up...so I sent him this text:
“Jeff it’s CptRusty I think we had a bit of a misunderstanding today so I wanted to see if I could clear that up. Could you give me a call when you have a minute? Thanks”
...no call, no response. Straight up ducking me.
Since then I’ve clarified everything with SIL and MIL. The only thing left is to let the turd know that in the future, any angsty texts are to be directed to me. I’ll see him eventually so that conversation is happening regardless of any phone ghosting he wants to do.
Still reading? Good...
So on a scale of 0-to-jean-shorts, how trashy is all of this?
What would the alphas of the OT do to put useless BIL in his place? At this point my options are wide open so I’m hoping one of you has something creative...keep in mind I would like to avoid jail time.
Bonus points: are we being unreasonable by insisting on an extra set of eyes for the toddler? Obviously I don’t think so, but I’m certainly willing to hear a rational argument.
TLDR: CptRusty has a newborn and a trashy brother in law.
My wife (no pics) and I welcomed our son into the world this past week. My mother in law volunteered to retire and watch our son when my wife returns to work. We agreed and decided to pay her a little for her time, not a lot, maybe $20 per day or something.
The fly in the ointment is my sister in law and her husband also have a young child who the MIL occasionally watches. SIL works retail and her useless husband does dog sitting or some similar such non-job. Husband frequently passes the child off on MIL while he sits home playing xbox.
Today my wife told her mother that the toddler couldn’t be here while she is watching our son unless she had some one else to assist...basically the toddler is a handful and we are worried about the safety of the children if MIL has to watch both.
SILs husband threw a fit and sent my wife a long rude text basically saying that since we had money we needed to figure something out and they needed MIL so he could find a job...I guess after a year + of unemployment there is suddenly no time like the present for job hunting?
Anyway, upon learning of this I called him to straighten everything out. He answered the phone, said “hello, goodbye” and immediately hung up...so I sent him this text:
“Jeff it’s CptRusty I think we had a bit of a misunderstanding today so I wanted to see if I could clear that up. Could you give me a call when you have a minute? Thanks”
...no call, no response. Straight up ducking me.
Since then I’ve clarified everything with SIL and MIL. The only thing left is to let the turd know that in the future, any angsty texts are to be directed to me. I’ll see him eventually so that conversation is happening regardless of any phone ghosting he wants to do.
Still reading? Good...
So on a scale of 0-to-jean-shorts, how trashy is all of this?
What would the alphas of the OT do to put useless BIL in his place? At this point my options are wide open so I’m hoping one of you has something creative...keep in mind I would like to avoid jail time.
Bonus points: are we being unreasonable by insisting on an extra set of eyes for the toddler? Obviously I don’t think so, but I’m certainly willing to hear a rational argument.
TLDR: CptRusty has a newborn and a trashy brother in law.
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Posted on 1/8/19 at 1:21 am to CptRusty
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My wife (no pics)
Posted on 1/8/19 at 1:24 am to CptRusty
quote:If he doesn't already know that it's tomorrow at Sonic you're letting him push you around like a bitch
I’ll see him eventually so that conversation is happening
This post was edited on 1/8/19 at 1:24 am
Posted on 1/8/19 at 1:27 am to CptRusty
trashy situation, usually grandmothers are a hell of a lot more capable handling kids than we think, especially with our little Braxtyns and Aidens, the fact that she "retired" to become a baby sitter is a huge red flag, WTF? as bil is a slug, you'd be better off going with daycare and/or a (hot) nanny
This post was edited on 1/8/19 at 1:28 am
Posted on 1/8/19 at 1:29 am to CptRusty
Your BIL sounds like a dipshit, but you thinking that your MIL's undivided attention to your newborn child is only worth $20 per day would seem to indicate that he's not the only knucklehead involved in this conflict.
Posted on 1/8/19 at 1:30 am to RemouladeSawce
I’m trying to be more Machiavellian than resorting straight to violence, but it may eventually come to that.Posted on 1/8/19 at 1:33 am to White Roach
That’s a fair criticism, although to expand a little further, she was going to do it for free, and we had to talk her into taking $100/week. It works out to a little better than $20/day since my wife is off on thursdays and we both work half days on Friday.
ETA: it’s also a whole lot more than the big fat goose egg she’s has gotten or will ever get for watching the other grandchild.
ETA: it’s also a whole lot more than the big fat goose egg she’s has gotten or will ever get for watching the other grandchild.
This post was edited on 1/8/19 at 1:42 am
Posted on 1/8/19 at 1:41 am to CptRusty
That's different then. Now we're up to ~$28.50 per day.
I'm just ragging on you. It's 1:40 on a Tuesday morning and you're soliciting advice on the OT. WTF did you think was going to happen?
I'm just ragging on you. It's 1:40 on a Tuesday morning and you're soliciting advice on the OT. WTF did you think was going to happen?
Posted on 1/8/19 at 1:43 am to White Roach
This is actually more civil than I expected. I’m up with little rusty so I figured this would be good entertainment.
Posted on 1/8/19 at 1:47 am to CptRusty
Just make sure to keep track of your time so you can pay yourself the same $3.56/he you're willing to give your MIL. And get off the fricking internet ... 'lil Rusty needs your undivided attention!
Posted on 1/8/19 at 1:53 am to White Roach
Ok now I have to ask, how much should we pay MIL?
Posted on 1/8/19 at 2:04 am to CptRusty
How would I know? I don't have kids. Although, based on what your BIL is paying, it sounds like the going rate is zero!
All BS aside, if you have a competent family member who is willing to nanny your child, that would seem like an ideal situation. Even if there might be a high energy toddler/cousin involved.
All BS aside, if you have a competent family member who is willing to nanny your child, that would seem like an ideal situation. Even if there might be a high energy toddler/cousin involved.
Posted on 1/8/19 at 2:04 am to CptRusty
How would I know? I don't have kids. Although, based on what your BIL is paying, it sounds like the going rate is zero!
All BS aside, if you have a competent family member who is willing to nanny your child, that would seem like an ideal situation. Even if there might be a high energy toddler/cousin involved.
All BS aside, if you have a competent family member who is willing to nanny your child, that would seem like an ideal situation. Even if there might be a high energy toddler/cousin involved.
Posted on 1/8/19 at 2:04 am to CptRusty
How would I know? I don't have kids. Although, based on what your BIL is paying, it sounds like the going rate is zero!
All BS aside, if you have a competent family member who is willing to nanny your child, that would seem like an ideal situation. Even if there might be a high energy toddler/cousin involved.
All BS aside, if you have a competent family member who is willing to nanny your child, that would seem like an ideal situation. Even if there might be a high energy toddler/cousin involved.
Posted on 1/8/19 at 2:04 am to CptRusty
How would I know? I don't have kids. Although, based on what your BIL is paying, it sounds like the going rate is zero!
All BS aside, if you have a competent family member who is willing to nanny your child, that would seem like an ideal situation. Even if there might be a high energy toddler/cousin involved.
All BS aside, if you have a competent family member who is willing to nanny your child, that would seem like an ideal situation. Even if there might be a high energy toddler/cousin involved.
Posted on 1/8/19 at 2:05 am to CptRusty
How would I know? I don't have kids. Although, based on what your BIL is paying, it sounds like the going rate is zero!
All BS aside, if you have a competent family member who is willing to nanny your child, that would seem like an ideal situation. Even if there might be a high energy toddler/cousin involved.
All BS aside, if you have a competent family member who is willing to nanny your child, that would seem like an ideal situation. Even if there might be a high energy toddler/cousin involved.
Posted on 1/8/19 at 2:06 am to White Roach
Oh wow, the elusive quint-post. Well done!
This post was edited on 1/8/19 at 2:07 am
Posted on 1/8/19 at 2:06 am to White Roach
Holy frick! Quintuple post!
Posted on 1/8/19 at 2:07 am to White Roach
I know, had to do a quick recount.
Posted on 1/8/19 at 2:07 am to CptRusty
You better count again. (We already know you're not very good at math)
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