re: Trad wife- does anyone have one?

Nah it is not that serious. The meme on the first page was more my angle. People here get triggered over the smallest thing.

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Eta- maybe not marketing ploy more influencer BS

You "use" it to teach your children

wife and I are traditional. At retirement, we realigned roles on the basis that the first 30 years she did the house work and I provided the financials, the next 30 years I would do the house work and she did the financials., Currently I have 3 years, 11 months and 18 days of house work left

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I'd be happy if we just elevated traditional FEMININITY the way we did thirty years ago. Men stopped doing that and started being all about IG girls and porn stars are low rent shite like that. So many women are just bad versions of shitty men these days. Feminine traits are the most attractive thing ever in a woman. Not her professional accomplishments. And if she's cracking heads in the office, how does she magically behave soft, feminine and loving at home. It's certainly not the energy I would want-that kind of ambition required to excel in a corporate environment. That's masculine energy. Men don't want that. At least not masculine men.

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To my mind, the worst aspect of social media with it's millions of IG hos is simply that men dedicate more and more mental space to "idealized" women.

Whether it's traditionally feminine or just feminine in certain ways and untraditional in others, I prefer "real" women trying to be themselves above all. Usually the more unique they are; the more attractive.

To your point, having so many men drool over cookie-cutter plastic sex doll women on instagram also doesn't make it easy for many girls to feel comfortable just being themselves.


And, frankly, the kind of no-holds-barred ambition that sees anyone rise to the top in a corporate environment isn't particularly attractive in males either, in my opinion.

I'd say all my closest friends are ones who have a little too much "balance" in their lives, unique interests and creative pursuits for that rat race. My old friends who "made it to the top" -- most of those for me are in the corporate music world -- are certainly still my "friends" but, frankly, again, are more likely to come through for impossible to get tickets than quality time.

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I am the primary bread winner but my wife works

My wife primarily takes care of the house but I cook and clean the kitchen several nights a week.

I handle all of our finances.

Am I in the minority?

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That’s pretty much our household. Except my wife (no pics) cooks and cleans and I take care of the house and outside chores. I’ll cook once a week if she has to work late or go to the gym after work.

I completely agree with this. We are essentially devaluing every day femininity. And expecting women to all be fitness models. And we are missing the essence of what brings men and women together which is a blending of masculine and feminine traits.

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If a SAHM is bored, it's time for another baby

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this is why I’m going to be madamsquirrel’s trad wife

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the house should be spotless, food should be prepared, and the cat would be properly taught

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all of this happens at my house
*wr have no kids at home