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Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:55 am to TexasTiger08
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:55 am to TexasTiger08
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My depression, which I thought would be alleviated with me starting a new job, has taken too much of a toll on here. I had a bad drinking episode around Easter that weighed heavily upon her.
Stop drinking buddy. It will only make it worse.
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I’m waiting to see a psychiatrist. Counseling for us is on the horizon.
It’s good to talk things out but these ppl will only take your money. Tons of ppl do exact this and still end up divorced.
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I guess I’m just not what she wants?
Sorry to hear this it can be frustrating when all you want is the best for everyone and it doesn’t go that way.
Best thing is to be adults and figure out what is best for both of you. If she feels that way, it may be a new adventure for you to find happiness. You can only try so hard and it seems like you’re doing that with the situation at hand.
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Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:57 am to TexasTiger08
Growth Mindset! Learn by looking at how you "a powerful person" created what happened. You can not focus on the problems of the other person. Be 100% accountable but don't see this as a one time failure event. You are continually learning and growing. Forgiveness of both yourself and ex spouse is important. It is all about valuing yourself. Go forward and learn and grow. Just move forward with a stronger life and focus on the good and becoming a better person.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:59 am to sidewalkside
Well, I e never married and my drinking is a big reason why. I’m sober now for 7 years but i drank like a madman for 23 years. I became a gutter drunk at the end and the alcohol was was huge factor in every one of my previous relationships.
IF you have a problem you have to get that squared away and doing it during a divorce is going to a battle.
I’ll pray for you, amigo. I was a different kind of drunk, I drank everyday so I’m not sure I can help you in that regard but if you want to talk, I’ll help you in anyway that I can.
IF you have a problem you have to get that squared away and doing it during a divorce is going to a battle.
I’ll pray for you, amigo. I was a different kind of drunk, I drank everyday so I’m not sure I can help you in that regard but if you want to talk, I’ll help you in anyway that I can.
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Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:00 am to Havoc
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I may have missed something but seems like you’re making some unfounded assumptions.
Not at all. By the time she’s asked for a divorce she’s thought about, talked about it to everyone, etc, etc, etc. And it wasn’t overnight. She’s done. Justification.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:00 am to TexasTiger08
Hopefully some cisgender female bootttttyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:05 am to TexasTiger08
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We went to a wedding out of town. The night before I blacked out and missed the wedding.
God bless. Are you me? Pretty much did the same shite and they made me go to outpatient rehab with the junkies. Ended up in “marriage counseling” which was just essentially me paying for her to shite on me for an hour.
You’re human. You’re allowed to make mistakes. Quit beating yourself up about it and just do your best to keep it under control. What I’m not gonna do is let her beat me to death about a mistake I made for more than a couple days. Forgive, forget and move on. And if she can’t, frick it.. divorce it is.
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Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:10 am to TexasTiger08
Would not surprise me if shes banging a guy from work.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:11 am to TexasTiger08
quote:Even if you aren’t, it’s clear alcohol is at least part of the problem. I have a friend who was in the exact same situation as you 6-7 months ago. Wife wanted a divorce, he promised to stop drinking and she agreed to try and work it out if he went sober.
I never thought of myself as an alcoholic
He told me last month that this is the strongest they’ve ever been in their relationship. Going sober was all it took and in 6 months their relationship is better than ever.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:11 am to Triple Bogey
Solid advice. I’ll keep hitting it hard that counseling is shite. And you’re absolutely right it will just be a hit to op where he becomes an even bigger a-hole in the eyes of the woman and paying to get told he’s a bigger pos than what he is today. Seems like he wants it but she doesn’t. Time for him to say bye and find happiness.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:11 am to keakar
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all women are liars and whores, none are faithful, none.
It’s always the second page MFs that post these things
Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:13 am to Triple Bogey
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God bless. Are you me? Pretty much did the same shite and they made me go to outpatient rehab with the junkies. Ended up in “marriage counseling” which was just essentially me paying for her to shite on me for an hour.
You’re human. You’re allowed to make mistakes. Quit beating yourself up about it and just do your best to keep it under control. What I’m not gonna do is let her beat me to death about a mistake I made for more than a couple days. Forgive, forget and move on. And if she can’t, frick it.. divorce it is
You sound like a joy.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:15 am to Triple Bogey
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You’re human. You’re allowed to make mistakes.
If your response to getting piss drunk and missing a wedding is “oopsies lmao” with zero self reflection than you’re going to be a lot happier in life just banging prostitutes.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:16 am to TexasTiger08
I got divorced in 1995. Haven't remarried. Have dated a lot of girls since then, but none that I felt about 100%.
TBH, looking back, the only girl that I would marry remains the one I got divorced from, if that makes sense.
TBH, looking back, the only girl that I would marry remains the one I got divorced from, if that makes sense.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:18 am to TexasTiger08
All these changes you did for her, what did she change for you? Even though you fricked up a few times that's not bad enough to end a marriage if you love one another.
My advice is to see if it works out in a couple of weeks. If not, get on with your lives separately because she doesn't love you anymore.
My advice is to see if it works out in a couple of weeks. If not, get on with your lives separately because she doesn't love you anymore.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:18 am to TexasTiger08
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No, but we had been trying.
If yall are unhappy with each other, throwing a child into the situation isn't going to make things better.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:22 am to Bluefin
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I think it will make you feel better if you post her pics.
Damn that's stone cold savage. I feel bad for laughing.
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Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:29 am to boxcarbarney
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Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:30 am to offshoretrash
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Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:31 am to TexasTiger08
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Just one episode? Or is it an ongoing thing?
That’s the one she mentioned. It hasn’t happened since then. The time prior to that would be NYE. I’ve tried working on it. I used to stay up every Saturday during CFB and get nice and toasty. That went down a bit this year. I’m a fool for not knowing how much it hurt her.
You're probably not a fool, you guys probably have several blind spots in your communication. She has finally made your drinking as a problem clear to you is all this is.
I would caution you from any conclusion you arrive at that places all the blame on either of you. That is rarely the situation.
Counseling is the right move. Be honest with the counselor They should want to see you individually before they do very much together. Be very honest in your individual sessions. Feel free to ask the counselor about things you worry about saying to your wife before you are in a session together where it may come out.
Good luck my man. If y'all love each other and are open to working this out, you can get there.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 11:31 am to TexasTiger08
Get shitfaced before couples therapy
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