re: Tomorrow makes 10 months since my wife passed away.

So sorry. I’m 56 and battled through cancer. My wife is also 56. My biggest fear isn’t really dying. It’s her dying before me. I don’t think I could make it if her or one of our kids/grandkids passed You’re a strong man. Prayers sent

Prayers for you and your family in a joyful way!

My father that I am close with is going off the rails a bit. I feel you brother. It’s not the same, but I empathize.

Glad to read you & your kids are doing well
God Bless

I know it’s just words but I am truly sorry. I will keep your wife and yourself in my prayers. There is a video online that I watched it’s called. We don’t “move on” from grief. We move forward with it. We aren’t alone man and you aren’t alone. If you ever want to talk hit me up.

Couldn’t deal with it man. Prayers with you.

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I really do appreciate the kind words. I believe the worst days are behind us as well. I actually drove by our old home the other day. I didn’t cry this time, I just smiled and thought of the memories we shared in our home.

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Acceptance (1 of the 5 stages of grief) can help provide you with peace. There is nothing any one of us can do or say to bring her back, and for that, I am sorry.

My counselor used to say to me (before I finally understood what he meant) that's not reality (when I would say, "I wish ... I wish things were different, etc)." He wasn't a dick and he wasn't being insensitive. He was reminding me to accept my reality and to work on the now.

There will be days where you can ride by your old home and smile. There will also be days where you will ride by your old house and cry --- and maybe become angry with yourself, God, or the doctors -- maybe even her. And there may be days where you deny yourself that she is physically gone from this earth. All of this is normal. It's part of the healing process.

Stay with it, and keep working on yourself. Find a great counselor if you don't have one, or a good support group. Life does go on. Not in the way that we always want it, but it does --- and hopefully you can find some long-term peace and happiness in the days ahead for you.

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What kind of a person would down vote the OPs heart felt post?

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Complete piece of shite is my guess.

"The sign of a mature man is a certain scar he bears: the memory of a perfect woman never won, or of a once-true love forever lost. However much he may love you, he is only here because she is not."

Mine passed in 2014, so almost 10 years now. The first year or the "year of first" as many call it was rough. Even after 10 years the storms happen but the reactions are way more subdued.

I explain as it as a radio that is always on in the background, at first the volume is 10 and that's all you can pay attention to.. as time goes on the volume slowly drops to where you can pay attention to other things with occasional brief spikes back to 10. Eventually it'll get to 1. It'll always be there but low enough where you can ignore it if you choose to.