re: Teach your kids to be strong. Friend of one of my kids committed suicide.

My middle child is slightly dealing with a bully and an accomplice. Told him basically don't hesitate to frick them up and just know I got their back no matter what. If and when I show up to school to talk with teachers/principal/parents, I'll be furious and irate in that moment, but I support my kiddo first.

Just don't let your children feel alone with no backup. That's how I've been approaching this.

I’m so sorry, my heart hurts for him and for your family. I’m so glad he survived and has made so many gains.

Holy shite man, what a gut wrenching experience. I’m so sorry.

Thankful your boy is alive, and I hope you guys continue to heal.

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Sorry, but victim blaming here is disgusting

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Nobody is blaming the victim here, it hasn’t even been suggested. You certainly can help children with tools to cope. Please find another thread.

It was an experience that I will carry with me forever. I still have moments where I flashback and see him as he was that day and it haunts me.

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We kept hearing "you are lucky to be alive" by the entire medical staff. He was discharged after a total of two weeks at the hospital and immediately entered a behavioral clinic for 10 days. Multiple counseling sessions later and he's still not who he was two years ago, but he's still here and breathing.

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As a parent, this is the most powerful thing I've ever read here. And I thank you for sharing.

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We were embarrassed and ashamed because we have always preached and instilled the virtues of standing up for people and being a good person.

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But never demonstrated it. Every parent likes to believe they exhibit virtue and in most cases they really don't.

Parents are obsessive about their kids being better than other kids. #1 goal is their kids gets ahead and intk the right groups, college, etc

After that, eh, maybe we get to the virtue. Nobody cares at the end of the day as long as it's not their kid.

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When I found him, I thought he was gone. He wasn't moving and was covered in blood from head to toe. His right eye looked like it had been blown out because of the bruising/swelling. I fell on him crying and screaming and he opened his left eye to ask me what time it was. I yelled for his sisters to call 911 while I stayed with him. Ants were EVERYWHERE on him and (this wasn't even a minor concern), but I brushed them off as best I could. I found him at 6 pm and he said that he shot himself at 11:30. The ambulance took him to Lake Charles Memorial and they did the best they could but they decided that they needed to life flight to Lafayette. He stayed in ICU for 8 days and regained full mobility after 5 days. He slept 99 % of the time the first few days (honestly a blessing) and amazed his neurosurgeon with his ability to walk and speak. The wound (center of his forehead) doesn't have an outcome like this in most cases. "He should either be dead, a vegetable or permanently disabled. We kept hearing "you are lucky to be alive" by the entire medical staff. He was discharged after a total of two weeks at the hospital and immediately entered a behavioral clinic for 10 days. Multiple counseling sessions later and he's still not who he was two years ago, but he's still here and breathing. In his case, every day above ground is a victory and I am eternally grateful for it. He still has issues with leaking cerebrospinal fluid from the nose and needs at least two surgeries in the next few months. One day at a time.

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Your son has a guardian angel looking over him.

Prayers for his continued recovery.