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Posted on 2/14/23 at 1:23 pm to 94rebel
Marriage #2 for both of us and it is great. One "rule" we have is someone doesn't always have to be right.
Posted on 2/14/23 at 1:27 pm to 94rebel
Married 31 years in January — some days I may or may not want to choke him and I know some days he may want to choke me.
That said, I sure would miss him if anything happened to him to take him away.
So yes. Worth everything.
That said, I sure would miss him if anything happened to him to take him away.
So yes. Worth everything.
Posted on 2/14/23 at 1:29 pm to Upperdecker
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If he knew stocks at all he’d be embarrassed about calling it that
lol
Posted on 2/14/23 at 1:29 pm to midlothianlsu
29 years for me and the wife. She gets better looking every day. Don't know how but she does. Kids are just about out of college. Some years were difficult, but she is my best friend in life.
Posted on 2/14/23 at 1:33 pm to 94rebel
Happily divorced but I would absolutely marry again one day. No rush though….I never want to go through a divorce again.
If your spouse cheats on you….just leave. Total waste of time if you try and stay to make it work. Once a cheater always a cheater and they have already shown they don’t give a shite about you so no reason to give them a second chance.
If you are that unhappy that you are considering cheating…,just leave. Don’t be that person who cheats, you are better than that (hopefully).
If your spouse cheats on you….just leave. Total waste of time if you try and stay to make it work. Once a cheater always a cheater and they have already shown they don’t give a shite about you so no reason to give them a second chance.
If you are that unhappy that you are considering cheating…,just leave. Don’t be that person who cheats, you are better than that (hopefully).
Posted on 2/14/23 at 2:14 pm to 94rebel
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For those who are married, are you happily married?
Extremely.
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Or do you regret it?
Quite the opposite, I wish the wife and I had been ready and met far earlier so we could have already had more time together.
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Would you still recommend marriage? I’ve seen so many terrible marriages that it has given me a very bleak outlook on the future of marriage in general.
It depends on the people involved. Not everyone is built for marriage. When most say this, they are thinking about others, not themselves. If someone is having a problem having stable, healthy relationships they first need to be honest with themselves about what faults they have had in those failures. They can (and should) make note of what their partner failed at, but their focus should be on addressing their own shortcomings (even if it's being attracted to people who are bad for them) and fixing those (ESPECIALLY if it's being attracted to people who are bad for them), leaving the faults of their former partners for those former partners to work on (if they choose).
If one or both parties aren't willing to work to put themselves into a position where their priority becomes the well-being of the other and the relationship, the marriage is likely going to fail.
A good marriage is built on honesty, respect and communication and these three things require constant maintenance. There's not even a consideration of lying, cheating nor stealing from one another. Both people considering going into a marriage have to be willing to give up part of who they are as individuals in exchange for whom they will be as part of a team (because that's part of what a marriage is, a team of two against the rest of the world).
This isn't something mystical which happens the first time you see each other across a crowded room, it's something you both grow into as your relationship prior to marriage grows, meaning marriage is just the natural outgrowth of your being a couple.
If both members of the couple aren't both trusting and trustworthy, I don't recommend marriage. If they are, however, it's an amazing thing.
Posted on 2/14/23 at 2:40 pm to 94rebel
I'm happily married. Going on 7 years this year. I would recommend it for those who are willing to buy into the whole idea of it. It's a partnership, a lifelong commitment, etc. But it's easy to do when your spouse is "your person." She's someone I love, admire, and respect and aspire to be as good as.
Posted on 2/14/23 at 2:53 pm to 94rebel
I hit the jackpot the second time around with marriage.
Her father is the alpha and her mother is the dutiful wife.
My wife is just like her mom.
I feel blessed on so many levels as I read the stories of so many of the sad situations on the rant and their stories of chronic meat beating and bitterness towards their spouse or ex.
I will add that I know what I have and I treat her as my equal in every aspect of our lives. I just see so many self-centered people and I feel lucky to have her.
Her father is the alpha and her mother is the dutiful wife.
My wife is just like her mom.
I feel blessed on so many levels as I read the stories of so many of the sad situations on the rant and their stories of chronic meat beating and bitterness towards their spouse or ex.
I will add that I know what I have and I treat her as my equal in every aspect of our lives. I just see so many self-centered people and I feel lucky to have her.
This post was edited on 2/14/23 at 3:06 pm
Posted on 2/14/23 at 2:54 pm to 94rebel
I’ve been married 32 years and it’s been a positive. The reason 50% of marriages fail is it only takes one of the two of you to be selfish. If you know you are selfish, or your potential spouse is, then it’s a waste of time.
Posted on 2/14/23 at 2:58 pm to SpencerRob
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The reason 50% of marriages fail is it only takes one of the two of you to be selfish. If you know you are selfish, or your potential spouse is
Yes
Posted on 2/14/23 at 3:02 pm to lsunurse
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Once a cheater always a cheater and they have already shown they don’t give a shite about you so no reason to give them a second chance. If you are that unhappy that you are considering cheating…,just leave. Don’t be that person who cheats, you are better than that (hopefully).
On the surface, I know this is mostly true (as I was an immature dog in my youth)
But, I found an amazing person and grew up.
People can change
Posted on 2/14/23 at 3:04 pm to MrJimBeam
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If you marry the right person, it's fantastic. If you don't, it's hell.
Well said
Posted on 2/14/23 at 3:33 pm to 94rebel
I am, I’d say she is 1/2 the time & she is today so I’m good.
Posted on 2/14/23 at 3:41 pm to 94rebel
at 38 and single with a few opportunities in the past to take that plunge it feels less and less likely for me personally. Getting laid is never an issue in the app age (for better or worse). I can live on the road working remote and climb/ski/surf where good seasonal weather is. I have made a network of nomadic friends who likely won't get married or have kids so the community and socialization aspects feel fulfilled. My body, finances, and mental health are stronger than ever. I can retire comfortably by 45-50 at this rate as well. I don't see any reason to throw a wrench into any of that. Also seeing first round and even second round of divorces for some people is heartbreaking.
This post was edited on 2/14/23 at 3:43 pm
Posted on 2/14/23 at 3:44 pm to 94rebel
I been married 40 years in September. Happy is what we've accomplished, our kids, our grandkids. As far as our marriage, they become part of you, when one is happy, the other is happy. when one is sad , the other is as well. I couldn't have done any of it without her and if she wasn't here, I wouldn't want to be here either.
Posted on 2/14/23 at 3:48 pm to Armymann50
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Don't stop at just one. Keep it up until you find the right one.
or maybe have the foresight to not do the same thing over and over marrying the wrong person
Posted on 2/14/23 at 3:54 pm to 94rebel
Be 40 years for the wife and I this year. Hasn't always been easy but definitely worth it. We are closer now than we ever have been. Someone already mentioned it, but you have to work at. You cant be selfish. Communication is the Key.
Posted on 2/14/23 at 3:56 pm to HippieTiger
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maybe have the foresight to not do the same thing over and over marrying the wrong person
He’s already admitted on here he’s cheated before in his marriages and doesn’t seem to think that’s bad behavior
This post was edited on 2/14/23 at 3:57 pm
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