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re: So my fiancee is being harassed at work. What do you do?
Posted on 12/14/17 at 7:15 am to YoungManOldMan
Posted on 12/14/17 at 7:15 am to YoungManOldMan
she needs to toughen up. can't expect everybody to like you. all they are hurting are feelings.
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Posted on 12/14/17 at 7:26 am to YoungManOldMan
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So my fiancee is being harassed at work. What do you do?
Apparently some of those folks are referring to her as a derogatory name in group texts on a work phone.
As I said in another thread, grow some thick skin. Stop crying or get a different job.
You are in for a shitty married life if it is starting out like this.
Posted on 12/14/17 at 7:31 am to OweO
1. hr or supervisor or union steward, depending on organization.
2. If you share the word or phrase we could fine tune our response.
Definitely do not be the person who asks her to reflect on why this is happening if you ever want sex again with her.
2. If you share the word or phrase we could fine tune our response.
Definitely do not be the person who asks her to reflect on why this is happening if you ever want sex again with her.
Posted on 12/14/17 at 7:52 am to SEClint
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Use your fists, why use a weapon and get aggravated assault.
Does the OP really strike you as someone who can handle business with just their fists?
Posted on 12/14/17 at 7:54 am to Boudreaux35
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Apparently some of those folks are referring to her as a derogatory name in group texts
I just can't over how pathetic and childish this whole situation is.
Posted on 12/14/17 at 8:01 am to YoungManOldMan
I would do nothing at all but I would keep all evidence for future use with supervisor. If it continues to happen repeatedly then I would present the evidence. In the meantime, Tell her to be nice to the perp and these comments will disappear. BTW, is your fiancé a snowflake?
Posted on 12/14/17 at 8:24 am to YoungManOldMan
A couple of good pieces of advice in the thread, surprisingly. The best is to wear something with a T-Rex on it or have a bag or something like that. It turns it into a joke and it lets the offender know you know without making a big deal about it. The more she doesn’t react once they know she knows, the quicker this will go away.
Also- Hospital folks are a tough crowd. They are tough and hard on the outside. But under that hard exterior is a whole lot of crazy for some of them. What I’m about to say may sound (and could be) sexist but I think it is also the truth. Hospitals are female dominated workplaces, as far as the staff goes. Doctors are a different group and aren’t part of the “regular” staff that’s always working together. All those women working together make for some drama filled environments. Unfortunately the men working there get sucked into it as well (or are the type of guy who naturally feeds into it). So the best advice I can give your fiancée is that she needs to learn how to live with a tough environment. The best way to do that is to develop coping and interpersonal skills to be able to breeze past situations like these.
And to your original question- what do you do? Nothing. You listen to her and maybe suggest turning the situation around by wearing a t-Rex shirt or hot or something. Other jab that, you keep your mouth shut and listen and nod. Maybe hug her and tell her you’re sorry she is experiencing this. Anything more and you are setting yourself up for a world of hurt.
Also- Hospital folks are a tough crowd. They are tough and hard on the outside. But under that hard exterior is a whole lot of crazy for some of them. What I’m about to say may sound (and could be) sexist but I think it is also the truth. Hospitals are female dominated workplaces, as far as the staff goes. Doctors are a different group and aren’t part of the “regular” staff that’s always working together. All those women working together make for some drama filled environments. Unfortunately the men working there get sucked into it as well (or are the type of guy who naturally feeds into it). So the best advice I can give your fiancée is that she needs to learn how to live with a tough environment. The best way to do that is to develop coping and interpersonal skills to be able to breeze past situations like these.
And to your original question- what do you do? Nothing. You listen to her and maybe suggest turning the situation around by wearing a t-Rex shirt or hot or something. Other jab that, you keep your mouth shut and listen and nod. Maybe hug her and tell her you’re sorry she is experiencing this. Anything more and you are setting yourself up for a world of hurt.
Posted on 12/14/17 at 8:27 am to BR Tiger
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wearing a t-Rex shirt
Why do you keep suggesting this bizarre behavior?
Posted on 12/14/17 at 8:35 am to YoungManOldMan
It doesn't matter if she is new. One of the roles of the supervisor is to promote a non-hostile work environment for their employees. Tell her if she isn't comfortable with going to her supervisor, to go to her department's human resources, and they will investigate it.
This post was edited on 12/14/17 at 8:40 am
Posted on 12/14/17 at 8:37 am to YoungManOldMan
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Apparently some of those folks are referring to her as a derogatory name in group texts on a work phone.
DOES NOT EQUAL
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fiancee is being harassed at work
Posted on 12/14/17 at 8:39 am to VanCleef
We don't know your fiance we don't know the employees we don't know what was said we don't know anything.
On the surface it sounds like you have scuse me she has a bad working culture.
I've been in these situations before where you feel like you're an outsider and everybody's talking about you and so it's not going to end well so just tell her to get out of there but that's going to have to be her conviction not yours
On the surface it sounds like you have scuse me she has a bad working culture.
I've been in these situations before where you feel like you're an outsider and everybody's talking about you and so it's not going to end well so just tell her to get out of there but that's going to have to be her conviction not yours
Posted on 12/14/17 at 8:42 am to YoungManOldMan
Tell her to get the frick over it and handle her shite. Just yesterday I was called a suckass, an a-hole, a dumbass, and a dickhead. You wanna REALLY get fricked with? Go complain to HR about people saying mean things about you. Everybody will know who called, and everybody will legitimately hate her instead of just talking a little shite about her behind her back.
You don’t sound particularly motivated to go whip anybody’s arse. Post a picture of your wife and your knuckles.
You don’t sound particularly motivated to go whip anybody’s arse. Post a picture of your wife and your knuckles.
This post was edited on 12/14/17 at 8:47 am
Posted on 12/14/17 at 8:47 am to Thib-a-doe Tiger
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Or tuck her arms in her shirt a bit and roar at them
Posted on 12/14/17 at 9:00 am to jchamil
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Or tuck her arms in her shirt a bit and roar at them
Some A-Grade advice in this thread.
Posted on 12/14/17 at 9:06 am to DownshiftAndFloorIt
Acceptable work environments/ cultures vary greatly depending on the job. When I was in the Army (combat arms mos- all male unit) the shite talking is tolerated.
The rules are different in a civilian, professional mixed gender/ race/ religion, (etc.) jobs.
The rules are different in a civilian, professional mixed gender/ race/ religion, (etc.) jobs.
This post was edited on 12/14/17 at 9:15 am
Posted on 12/14/17 at 9:19 am to Thib-a-doe Tiger
Yea, definitely do that
If she’s legitimately bothered by shite like that, take your ring back and run for your life.
If she’s legitimately bothered by shite like that, take your ring back and run for your life.
Posted on 12/14/17 at 9:24 am to YoungManOldMan
Posted on 12/14/17 at 9:29 am to DthVllyDud
Honestly, the person who showed her the text is the one who needs their arse beat.
Snitches get stitches.
Also, who gives a shite what people are saying about you in a fricking text to other people?
Snitches get stitches.
Also, who gives a shite what people are saying about you in a fricking text to other people?
Posted on 12/14/17 at 9:33 am to ApexTiger
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I've been in these situations before where you feel like you're an outsider and everybody's talking about you and so it's not going to end well so just tell her to get out of there but that's going to have to be her conviction not yours
She feels like she doesn't fit in. I told her you can't run from a job because two or three assholes work there.
It doesn't help these people at hospitals act like complete bitches. There can't me a more immature work force.
Posted on 12/14/17 at 9:39 am to YoungManOldMan
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There can’t be a more immature work
force
Go work as a hand for an industrial contractor for a month and report back.
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