re: Single folks: how are you content being alone?

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content being alone

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Loneliness during singlehood is natural. Phrasing it as "I am lonely" impacts your soul differently. A feeling of loneliness is fleeting, while the latter is your identity. Thinking this way attracts self-blame and fear. Being alone is not being lonely.

Stop waiting for love and live your best life now.

Love makes you feel accepted and whole but can often drive the disconnect with yourself further, which fortifies the relationship craving. However, you must look inside instead of searching for the fix in other people.

Remember a hobby you abandoned? What did you enjoy before routine got in the way? Returning to an overlooked passion can help you channel the time when you liked yourself and reestablish the connection with yourself. Liking yourself again will feed your spirit and lift your self-esteem. While it's not a straightforward journey, such activities ensure you pay attention to your soul and find happiness within.

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Millions of thoughts run through your mind daily. One triggers another, often pulling you into a vortex. In the face of constant rumination, detaching provides a much-needed break.

Create distance from your thoughts and meditate to connect with your inner self.

Surrounding yourself with kind people affects your mind. So, cherish your connections and be open to new ones.

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That’s why I sometimes think it would be easier if I just took matters into my own hands and ended things.

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No, this is not the answer. I can tell you that much.

Start practicing gratitude. 3 things per day you're grateful for and one thing you like about yourself.

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by Will Cove

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Has given some of the best advice in every one of your threads.

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Will Cove

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Has given some of the best advice in every one of your threads.

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Thank you. I've messed up plenty in my life, which is why I am able to offer advice to be able to help others.

When you're inside the frame, it's hard to see the big picture. There's a purpose in waiting. It is my hope that he will find out the meaning of this in time.

Give it time. In one year look back and ask yourself if you'd trade places with yourself. Chances are the answer is no, and you'll see the progress you've made a be proud.

Baby steps.

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Yeeeeeah. Some women will claim they like guys like this, but it's a boner killer for most of us. Sorry.

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So true. Don’t be too available too soon. Contact more than once or twice a week in the beginning is too much. Increased openness and communication should progress slowly and naturally based on any connection.

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I appreciate your posts more than you know. I’m very grateful for your encouragement. I’m sorry I call on folks like you so often. Hopefully, I can get to your level in time. I suppose I’m not a patient person in this situation.

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always glad to listen, and help.

I had a counselor tell me once, "WC, do you know what the word patience means?" I gave what I thought was the correct answer, and they said, "You're going to find out exactly what it means." They were right.

I later learned that patience is not the ability to wait but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.

Part of learning to be patient is learning the art of listening. Impatient people are bad listeners; they are so eager for their turn to talk that they neglect to truly tune in to what the other person is saying. If there is one area of growth that I am most proud of, it is my ability to listen today. I like to think that patience today is my superpower.

Eventually you meet someone who makes you never want to be in another relationship ever again.

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Give it time. In one year look back and ask yourself if you'd trade places with yourself. Chances are the answer is no, and you'll see the progress you've made a be proud. Baby steps.

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is that how TheBoo was able to transition back so quick?

You’re a simp

You can be that way and ultimately find a long term relationship, but it’ll fail. Bitches don’t like being with simps. They’ll only love you if they can respect you

You can either change, or roll with it, but plan for lots of failure.