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Religion and Relationships
Posted on 3/8/18 at 11:33 pm
Posted on 3/8/18 at 11:33 pm
Not trying to have a religious debate. Simply how much value do you place in another persons religion or beliefs compared to your own when determining compatiability? Also not talking about just getting laid obviously, I’m talking relationship and possible marriage or input from people who are married. Is it a deal breaker if someone doesn’t agree with you, does it bother you but can be out weighed by other things or do you simply not care?
Personally, I don’t care because I’m not very religious, but I’m curious as to what others think.
Personally, I don’t care because I’m not very religious, but I’m curious as to what others think.
This post was edited on 3/8/18 at 11:34 pm
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Posted on 3/8/18 at 11:34 pm to TigernMS12
I rather they come faith free.
Religion, what a waste.
Religion, what a waste.
Posted on 3/8/18 at 11:35 pm to TigernMS12
Catholic girls are fun
Posted on 3/8/18 at 11:36 pm to TigernMS12
Not religious, but I wouldn’t really care if she was as long as didn’t talk about it much. Would prefer not religious though.
Posted on 3/8/18 at 11:41 pm to TigernMS12
Dated a Muslim girl. Blew up in my face.
My parents are Hindu, but they don't really practice. I'm not religious. I find that religion for a lot of girls means social functions. I think that if I marry, I'm going to have to adapt to whatever religion that girl follows.
Except Islam.
My parents are Hindu, but they don't really practice. I'm not religious. I find that religion for a lot of girls means social functions. I think that if I marry, I'm going to have to adapt to whatever religion that girl follows.
Except Islam.
Posted on 3/8/18 at 11:42 pm to TigernMS12
Things are much more likely to work out if you see eye to eye religiously.
Posted on 3/8/18 at 11:43 pm to TigernMS12
I’d like to say I’m religious. My wife is not. I struggle with the unspoken friction and her lack of faith sometimes makes me lazy of my own faith. I realize we aren’t the first couple to go through this and it doesn’t jeapordize our marriage.
Posted on 3/8/18 at 11:43 pm to TheIndulger
As I said I’m not very religious, but I’m married to someone who is a Christian. With that said, she’s not a Bible thumper or someone who goes to church often. It’s never been an issue with us until we started talking about having children. It’s still not like divorce territory or even really fighting (as I said, she’s not some die hard if you don’t believe what she believes you’re a POS type). It’s just the first time our difference has mattered or caused friction.
I guess because of the fact that I’m not religious it really doesn’t matter to me, it it does to her apparently in some sense. I’m the type where I want my kids to be individuals and would support whatever they believe, but I’m not wanting to steer them in anyone direction. I want them to make their own mind up and be confident in themselves and their own beliefs for their own reasons, not because mom or dad said so.
I guess because of the fact that I’m not religious it really doesn’t matter to me, it it does to her apparently in some sense. I’m the type where I want my kids to be individuals and would support whatever they believe, but I’m not wanting to steer them in anyone direction. I want them to make their own mind up and be confident in themselves and their own beliefs for their own reasons, not because mom or dad said so.
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Posted on 3/8/18 at 11:47 pm to TigernMS12
Should be considered a deal breaker if the differences are significant. I've seen it been worked through but not the norm.
Posted on 3/8/18 at 11:47 pm to TigernMS12
As a Christian, it is fundamentally at the center of what I believe and value. It’s one of the most important aspects of a relationship.
Posted on 3/8/18 at 11:50 pm to TigernMS12
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I guess because of the fact that I’m not religious it really doesn’t matter to me, it it does to her apparently in some sense. I’m the type where I want my kids to be individuals and would support whatever they believe, but I’m not wanting to steer them in anyone direction. I want them to make their own mind up and be confident in themselves and their own beliefs for their own reasons, not because mom or dad said so.
I understand this but I don’t see the harm in your wife wanting to instill some Christian values in your kid. Whatever direction you steer your kid, they’ll end up doing their own thing when they grow older.
Posted on 3/8/18 at 11:50 pm to lynxcat
That’s what I’m beginning to understand. I guess that to people who are very religious it is a deal breaker but those who aren’t it’s just not a big deal. Thing is, it’s never been a big deal and I wouldn’t consider my wife very religious. We’ve been together for 8 years, married for 4 and it’s not until we started talking about kids that it’s even really come up.
Posted on 3/8/18 at 11:54 pm to 13SaintTiger
For the record, I’m all for Christian values and my kids going to church. No harm can come from it, only good. The issue is she’s asking me what am I going to say if they ask what I believe. I have said I would say that some people believe this and some believe that, rather than just saying only the Christian view is correct. I want my kids to questions life and everything about it, not just dismiss things because it’s not what was told to them by mom or dad.
Posted on 3/9/18 at 12:00 am to TigernMS12
I'm not religious, so I don't care. As long as someone doesn't worship Satan, I don't care what their beliefs are.
Posted on 3/9/18 at 12:12 am to TigernMS12
About the age my kids realized Santa Clause and Easter Bunny wasn't real, they also lumped the American God they hear about into the mix. Who am I to lead them to believe otherwise when the stories are all pretty much the same?
More power to you if you flex your belief onto innocent minds... umm like brainwashing. But I say let them decide on their own as their brains become capable of wrapping around the whole thing.
As for my wife? She's a grown woman and can believe in whatever the hell she wants. I give no care and she must not have either because been married 22 years.
More power to you if you flex your belief onto innocent minds... umm like brainwashing. But I say let them decide on their own as their brains become capable of wrapping around the whole thing.
As for my wife? She's a grown woman and can believe in whatever the hell she wants. I give no care and she must not have either because been married 22 years.
Posted on 3/9/18 at 12:18 am to TigernMS12
It's probably going to cause trouble in parenting style. Religion/faith is a serious thing for those that have it. Hard to live with someone, if your view is they are damned to hell. Same goes with children...hard to raise children with a partner that's not on board, or undermining the passing of values/faith.
Plain and simple, if you're not very religious... which really means you haven't taken the next step to being officially atheist (because it's probably a cultural thing to you), you should stick with someone like minded if at all possible. Too much craziness will likely come out of a mixed marriage.
Plain and simple, if you're not very religious... which really means you haven't taken the next step to being officially atheist (because it's probably a cultural thing to you), you should stick with someone like minded if at all possible. Too much craziness will likely come out of a mixed marriage.
Posted on 3/9/18 at 12:19 am to YatInTheHat
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More power to you if you flex your belief onto innocent minds... umm like brainwashing
You're so hip and cool. Heck yeah, you're bucking the establishment. So edgy.
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Posted on 3/9/18 at 12:21 am to YatInTheHat
Religion is a bunch of "rules"
Relationship with Christ is what's important.
Relationship with Christ is what's important.
Posted on 3/9/18 at 12:26 am to Jackalope
I could marry a jew or Christian. I couldn't marry someone that is overly religious though. I don't think I'd do well with a Bible thumping southern Baptist.
Posted on 3/9/18 at 1:14 am to TigernMS12
Opposites on this have always been a disaster for me, and it's always been me not caring what they believe with them damn sure caring about what I believe.
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