re: Relationship Advice. Girl problems brah.

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I literally give her the world.

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No you don't.

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Well put, sherman

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I have some experience with this. A couple we were very close to 10 years ago had fidelity issues. My wife and I got dragged into it (That sucked). I remember telling the wife. "If you want this to work eventually you have to bury this thing and move on. If you can't, that's ok because it is hard. If you decide to go forward you have to let it go eventually". She agreed but never did. They eventually divorced. They both messed up. Him by fricking another woman. Her by never forgiving him and staying in the marriage.

I am pretty sure I would bail if I found my wife cheated on me and I would expect she to do the same. But if I did try to work through it, I would have to bury it. Harboring resentment and distrust is poison.

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Trust is hard to win back. If y'all have trust issues marriage does not sound like a good idea.

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This. And you can't make someone trust you. You earn it....and sometimes you can still do all the right things and it's never earned back.


Might be best to move on to another relationship where there is trust.

She's just not that into you, dude.

Nurse is probably right

Been there where i was the one that messed up trust. It will always cause heartache. Something that i dont think i will ever fully get over

#beta. #dontcare

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Be an open book. Share an email account, Facebook, whatever. Give her complete access to your cell phone, computer, etc. Don't do anything that would even so much as suggest an indescretion your part. Consider initiating counseling (singles or couples depending on the issue) to show your seriousness. Eventually she'll get over it or she won't. Advice from my own past.

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Ahem. I brought it up.

Don't clown me when I put my heart out there.

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If it's been a while and she still doesn't trust you... you might have permanently fricked it up back in the day and have no shot of ever fixing it.

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This.

I laugh when I hear guys say stuff like "I did some shite when we first got together BUT I'M 100% FAITHFUL NOW" and act like it's crazy when the girl has trust issues.

Women have loooooong memories -- they're not toddlers, you can't just jingle keys in front of them and suddenly everything's okay and they forget what they're pissed off about.